5-year old timid & scared to speak up

Ruhayati - posted on 01/12/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 5-year-old girl is a gentle sweetie. She sticks to her closest friends in school & loves helping out her friends & teacher in school. But, when it comes to sharing or speaking up to her class, she'll just clam up & her eyes will get watery when prompted by the teacher. She has no problems with school work & shares stories with her teacher only on a personal basis.

She will eagerly prepare her school work at home, but when she brought her work to school, she'll hide them in her bag & unwillingly take them out only after prompted by the teacher.

Pls advise what can I do to help her be more confident of herself. I feel she is capable of so much more, but her timid character is holding her back a lot!


Lee-Ann - posted on 02/24/2010




Just keep telling her how wonderful her work is and how the teacher and other kids are so looking forward to seeing her work or hearing her story,tell her over and over .I truly believe it is something she will grow out of with loooooots of encouragement.


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Jennifer - posted on 04/12/2010




my daughter has gone in and out of this stage was well this year with starting K. I was able to start volunteering in her classroom, and that has made a huge difference

Joy - posted on 01/22/2010




Have you ever thought of having her tested for Autism? Sounds like she may have a little bit of autism in her just enough it stops her from doing some things. If you think this could be the case I would contact your Doctor and ask them to refer you to have her tested! You are the mom you have control...so don't let a Doctor tell you No I don't think she has that! If she is that just means you know whats wrong and they can help fix it! Or it could be another related disorder. Her only wanting to talk one on one with a teacher tells me not only that she is shy but is shy because she is afraid of what other kids might say. Are her friends shy as well?

Amber - posted on 01/19/2010




I'm sure you do it already, but give her praise and encouragement. Tell her you love her and what a great job she's doing. I have found with my daughter that when i make a big deal out of something she is timid about (like swimming in the deep end) she tends to clam right back up. So in those instances I don't make a BIG deal out of it but later on we talk about it and I tell her how proud of her I am.

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