Blowing off Dr's suggestion wrong?

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My husband's family plans a "family get-together" every year at the outer banks and this year it happens to fall during my 35th wk of pregnancy. Dr says not a good idea to make the 6hr drive that close to my last month, but hubby says we need to make the trip regardless because after all we've already paid our portion and it was planned before we got pregnant. There is a hospital out it wrong to go anyway, even if dr says it's not a good idea?


Megan - posted on 03/28/2010




If you do decide to go just make sure that you are getting out of the car and walking ever hour or two cause when you are pregnant your risk of blood clots are higher that is probably the reason your doc doesnt want you to go.


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Brenda - posted on 04/22/2010




You'll be fine. Make sure to take a break from the car every few hours and walk around. Have Fun!

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I am one of those that doesn't listen to the dr about a lot of things lol...I would say that you are probably going to be ok for the drive...but don't be surprised if you end up going into labor while there. Just make sure you stay hydrated on the ride, make numerous stops to go to the bathroom (you will probably have to anyway lol). Make sure you have plenty of snacks & things to eat or that you stop to get food along the way (and again, i'm sure you will) But I think you will be fine for the ride there. Just be careful...if there are any bumpy roads or anything, it could put you into labor. Just take precautions and I'm sure you'll be fine hun. Best of Luck & enjoy your trip!

Kristin - posted on 04/09/2010




This may sound awful, but what if he goes without you? I don't know about you, but I really would prefer to have the doctor I've been seeing be the one to deliver.

If you do decide to go ahead with the trip, for whatever reason, get your records, plan to make that a really long drive with lots of stops to walk around for at least 10 minutes, get some compression sock/stockings/pantyhose (and wear them), drink lots of water, get maps to hospitals along the way, check your cell service, and be sure you really need to be there. It's only money and your family will understand your not wanting to travel just now.

Good luck.

Lorraine - posted on 04/08/2010




Well so far are you having a normal pregnancy? In the end you might be okay in the end, but just make sure that you take precautions. If it 's a 6 hour drive take like 8 hours to get there cause blood clots is a major thing you don't want in the middle of nowhere. Make sure you check if you have cell phone reception all the way and try to find all the hospitals in the area of the 6 hour drive. Personally, i would rather be super sure of how I'm getting some place then something going wrong. Oh and back extra comfort things like pillows, water, food, etc. Just be careful!

Jenna - posted on 04/05/2010




It's up to you, but obviously if the doctor has real concerns, such as your weight or blood pressure, then you should reconsider. Aks your doctor exaclty why they are against you going on the trip. It is an awful long trip at the end of your pregnancy and just so you know - rough roads and long driving trips can set off labor!! lol good luck!

Andrea - posted on 03/28/2010




I personally wouldn't go but that is because I don't seem to handle driving well when I am pregnant and a 3 hour trip started my labor with my son (I had him the next day - at 38 weeks). If you have or want to go I would say just make sure you know where the hospital is and maybe locate one along the way just in case. Also try to have your written birth plans and any history you would want the doctor to know about if you had to deliver with an unfamiliar doc. Your doc can only suggest what they feel is best and the safest bet is to be with the doc who has been with you, knows your history and what you want (plus if you don't deliver with them they are out the money for the delivery).

The blood clot thing was brought up with me too - Doc says sitting for more than an hour in the 3rd trimester is not good and could cause clots to form.

Brandi - posted on 03/27/2010




I would bring along your doctors notes from your last two visits, your most recent bloodwork and the results of your Group B Strep if they have done that already! That is information you would need at the hospital if you end up going into labor away from home. You can ask for these records at the OB visit before your trip. I'm making a 5 hour trip for Easter on my 35th week too!

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Thanks everyone. I'm starting to feel a bit more comfortable with the idea as I get further along actually. I have two preschoolers at home (one starting school in Aug) and I know that true vacations may soon be a thing of the past. At least if something were to happen our family would have a good "how you got here" story to tell our youngest =). Thanks again for all the tips and encouragement.

Nicole - posted on 03/22/2010




Go Girl! I mean whats the worst that could happen??? You have the baby? I know I sound like I am not taking it seriously, but since your pregnancy has been healthy with NO complications, this could be that last trip for a while...You never know. Go, enjoy the beach and your family. Let your family take the kids out for the night or day, you can get some rest! Have fun!

Michelle - posted on 03/22/2010




It really depends how your pregnancy is and how you are overall feeling this fall. If you're still fine and no baby worries then I would just make sure to have the Dr.s number on speed dial and to make sure you know where the hospital is and the quickest way to get there from where you will be.

Kate - posted on 03/18/2010




I'd say go, but bring a packed bag with you for the hospital just in case, and know where the hospital is and how to get there!

Natalie - posted on 03/18/2010




I flew from germany to NJ 5 1/2 weeks before my due-date. had a totally normal pregnancy and my son wasn't born until his due-date.
Since you already payed and everything i would go, BUT be sure to be prepared! And take it easy! Have your hubby handle anything stressful!

Krystal - posted on 03/18/2010




I just got home from a 27 hour drive in a Penske moving truck on a bench seat with my husband and my 21 month old daughter in her car seat in between us. Lol. One of the best drives I've ever made, and I love road trips. We stopped every time I needed to go potty and we ate at places that my daughter could run around and get some blood flow in our legs. It took us about 30 hours total. I would go with your gut, just make sure you have your insurance card just in case!!!

Andria - posted on 03/16/2010




If your pregnancy is a heathy one I would go for it. I would also have your doc office make copies of your file that way you can bring it with you and have it for the hospital incase you go into labor. Also when if you do go make sure you stop for breaks and to strech you dont wanna get too sore. I would also ask the doc why he thinks its a bad idea. And if you dont want to go on the trip but feel you have to because your husband is telling you that you all should, I would really talk to him about it. Is money really worth the health of you and your baby. Hope this helps. Good luck!!!

Danielle - posted on 03/15/2010




in all reality....a 6hr may not seem like much buut all sorts of things could happen you know? 35weeks is pretty far to be travelling especially if you are having braxton hicks that seem to be getting stronger. If you have had a recent internal exam and it was all good I would go, but otherwise I would really think about it. A lot can happen in three days and the reason they don't want you travelling now is because that hospital doesn't know anything about what's going on with you. And when your in labor your probably not going to want to explain everything. I would just take that into consideration.

Alexandria - posted on 03/15/2010




At the end of the month i am going to be travelling to the states with my mum and my sisters to do some shopping. We are going for three days so not to long, but it also is just over a 6 hour drive. By this time i too will be 35 weeks pregnant. I have discussed this with my doctor and she said that i should be ok. She told me that i am not aloud to sit in the car for a solid 6 hours so will have to plan some stops (which obvisouly will happen, since i have to pee every hour at least). Also i would check with insurance and stuff like that. I am not sure where you live but i live in canada and we have free health care and in the states i would have to pay for health care. My insurance said they would cover me as long as i was not further along than 36 weeks, which is good cause i will be back before then. I have an appointment with my doctor the day before i leave and unless she thinks that for some reason i really should go i am going to go. I think you will be fine, my son was born at 37 weeks and i have been told to expect this baby at least a couple weeks early and my doctor still has not told me that i can not go, she just told me to be careful and really watch for things. So i would say that you will be fine to go on the trip, cause if you dont go and end up just sitting aound the whole time you could get depressed and thats not good for baby, so go and enjoy yourself and relax before baby arrives. Good luck.

Tina - posted on 03/13/2010




I would go. Make sure you know where the hospital is in the place you are going and along the way and enjoy your trip.

Kelly - posted on 03/12/2010




For a 6 hr drive i would go too... but in saying that i dont know anything about you and how your pregnacy is going... if your having normal pregnacy and everything is going ok i would go as there woudlnt be a risk.

In the end its up to you guys.

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