
Jreicheg57 - posted on 07/24/2010 ( 298 moms have responded )
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My 29 year old son died about 6 weeks - how do you ever get beyond the pain of losing a child? My husband doesn't seem to need to talk about it anymore, and it's all I can think about.
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Denise - posted on 07/31/2012
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I also lost my 28 year old son 4 weeks ago. It feels like my heart was ripped out of my chest. I cry whenever I think of him not being here anymore. I try not to talk about it because it makes me cry and remember he's gone. Maybe your husband has the same reasons for not wanting to talk about it.
Jill - posted on 07/30/2010
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Dear Joan. My son Ken was killed by a thoughtless semi trailer driver who barrelled thru a stop sign. My precious son was about to turn 31. This is so fresh for you, being only weeks ago. First, I am so very sorry for your great loss. I believe you are probably still in a state of shock. Whatever little thing helps you to cope at this time, use it. I hope you are fortunate enough to have close family members and friends to help ease this terrrible burden of carrying the grief. Somehow, dear friend you will stumble through each day and you WILL survive this. As time goes by you will learn to live with it. You will never get over it, but life will get easier with time. I can tell you this becuause it has been 10 years for me. Other moms I know that have shared this traumatic blow, agree that child of yours will live in your thoughts each and every day. I promise you it will get bearable as you go along. As hard as it is to imagine, there will come a time down the road when you will laugh again, and even enjoy a normal life. You will think of sweet memories and how lucky you were to have had him. You will always be his mom. I send you my love and support. Jill Timleck. Lethbridge, AB Canada
Kathy - posted on 08/05/2012
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I am so sorry for your loss, I know you are probably tired of hearing people say that, but its because we don't know what else to say. And you never get over the pain of losing your child.You just take one day at a time. Maybe today you remember him and you cry and tomorrow you remember him and you smile. You see his favorite sweater and you smell him and you cry and then you remember him wearing it and doing something silly and you laugh . It is the most difficult time in your life. Your husband deals differently with his grief it doesn't mean that he Loved him any less , he just deals differently. It is just as difficult for him,give him time also. Find out if there is grief counseling in your area and join a group,other Moms who have lost a Loved one can help you. Remember there is nothing wrong asking for help.I hope you are doing well and continue to heal one day at a time..Much hope and Love for the future to you and your husband..
Mita - posted on 02/08/2013
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Linda, am not sure if mediums are going to help us. First, they do it for a living. Then we really don't want to hear bad news a about our child. Who knows these people do a thorough research on what happened to the child, after all, everything is now retrievable from the internet. i personally do not believe in these quacks (sorry for my French). Sometimes people say things to make us feel better--and that you get from friends and family. I went to fortunetellers when i was in my 20s with friends just for fun. Some came true, some didn't. There are 8% people in the world who are paychics but only God really knows what is beyond our physical realm. The day my 23 yr old son passed away Nov 17, 2012, he told his 21 yr old brother that the body is just a vessel. Friends said he was glowing and really happy the week he was taken. He said that he is no longer in that body and that he is beyond it. He made me believe in life after death. Call it premonition but my 21yr old is so messed up he had to stop school and now says nothing really matters anymore bewcause the spirit is more important. . I am the same it seems. there is nothing worse than this tragedy though but i believe we will see our babies once again but that we have to beleive.
Brenda - posted on 02/08/2013
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Morning Girls; I really hear what your saying both of you about being on here, it does help... and also makes me sooo sad that there is so many of us! Also Linda I feel for you and the whole meduim thing, My husband and I have talked about it but want to be in a group session, with all the accesss that people have to just your name it doesn't take much for someone to at least get bits of your life history, and like you said if you fill in any blanks for them well, they can run with it.... Not to say I don't believe in signs and some meduims, but I think I believe more strongly in signs our children will give us ourselves or our loved ones, and we just have to be open to them, they will come from where and when you at least expect them or even why. I have only had 1 dream about a month after Jeff died, I knew he was dead in the dream, others were in the room knew also, but he walked in plopped himself on the couch as always, no one spoke, I sat beside him leaned down and hugged him, he spoke saying "down on hugs or what... "(something he has said in the past to me and others) I never said a thing and it was soooo real the hug, felt so good, the dream ended. The last thing I got to do was hug my son, he said he loved me kissed my cheek and was killed about 20 minutes later, we never got the news for over 1 1/2 hrs later. I believe in all my heart it was him telling me he was ok in heaven and I will be ok too someday! It doesn't take the pain away, but helps alittle. There has been many others in my family who have had little signs and one reading, will maybe talk about them in another post. But for now I just take it day by day, knowing that it's ok to have bad and good, a vicks vapour rub commerical made be cry last night, for I had a memory of Jeff covering his entire head in it once... lol he loved the smell, but was rarely ever sick. The Dr. did give me med's too, but like you Linda only took the day of the accident and a couple nights at bed, before service, and on the service day... havn't taken any more since, for the last thing I need is to become depended on med's. for I have had family go down that road. I too am from Canada Linda. Take care Ladies, your posts are my strength somedays.