3 kids....2 are gifted, 1 is not.

Rhonda - posted on 02/12/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have three kids: 16, 13, and 10. My 13 year old daughter and 10 year old son are both identified as gifted, by the oldest boy has struggled through school his whole life. The responsiblility of the gifted ones have been challenging, but keeping my average child's self-esteem and educational confidence in tact has been the hardest thing. The crazy thing is that the "average" kid is the most well-rounded of the three. The other two excel in their perspective niches, but fall short in some fundamental areas like social environemts, maintaining friendships and dealing with disappointment. Does anyone else have this problem?


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Kelli - posted on 02/17/2010




I might have the same issue as you do. I have 2 boys who are gifted and my youngest, a daughter - 3 yo - is sharp but doesn't appear to be academically gifted. (We'll see!) She is so different from her brothers in many aspects, but seems to be the most well-rounded of the bunch, too. I guess I have always just celebrated who each child is and it hasn't been much of a problem, although I can see where it may be when they get to the age your children are now.

Laura - posted on 02/16/2010




I have two very gifted children as well. I feel so fortunate. I know that assisting the third child with recognizing their gift as special and different are of utmost importance. Every child whether labeled gifted or not has wonderful gifts to share. Help your child identify a couple special gifts and honestly recognize those as such. Some children for example have the gift of volunteerism, not socially recognized, but often more important than being academically gifted. Good Luck!

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