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2 year old asking about her privates

Megan - posted on 09/10/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )




My daughter is almost 2 and of course very curious about her body. While changing her diaper or giving her a bath she is always pointing to her privates and asking "whats that?". I have heard everything from front butt to just telling her it is her vagina. I am kinda leery about having my 2 year old going around saying vagina though! Any ideas on what to tell her?


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Hi, I told my Daughter that it was her front bottom as she always says things she has been told or heard at a later date. However it is up to you what you are to tell your daughter everyone has different opions with what should be done.

Rachel - posted on 09/10/2009




I agree with being honest. My son asked me awhile back (he's 2 1/2 now) and I just told him like I would tell him anything else. He's potty-training now and when he has to go, he tells me "My peeny hurts." He's not uncomfortable with it at all. Although he has pointed at me and said "Mama, is that your peeny?" in public. Surprisingly, nobdy around batted an eye, haha!

Heather - posted on 09/10/2009




I always told my boys what we called them..pee pees. Once our oldest knew what to call it, the matter dropped. The only thing I find funny is when he discovered the mommy, being the only female in the house, doesn't have a pee pee like him, lol. That was a lot tougher to answer.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009




my family always did pee pee for girls and weiner or we we for boys. My daughter did the same thing but now she knows all her body parts. Plus knowing what they are is a steping stone to the whole stranger talks later. Though my sister taught her daughter vagina and its no big deal with them not as cutesie and its honest and straight forward.

Charlie - posted on 09/10/2009




Be honest , I am also in Early childhood education and agree with Jenah on everything .
Of course tell what she needs to know age , appropriately , give her the correct names of her parts .
There is nothing wrong with knowing correct terminology in fact it is better she does know , i doubt she will even think about it once its explained .
Good luck

Jenah - posted on 09/10/2009




Just be honest with her. I'm an Early Childhood Teacher, and a mom of 2. Just give it to her straight. Chances are she won't bat an eye. If she goes around saying the word, it wont be for more than a day, as long as you dont make a big deal out of it. Furthermore, if she knows the sppropriate name for her body parts, if something ever happens to her (God forbid), she'll be able to tell you straight out, without any confusion.

Shannon - posted on 09/10/2009




I have friends that have daughters (I just have boys) but they call it their "lilly" or "Suzy" or I always called my privates a bottom.... hope this helps

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009




With my son I try to answer his questions accurately and at the level he can understand. He has asked what all of his body parts are and I treat the genitalia comments like I do everything else. If you show that you are uncomfortable about saying it then she will wonder why and might start saying it just so she can see your reaction. Also it is not that uncommon for kids to frequently repeat all new words, it is how they learn new information. It may be disconcerting but anybody with kids will just nod and smile if they hear her doing it because we have all been there! And those who don't have kids will get over it. Good luck, remember it is much more important for her to be comfortable with her body then for strangers to be comfortable with her talking about her body.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009




I would just tell her what it is called, I have always told my kids the real names for their privates. It will not hurt them.

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