Obsessive Fears

Rachael - posted on 05/31/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter tends to be obsessive about her interests. I know that's normal, especially for a gifted child. But recently she has become similarly obsessed with what used to be minor fears (the dark, the basement, loud noises...) Up until about three months ago, she would be slightly nervous entering a dark room or our basement alone and disliked loud noises. Now she cries and freezes when asked to enter her own room after dark without company. She will wet her pants rather than use the bathroom in the basement. She obsesses about every single noise she hears until I identify it as harmless (In a confident manner with a reasonable explanation). We live in a big city. Sometimes there are noises. Sometimes they are so slight, I have to work to hear them. I am incredibly frustrated. These fears only seem to manifest at home or at school. She isn't afraid of new places or scary pictures.

She has also become incredibly clingy. She has always been extremely independent. Now she freaks out if I get out of the car to pump gas.


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Erin - posted on 06/07/2010




we have enjoyed the intalation of a sky chair , put it right into the roof beam and it is soothing as it rocks, also a good leather recliner, soft blankets, rough feeling lighter blankets, music of everykind the nighty night dvd and cd, great music by the composers, back....ect star projectors, and an mp3 player with light comedy for kids and a few shows on it including lots of good sleepy and older music to fall asleep to... love that it has a timmer and I can gently unplug from ears at night, some hook over the ear and some go in the ear each of the kids like a diffirent kind and big lots sell many for less that 9 or 12 a pair that have worked just fine... good luck fining a before bed time routine that promoted getting ready for bed. we pick out tomarrows clothes, set up a shelf for bags for tomarrow, write on the board what, when and where we are going, brush teeth and then we can go to be if we want to or read, listen to music, sometimes no sleep is accomplished some times just 5 hours...falling asleep should be a safe time though full of love and understanding...they all learn differently.

Lori - posted on 06/06/2010




I feel your pain and concern - I have twin girls who are 9 - one has multiple disabilities and I think sometimes this is the basis of the other ones fears - she is TERRIFIED of thunderstorms, she is obsessed with expiration dates of food and has a terrible and I mean terrible time going to sleep unless she is in my bed - I would love some solutions. Any one consider anti anxiety pills? Our thereapist suggested Celexa -

Heather - posted on 06/04/2010




My son is the same way. In the reading I have done and the talking with therapists, this is common for highly intelligent children. They have so much going on in their heads and cannot tune it out or filter it. Anxiety is prevalent as is intesity.

Rachael - posted on 06/02/2010




You know it could be her sensing stress. A friend of mine is very ill. My daughter doesn't know her, but she is likely picking up on Mommy being more sad/preoccupied. Thanks.

Laura - posted on 06/01/2010




My son complains about boredom too and does not like to be alone, but his isn't fear. He just wants attention. Rachael, did something change in the last couple of months that you could pinpoint to it causing her some anxiety. how old is she? gifted kids are extremely sensative to things and even though very smart are not exactly "Emotionally" smart and unable to tell you what is bothering them. My gifted, just before he turned 5, went on a 40 hour hunger strike. He did not want to move from CA to KS. Once the move happened and we got on a schedule he was fine. He could not tell us why he was upset, but acted out instead. he still does.

Missy - posted on 06/01/2010




My son is much the same - perhaps not to the same extreme, but I'm about to lose it with the clinging. He refuses to be on a different floor than the rest of the family. He doesn't want to be in his room upstairs or in the TV room downstairs (we live in a townhouse) without company. So he walks around the kitchen complaining about boredom, but won't do anything about it because he's scared. I wish I had some advice, but unfortunately I only have commiseration.

We HAVE had some success with giving him a flashlight to accompany him up and downstairs. It works much of the time.

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