whats wrong with him

Heidi - posted on 02/25/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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i have had trouble with my son since he was little, he is now 17... he has never had a true friend,maybe a friend who is an adult but his own age group he doesn't seem to be able to keep, struggled through school, ( ending in rubbish grades ) he cant concerntrate, cant time keep, cant act like an adult, (or almost !)!... he forgets everything, brakes anything he layes his hands on, spends lots of time on his own,......... im still having to get him up in the morning for work, make his lunch etc or he would never remember.... he lacks in interest about everything, he has a half brother who is a total low life and im wondering if the genes are carried from his father...yet he died 8 yrs ago so i cant ask him..( not that he would of even told me anything) my son btw never had any dealings with his father anyway..but i just see my son turning the same way his half brother is...i dont know what to do with him, or if he has a problem medically........... please dont think this is a teen problem as hes been like it since the age of about 5..... i have lived with this for years but maybe there is an underling problem ..if so where would i begin...who can help...im beginning to think he is a lost cause ??.. and its upsetting me a lot

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Kristi - posted on 02/27/2013

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...im beginning to think he is a lost cause ??

That's what made me think you might be ready to throw in the towel. I hope you are able to find him the help he needs.

Heidi - posted on 02/26/2013

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i would never ever give up....even if i felt that way, i hope i didnt come across that way

Kristi - posted on 02/26/2013

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IMO, he needs psychological help right away. Comments such as, I might as well be dead and you wouldn't care if I was, are definitely cries for help. He may feel abandon by his father, it's hard to say.

He won't start taking responsibilty for himself as long as you're doing it for him, either. He may need to sink or swim but I would talk to a mental health professional for advice before I took any action.

Most importantly, you don't give up on your child.

Heidi - posted on 02/26/2013

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he had all sorts of counciling at school, anger management, groups to help build his self esteem and at one point a one to one befriender, he had lots of help while school age, never had him checked for anything through the doctors but starting to wonder if i should of done.. i thought maybe it would be much better once he had left school but hes still got this ( i dont care attitude) and never has anything positive to say, he has even at times told me things like" oh well i might as well just be dead", and then says i wouldnt care if he was???... i mean what type of child / young man says things like that??.. he cannot organise even the simplest of tasks like setting an alarm to wake him up, it would go off an hour early, and the only person it will wake up is ME he would sleep through it, .. he has no interests, no friends, nothing that i can put my finger on...oh his phone ! lol... thats when he has one thats not broken, he has a habbit of breaking anything he owns...latest breakage is htc sensation ( like a really expensive item ) which he bought himself as he does work... he has a good job but thats another thing, i feel like if it wasnt for me then he would have it... i make sure every morning i am up to get him up, but hes often late... oh i could go on forever but im just going to bore you all to death so ill shut up ! lol

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