20 with a 7 month old and positive. ..

Patrese - posted on 06/17/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I took a pregnancy test about two hours ago, and its still positive I'M SCARED. I'll be 21 in August, but two under 2 is scaring me. My daughter just turned 7 months, got her first tooth yesterday, and I feel so bad. This pregnancy wasn't planned, but I'm excited thinking about having another healthy child. I haven't told my bf/daughter father yet. We just went to court today and he was put on probation so I'm thinking he may feel overwhelmed this soon. But, he's a great father nonetheless. When I was having complications with my daughter right after we had just experienced a miscarriage, he and I, decided I should stop working and just focus on school. He provides for us but with probation I don't want to say anything yet. I graduated college, so I'm thinking I should start back working then tell him about this pregnancy, but what if I have another miscarriage. I still think about the miscarriage I don't want to face that again. ?...

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Patrese - posted on 06/21/2013

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Thank you. You're very sweet. I'm really excited about this pregnancy and put all the scary/negative thoughts out of my head. I've already started to get/hear rude comments about my situation.
I wish you all the best on trying for another child, it will happen.
I will speak all and only good things into existence.
I will keep you updated, I hope my daughter doesn't get mad at me for being tired lol.life is amazing.
Have you heard anything about the first child being jealous if there's a different gender in the womb. I was told my daughter would treat me differently if I was having a boy.

User - posted on 06/18/2013

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That is awesome to hear! Im so happy for you and especially that you have a great man by your side.

I have an only child. So I don't know exactly how it is with two and it makes me nervous too. We are trying and I want another really bad, but when its time to come we will welcome it happily.

I've been talking to a lot of people about it, and thankfully they have all been straight out. Well from what I hear, it is hard at first, with a newborn, even by itself its hard, so two kids does make it tough. BUT we both know it is soo worth it, and as with the first one you find that routine that fits both children and you pretty quickly. I think at first its just getting the routine down and making sure you give enough attention to the older baby because they can be jealous sometimes. To me what I am planning on when the newborn sleeps, which is often Ill have good one on one time with the older one, even when you feed the younger you can read to the older one so she gets a lot of oyu too.

My older sister got pregnant when her daughter was 8 months. It was unexpected, but she did great with them being close in age. Really having the children closer in age they will be closer to each other. That's how hers is and especially when shes busy with the home they have each other to keep company, it works out really well.

Patrese - posted on 06/18/2013

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Thanks for the encouragement. I told him this morning and his huge smile was very reassuring...he's happy. I'm going to start back working, but I'm going to wait until I'm out of the danger zone, which is the first two months for us. I'm glad we finally got court out of the way it was something that happen at the beginning of the year and he hasn't done it since. I'm so happy you responded, I thought no one would, this is making me glow.
Do you know if its way harder with two under two? My plan is to start back working from home (well it was half & half). So many things are running through my mind...I pray about && I'm very very thankful.

User - posted on 06/17/2013

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Don't think negatively upon this! Congratulations! Its amazing to be able to have another baby. It sounds like you are stressing a little, you need to get it off your chest, tell the man! If he is a good daddy and you are still with him, something must be good about him, he might be nervous about number 2 but ya know what I bet every parent goes through that. You don't need to carry this alone, he will be there.

Im really sorry you had a miscarriage, I cant imagine, just pray about it though. Just think positively about having another baby, you cant focus on the what if, enjoy the pregnancy.
Kudos to you for graduating college at 20! With what ever decision you make, going to work, r what ever it may be, just make sure it is with your b/f. This is both of yours family, you make the decisions together and always support each other.
probation is not to be taken lightly either, what ever he did to cause that probably needs to be changed. Yall have a family to worry about, little petty charges are not worth your time, he should know his decisions don't only effect him, but effects your whole family.

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