20-30 a young Mom???

Bekah - posted on 01/08/2009 ( 53 moms have responded )

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I think it's funy that young moms are between the ages of 20 and 30. I think that the fact that we are considered young moms when girls who are 12 an 13 are having babys! Just a thought.;)

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Brittany - posted on 01/08/2009

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Ditto.  A lot of ppl thought I was young at 21 but like u said, there are so many young teens having babies.  U'd think they would be considered young moms...

Brittany - posted on 01/08/2009

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I agree! but I still get nasty looks from people for having a baby.. I was 19 when I was pregnant and I was 20 when i gave birth. And I'm married. but I guess that is how society is now. sad...

Laura - posted on 01/08/2009

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I agree too, but some say that I was young when I had my first child and I was 20.

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2009

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I was 18 when I had my son..I am now 27 with a 9 yr old boy and i get alot of very confused faces when they do the math..thinking that i was a young one to have a child.but in fact i have done it alone for all these years and my son has turned out to be a wonderful and gifted child. who are these people to criticize? I'm glad that I had my son early, gave me a reason to achieve all the i have and to have the little encourager by my side :)

Danialle - posted on 01/09/2009

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Good point. I think I am young. But not in a bad way. I am more than capable of taking care of my child. I got married at 19 and we decided to get pregnant a few months later. My son was born in July. I am now 21 and people look at me like I have done something wrong.  I made an adult decision. I was out of school and married. Not some little girl in junior high

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Toni - posted on 12/06/2013

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In today's society, being between 20-30 whit a child is a young mum.
Most people nowadays focus on their education and career before considering children. Now don't get me wrong, that's not a bad thing, but by the time a woman has a good education and stable career they are usually in their 30's.

Sandra - posted on 12/06/2013

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i am 24years old with a 12month old daughter. it is only tough because the society makes it. in Kenya especially where i come from, it is hard for any one to congratulate you for having a baby especially if you are a single mum. my parents have been supportive and i thank God for the far i have come. its annoying when everyone goes like... ' who is the father?'
and yes 20 to 30 are young moms under 20 are teens.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2009

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I find it funny as well but I do feel like a young mum a lot of the time especially when I take my girls to playgroup or dance because the majority of mothers there are 40ish. I didn't think I was "a young mum" having my first at 26 but I think that it is becoming more and more difficult for people to be able to have children when they are in there 20's especially if you want to be able to afford to stay home with them. Just a thought :)

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2009

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I have to agree that I feel it is a compliment to be considered a "young mom" as I am staring 30 right in the face.  In my area, I am average to slightly older than average to have kids the ages that they are.  My oldest son was born 6 weeks after my 25th birthday and the youngest came the day after my 28th bday.  These were great ages for me, I feel.  I was actually pregnant at 19 and lost her at 5 1/2 months along.  This still creates some sadness and at the time, I hated the people that said the old "everything happens for a reason".  I don't want to say that I wouldn't have been a good mommy then but I had so many more experiences in the 6 years til my 1st son was born.  I feel that I grew up alot during that time and since I had the opportunity to travel and have fun, I don't feel that I've missed anything.  The Lord has blessed me so greatly with my two beautiful boys and I am now happy to say that yes, sometimes, things do happen for a reason.  rip my angel hailee 3-12-99

Lynda - posted on 01/12/2009

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Clarissa, I have to say that you are one of few exceptions when it comes to young teen mums because it def sounds like you had your head screwed on right anyway.
Here in Aust we have a baby bonus which is given to each parent that has a baby. This is now upto $5000 and i kid you not there are teens that deliberately fall pregnant just to get this money and they have no intentions to really care for the childs needs properly.

Clarissa - posted on 01/11/2009

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Well I am a bit afraid to respond but feel I need to stick up for myself. I had my first child at 16. I took full responsibility for my actions. My parents did help with monetary things while I finished High school but I did the parenting. They insisted on that. I graduated and moved out into my own place and supported my son and I on my own. I then had another child at 20 and took full responsibility for him as well. A year later I married the man of my dreams and he brought in 2 children from his previous marriage. After our first year of marriage we had our first child together. A year ago we had our second together. I am able to be a full time mom. I homeschool my 4 children as my step kids don't live with us. I love being a mom and am glad that God gave me this chance to be one so many times. 



I do drop jaws on occassion. They will ask if they are all mine and I reply yes. They ask me how old I am and I say 27. Then they ask how could they all be mine. I tell them I had 2 kids through a surrogate(jk) they are my daughter 15 and my son 13 and that I had my others myself. Son 11, son 7, daughter 4 and son 1.  I wouldn't change it for the world. I love what I do. 

Melissa - posted on 01/11/2009

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i'm more worried about the fact that it is only three more years before i'm classed as an old mum lol

Jenielle - posted on 01/11/2009

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The girls having babies are not young mothers they are babies having babies and I consider my self a young mom especially with society today most people start there careers and etc. before having children so we get considered young moms and i had my first when i was 18! I am now 24 with the gorgeous babies and the looks you get are just RUDE!

Zoe - posted on 01/11/2009

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I agree too, but it is nice to be thought of as still young when approaching 30.

Kate - posted on 01/11/2009

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My husband and I are 31 weeks pregnant with baby number four, and I turn 28 this year. We're in a community where most of the kids are the same age (my oldest is 7) but the other moms have close to ten years on me. I feel very old sometimes trying to spend time with old friends being that I am one of the only to be married let alone with children. I just keep reminding myself that for my age I am much more established in life... I am married, a mother, I have a full-time career and a very full and rewarding life.



 



It's funny, my husband and I try to go out on date nights everynow and then and all we find ourselves doing is talking about the kids. It's gotten to the point where we don't know what people do for fun... we've outgrown the party scene as well as the bar scene. It's hard to find people our age who we can relate with, most people don't understand that we don't receive phone calls after 9pm and we can't have friends staying over till all hours of the morning or spend money frivolously. And none of them can ever understand the sheer joy of a first time potty-user (and how proud we all are of that moment).

Brittany - posted on 01/11/2009

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Quoting Kara:

nowadays everybody has their babies when they are like forty or in their late thirties, if they aren't having them at 13. i think the reason we are young is because we for the most part aren't completely established, if we choose to go to college it takes six years or more to get any degree anymore and therefore dont have careers and are still "kids"
health wise this is the best age range to have babies! in my opnion



I am 22, and 24 weeks pregnant. I agree with the completely established part. I'm in college right now I'm doing an online college to get an associate degree (2 years) in Web Design. I think this is the best option for me, I am hoping to be a stay at home mom and no matter what I won't have to quit when my daughter is born because I'll be able to do whatever I need to do for school and take care of her at the same time.

Brittany - posted on 01/11/2009

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I agree! My nephew's mom had him when she was 15. He just turned a year old and she's pregnant with her second. My other brother's girlfriend said her 15 year old friend had a daughter and named her after Miley Cyrus. I've also wondered. I think nowadays having a baby at 20 something is a great age. Your more mature, but still young enough to be active. I think what matters is that your through with partying. I'm pregnant with my first and I'm just not interested in partying, haven't been for a while.

Audrea - posted on 01/11/2009

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I am 23 and I get rude stares all of the time and I don't understand why. It's not like I'm 16 and having kids! I think that between your 20s and 30s is the best time to have babies because you can run around after them and stuff. I wouldn't consider 40 being too old to have kids...but anywhere over 40 is too old in my opinion.

Lynda - posted on 01/11/2009

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I love being a young mum!!!! I'm 22 with 3 kids and i love it =). Its such a blessing to be able to watch your own child achieve so much.

But i do not think its ok when ppl who do not have their heads screwed on right to have children...not to start anything but do YKWIM??

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Hey all... im 25 but i guess i dont look my age! I get the weirdest looks from people when i tell them i have 2 kids. Some people just look and dont comment.. others ask my age and seem relieved when i tell them im 25! Then u get the people staring at you as you walk down the street! Some days i feel like Writing my age on my forhead!

I was 22 when i had my 1st child and while i think it was young compared to some i dont think it was too young!

Bekah - posted on 01/11/2009

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Being the one who started this conversation, I dont want anyone to think I was trying to judge anyone.  I was simply puting it out there for conversation...And I feel like I have gotten to know more about people by doing it.  Yeay for getting to know people!  My opinion is that babys are a gift from God no mater what age you are.  I think it's a better Ideah to wait till you are a older that a teenager, and married, But I know that other people have diferent opinions.  I just hope that everyone can see the gift of life as just that...a gift.

Erin - posted on 01/11/2009

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A Young Mom? Uh Yes, 20-30 we are young moms. If you are going to consider a 13 or 14 year old that has a child a young mom, I don't think they are really responsible enough to be considered. Plus, their moms are still playing the mom roll because not only are they taking care of their 13 or 14 year old child but are now having to take care of their childs child as well. Don't diss the group for the name.

Cassia - posted on 01/11/2009

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yeas but girls of that age should be called teen moms not young moms i think thats where they were going with the name.

Jill - posted on 01/11/2009

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Quoting Natosha:



It is odd, people always think I am in High School and I'm 27! I don't think that having a baby at 25 makes me a young mother.  But I think the norm is to start having them in your 30's these days.  I do not have any other friends who have kids. They are for the most part married and between the ages of 27 & 35.  But yep I'm the only one with a little one.  Maybe thats why we are called young moms






i agree!!  I still get lokks because people think i am still in High School as well and i am 26...i will be 27 next month and i have a daughter who will be 1 next month.  I was 25 when i had her and i think that was about normal...for me i guess.  I could not imagine having a baby at 12 or 13.  All my friends have kids.  My husband and i were the last ones out of our friends to have children and we think we waited until we knew that we were ready to have children.  I dont think that 20 -30 is a "young" mom at all.

Marteel - posted on 01/11/2009

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12 and 13 year olds don't have a category...other than stupid. Being called a young mom is a compliment. Means as these days they're either 12 or 42.

Rhain - posted on 01/11/2009

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I am a very young mother.. i must say it was hard and i have dont it i still graduated from high school and graduated from collage.. i was 16 when i had my first child 19 when i had my second and 20 when i had my third it was very very hard but i did  it i am not saying it was the right thing to do but i wouldnt change it for the world i was going down the wrong road and my kdis help me realize there is more to life...now i am a teacher aide for a preschool and i am 26  with my 3 beautiful boys

Christine - posted on 01/10/2009

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Yeah... I'm the youngest one in the MOMS club  I'm a member of and I'm almost 27! I have a daughter who's almost 3 and another daughter who's almost 2 :)

Kara - posted on 01/09/2009

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nowadays everybody has their babies when they are like forty or in their late thirties, if they aren't having them at 13. i think the reason we are young is because we for the most part aren't completely established, if we choose to go to college it takes six years or more to get any degree anymore and therefore dont have careers and are still "kids"

health wise this is the best age range to have babies! in my opnion

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I know this is a little off topic, but it deals w/ people judging others for their life choices. I was at this thing the other day, and there was another woman there who was about 5 years older than me. Anyway, she was going on and on about young brides and how they just end up getting divorced by 30. My sister-in-law was standing right next to us, and leaned over to me and said, "Hey, didn't you marry my brother at 24?" I was like, "Yeah and we're almost 30 and happy."

Karen - posted on 01/09/2009

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Im 26 and i have 2 children i had my first when i was 19 and my 2nd when i was 25, i dont really get anyone giving me nasty looks because its normal in my area to have children young, but when i go out of my town shopping i do get nasty looks, i only look young myself

Margaret - posted on 01/09/2009

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I'm 21 with a 21 month old son and 9 month old daughter, I was 19 and 20 when i had my kids.

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2009

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here we get 55% of our personal income for 50 weeks of maternity leave and parental with the option to take it for another year. my husband gets 97% of his personal income for 35 weeks of parental as military so it just made since to us. even if i get no money it is deffinalty worth it,i agree! money doesn't make memories,thats what i say :)

Danialle - posted on 01/09/2009

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Oh I didn't take it in a bad way at all. I wish I could contribute to the household but I can't imagine someone else with my child. That's just me. That is great your husband was there though! I hope you do get the chance to stay home after your 2nd. It is a wonderdful thing and very rewarding although it doesn't pay much in money. I am lucky to have a supportive husband who wants me home with our child.

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2009

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i am thinking the same way danialle!it scares the crap out of me that i will have a devil child. trust me i think being a stay at home mom is a veery difficult task i didn't mean that. i just meant in society in the "old days" it was the norm for a women to be at home once a child was born. i wish i could stay at home with my son and hopfully after the second i will be able to. i wish i could see every little moment. i went back to work when my son was 2 months old and my husband took the full 7 months of parental leave so he got to see everything...i am envious of anyone who gets to watch their child grow.

Danialle - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

i can't say i have this problem with stares...my husband is military so almost everyone on the base has had the first baby around 22. i still agree that it is the norm to have them between 20-30 especially as times are changing and women have evolved from being "stay at home mom" to working mom. i own a business so i work about 60 hours a week and my husband is always gone to do some tasking so we are trying to figure out how i am pregnant again lol(no i don't need a step by step lol) needless to say the "older" generation views us as the odd ones when really we just want to be able to have a child and actually function with them and be able to run around with them...can you do that at 40???i love being a mom and wouldn't change that for the world but i'm still trying to figure out how i'm going to handle 2 kids under 2...anyone have this??


 



I actually am a stay at home mom and I love it. I know this isn't for everyone and praise those who can do both. My husband and I have actually talked about trying for another baby later this year. My son is the perfect baby and I love being his mom. But part of me wonders how I would do it with 2. I bet my next one will be hell on wheels because my first is so good!

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2009

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i can't say i have this problem with stares...my husband is military so almost everyone on the base has had the first baby around 22. i still agree that it is the norm to have them between 20-30 especially as times are changing and women have evolved from being "stay at home mom" to working mom. i own a business so i work about 60 hours a week and my husband is always gone to do some tasking so we are trying to figure out how i am pregnant again lol(no i don't need a step by step lol) needless to say the "older" generation views us as the odd ones when really we just want to be able to have a child and actually function with them and be able to run around with them...can you do that at 40???i love being a mom and wouldn't change that for the world but i'm still trying to figure out how i'm going to handle 2 kids under 2...anyone have this??

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i was happy to see this group. I thought i was too old already to be a mom. I'm 29 and i thought my days were over in trying to get pregnant. Most of my friends got their kids in the early and mid 20's. In latin america im considered WAY too old for being a mom because girls start in their last teen years.

Kiyomi - posted on 01/09/2009

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I am 23 and have been married fro 4.5 years and my hubby and I have our first baby girl who is 5 months old and people always give me dirty looks for having a baby. In my opinion, most young teens are not mature enough to be moms, they don't have the ability to take care of and raise a baby, so an older, usually, relative does most of the parenting, so I would not consider them young moms. I can not say they are not old enough, since obviously since they have a child they are, they are just not usually matrue enough. In some cultures, though, a teen of that age is raised with the idea that having a baby at that age is normal and good, so they are usually more prepared to become mothers at a young age and so could be classified among the young moms group. Does that make any sense?

Brie - posted on 01/09/2009

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Yeah, around here...most people are 30-40 and just beginning to have babies. But, where my hubby comes from- the norm is to have kids when you're young, like early-mid 20's.

Natosha - posted on 01/09/2009

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It is odd, people always think I am in High School and I'm 27! I don't think that having a baby at 25 makes me a young mother.  But I think the norm is to start having them in your 30's these days.  I do not have any other friends who have kids. They are for the most part married and between the ages of 27 & 35.  But yep I'm the only one with a little one.  Maybe thats why we are called young moms

Bekah - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Brie:



I think so too, in fact....I thought 20-30 was the average age at which women have babies?





Yeah, isnt it like once you hit 35 you are automticaly High Risk? 

Brie - posted on 01/09/2009

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I think so too, in fact....I thought 20-30 was the average age at which women have babies?

Bekah - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Kaleena:



My thought is that a 12 or 13 year old is still a child. A child who has no business having sex or trying to be a mother...






True, But we cant just ignore that it happens...how will it be when our kids are 12 and 13?

Bekah - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Kaleena:



My thought is that a 12 or 13 year old is still a child. A child who has no business having sex or trying to be a mother...






True, But we cant just ignore that it happens...how will it be when our kids are 12 and 13?

Emma-Lee - posted on 01/08/2009

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I'm 20 and I have a 2 year old and a 3month old. People are wrong to judge us. I get nasty looks too especially now that I have two. I don't understand. Back in the day it was super common for girls to have babies young.. and now what? why is it so wrong now? I mean. I could not imagine my life any other way. Without my husband and my two beautiful children. And I hate how people judge and they do not know the whole story.

Kaleena - posted on 01/08/2009

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My thought is that a 12 or 13 year old is still a child. A child who has no business having sex or trying to be a mother...

Allison - posted on 01/08/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

I agree! but I still get nasty looks from people for having a baby.. I was 19 when I was pregnant and I was 20 when i gave birth. And I'm married. but I guess that is how society is now. sad...



Same thing happened and still happens to me. I feel like I have to wave my hand around in their face so they don't stare! It doesn't help that I barely look 18 and I'm 22

Brittany - posted on 01/08/2009

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What's even CRAZiER is that in older days, girls were married off && started families at a very young age.

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