whats a good bedtime on school nights for teens


Dianne - posted on 09/06/2012




My 13yr old goes to her room at 8h30 to read and by 9pm the lights must be turned off. I give or take 10/15mins depending on her engrossment in her book :)

I think 9h30 / 10pm for older teens is a good time - they need at least 8hrs of sleep to function properly the next day.....

Kristi - posted on 09/06/2012




I think each child is different and bed times should be adjusted accordingly. Obviously, they need plenty of rest but some might not need as much and others may need more. I remember I always had to go to bed at 9:30pm, sometimes 10. But if I started being crabby and/or over sleeping, it was back to 9pm for me.

I have learned with my daughter that she doesn't require as much sleep as the "average" teen. (average being described in books as the suggested amount for most kids/people) I used to force her to go to bed at 8 when she was around 7 and she got to stay up a little later as she got older. She would just go lay awake and be restless so she didn't get a good sleep then either. I started giving her more leaway to see what would work best for her. She just turned 13 and her bedtime is 10pm. She can keep this bedtime as long as she gets up well in the mornings, keeps good grades, and continues to participate in sports. (any after school activity would be fine, she just likes sports) Once in awhile she'll ask to stay up later and I tell her she knows the rules. Sometimes she goes to bed early and reads.

Now, my stepson was a completely different beast all together! : ) He needed more rest than my daughter did. If he didn't go to bed by 8:30-9:00...forget it. Talk about a difficult time in the morning! He would whine and complain and fall back asleep. I had to yell and shake him to get him up if he stayed up past his bedtime. lol

IMO, 10pm seems reasonable as a general rule of thumb. Another "rule" we had when the kids had strict bedtimes was that they didn't have to go to sleep, but they did have to go to bed. They could read or listen to music quietly. (not metal or anything) That seemed to be effective and empowering for them. We can't force them to sleep anyways, this way they feel like they have more control. That was when they were younger, though. I can't say how well that would work for a teen. We also did that because we needed our own time to enjoy adult conversation and grown-up tv or whatever.

Good luck to you! Sweet dreams for all! ; )


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/11/2013




Between 9 & 10:30 depending on age.

Jessica, you keep asking who else forces their kids to adhere to bedtimes more appropriate for young children. Not many do. Most of us set a guideline time, and expect our kids to be responsible for themselves

Jessica - posted on 04/11/2013




My girls (16 and 20 yrs) still go to bed at 7 pm because they have to do physio therapy. Who else has an early bedtima for their teens?

Jodee - posted on 09/06/2012




My 18 year old was in bed by 10 and that worked for us. My almost 13 year old 7th grader is in bed by 9 most nights. She has to be up by 6:30 to catch the bus and yesterday she actually took a 2 hour nap after school and was STILL in bed by 9:30. Granted she is probably not the "normal" child to go by. She still NEEDS a nap most days! :-/

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