15mo son STILL doesn't sleep through the night...HELP!

Lindsey - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hi all. I need suggestions. My son is 15 mo old and STILL won't sleep through the night...we co-sleep in a separate bed from my DH and he "snacks" all night. I am ready to wean him, or at least get him down to one "snack" so I can get a good night's rest...anyone else been through this? We tried CIO and just couldn't do it, he changed from a happy energetic baby to a despondent cranky one...co-sleeping works, but as my DH can't get back to sleep once he wakes up we have to stay separate until our son is sleeping for longer stretches. Thanks!!

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Megan - posted on 09/06/2009

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My son is almost 16 months old and he just started sleeping through the night, We have had problems with him eating and gaining sufficient weight so we took him to the pediatrician to see what we could do. Besides making him eat a decent portion at dinner we were told to try baby oragel or children's motrin. Appearantly from 12-18 months they teeth a lot more than we realize and depend on nursing or a bottle to help soothe the pain. I know it sounds like you are drugging your child but I completely trusted our pediatrician's advice and tried it. My son slept right through the night the first night, two days later his "I" teeth broke through. I bought those homeopathic teething tablets and they help for naps and car rides so he isn't always on Motrin. I also noticed that if I am calm and assertive with him at bedtime he doesn't fight it quite as much. I use to pull him into the bed with us and be up all hours of the night letting him play to "burn off energy". Now I have been much more strict with a schedule and I read him the same book every night so he relates that book with going to sleep. Our doctor recommended "Goodnight Moon" or "Mama Do you love me". It has worked out well for us. < being a mom I prefer Mama do you love me>

Cara - posted on 09/06/2009

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lind-z..

i dont BF so i dont know how true it is but i ahve heard the babies that are BF dont sleep through that night as well as FF babies. something about brown fat.. idk. but i will say this. Mal is 19 weeks old and has been sleeping through the night no problems at all since about 7 or 8 weeks old. she takes a bottle about 8 or 830, we put her in her crib at 9 and she is out in 10 minutes. she will sleep till 4 am- i give her a binky and she is out again until around 8 or 10 am. she sleeps 12-14 hours in a night. routine is bottle in the am spoon cereal about 1.5 hours after that, then bottle again in 1.5-2 hours then jar food cple hours later then bottle a lil after that bottles agin then about 8 we get cereal and a bottle then a bath and ts right to bed. she is in our room in her own bed sleeps like a rock

Sonia - posted on 09/04/2009

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i am very sorry to tell you but maybe u need to let him cry it out. i know it sound mean but it will work. my daughter, who is now 2.5 years old, would get up throughout the night. a friend of my gave me this advise and it works. it took about 3-4 days but now she goes to bed at 10pm and get up at 800am. she still takes a 3 hour nap. it was the best advise i was give. i

Melanie - posted on 09/04/2009

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i had this problem also. i used to bf my son to sleep ( bad habit i know) so i stoped n rocked him to sleep n put him in his bed waited about an hour after feeding. and now he sleeps all nite :) i think that he may of woken up with gas in the nite. this was hard n my son wasnt happy bout it but at this age they dont need to eat threw the night. try to make the transition easier by holding him instead of just letting him cry in his own bed. im sure it will be hard at first but worth it in the long run. one nite my son cried for 2 hrs thank god my husband n i shared turns rockin him:) good luck

Lindsey - posted on 09/04/2009

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Thanks Liz! So far your advice sounds most reasonable for our family. I thinks its all about figuring out what will work best for us. Thanks to everyone else for their advice too, I think we're going to take a little something from everyone.

Liz - posted on 09/03/2009

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I understand that lots of people aren't comfortable with CIO, my DH wasn't at all so we spoke to our doctor about it and she came up with a new suggestion. It was REALLY exhausting the first few nights but so worth it. Pick a night that works for you all as a family, we did it on the weekend so DH didn't have to work the next day. That night after DD's last feed we didn't feed her again till breakfast. We did everything to get her to sleep like rocked her, held her while she slept, pushed her in the pram but we didn't feed her. That meant the next day she drank and ate enough to get her through the next night and I'm not exaggerating when I saw it took maybe 3 nights to stop the night feeds. The doctor also told us off for feeding her to sleep during the day so instead we have a routine set. After mid-morning snack its a book, bottle and then bed. At night we feed her dinner at about 5:30ish to give her belly time to settle before she goes down. She'll then play in her highchair while we eat dinner, straight into bath, bottle and bed no exceptions. That part was a bit trickier as it was a bit restricting with not going out at certain times for maybe 2 weeks but seriously so worth it. One month after talking to the doctor and following her advice our daughter puts herself to sleep within 10 minutes of going in the cot and has maybe woken up twice. (touch wood!!!)

As for the co-sleeping thats up to you and your family. We did it for a while and I absolutely loved it. I just found even though she was sleeping I wasn't so it didn't work for us but it can work for others.

Hope something I said was helpful :)

Ilana - posted on 09/03/2009

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Okay, so I think the biggest thing is you need to wean him. I BF my son and by 15 months he should be able to not have snacks during the night. You need to sleep with your husband and not your son.....A suggestion I have would be to pump into a cup and have your last feeding be by cup and the first few nights pat his back when he wakes up...don't offer your "SNACK"---I don't agree with CIO, but I do believe he might cry and beg for a snack, but you have to make him know that you're in charge. My son is 29 months and he goes to bed at his bedtime and when he wakes up in the morning he lays in bed until one of us come in and say good morning. He only cries if he has a bad dream which is hardly ever!! You have to be in control not let your son set the rules, if you let him be in control you'll pay for it through out his whole life.

Jen - posted on 09/02/2009

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Until you wean him it's going to be hard for him to sleep the whole night on his own. My friend just weaned her daughter and she's starting to get her into a better sleep routine. Her daughter is 17 months. If you don't already have a bed time and bed time routine I'd start one. Most mothers do bath, then story then bed. My daughter goes down at 9 with a music box. About 10 till we go to her room, change her diaper, put a nighty on, she turns out the lights, we turn her music projector on, she's gives us hugs and kisses, and then she climbs into bed. If you still plan on co-sleeping try to get him to sleep in a pack and play and slowly move it away from your bed and into his own bedroom. That may also help you get more sleep knowing he's in the other room. Just keep working with him. Good luck.

Jamie - posted on 09/02/2009

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Um he doesnt need and "snacks" at 15months. And you arent sleeping with your DH why? Sounds like you marriage is suffering. Anyways your kid is cranky because hes not getting enough uninterupted sleep. You gotta put your big girl panties on and let him cry it out, it may take a few days but youll be asking your self why you didnt do it sooner.

Brandy - posted on 09/02/2009

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my daughter just now started sleeping through the night- she is 18mnth... I also tried the CIO method a few months back but she would just get up every hour then. Then a few weeks ago I just sat her down :) and said you are going to start sleeping through the night now..lol.. I also didn't feed her or give her milk an hour before bedtime and it helped sssooo much. Some give the milk or cereal close to bedtime so they will sleep better- my daughter was opposite, she didn't sleep well on a full tummy. She did cry some for the first week when she woke up and I just went in and said night night time, laid her down and covered up up and she learned.Hope this helps.

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