1 Year-old tantrum thrower?

Crystal - posted on 09/01/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My one year-old son throws tantrums and I would like to know how to stop him.. He throws his legs and hits already any suggestions? ANYONE??

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Brenda - posted on 09/01/2009

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First, take a breath and relax. He probably picks up on your emotion and the more upset you get the worse he'll get.



Now, at one year, they don't understand the concept of "punishment" like time out or something just yet. They really don't have the cognitive ability to connect the two things. Fits at this age are usually a product of trying to deal with frustration. They are at an age where they aren't quite able to understand what is going on around them, and it is difficult for them to put together what's happening. My now four year old was king of the head throwback. I can't count the times he bashed his head into a wall or the doorframe.



Distraction was the best solution for us. I would tickle him and get him laughing and he'd forget all about his anger or frustration. There are lot of people that will tell you that punishing or spatting will work, but they really don't have the ability to connect the action to the punishment yet. Try distracting techniques, change the scene by taking him outside or moving to another room, if the fit is over something he wants but can't have remove the item and replace it with something else. Remember, at this age, these kind of fits are more related to being frustrated with their own lack of mental capability than anything. They can't yet talk well, and they can't understand why the world around them is changing so fast.

Brittney - posted on 09/01/2009

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Ignore him....it's the only surfire way to get him to stop. It's hard, because it can be embarassing, and annoying, but it works!!!

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