20 years old and pregnant again!

Angel - posted on 02/25/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm 20 years old and I'm pregnant again! I just had my first born baby girl in May. She's not even 1 years old yet! I'm very excited, but to be honest I didn't want to get pregnant this soon. I'm not financially prepared, but I really want to have this baby, I know I'll care for him/her just as much as I do my first daughter. I'm just really scared how people will react when I tell them. I know I have to show them that I can do it! I just don't want all the questions and criticism.. My boyfriend doesn't even have a job right now, he's having a lot of trouble looking for one. I have no idea what to do, because I know I can't support my family without his help. I know there's more time to come for him to find a job, but I wish things would happen now. I need guidance financially. I'm having mixed emotions. But don't get me wrong, I do want to have this baby, with all my heart! It'd be great for my daughter to be a big sister! I'm just so hesitant with telling my family, because I know they'll kick me and my daughter out of the house right away. I'm looking at apartments, but without my boyfriend having a job right now, it's impossible to move out. I have no idea what to do..

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Stephanie - posted on 03/28/2014

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My friend is 20 as well has a 8 month old baby boy and 4 months pregnant with her 2nd child she has no job but gets state assistance she is not with the babies father and does it alone. If u want this child u will find a way :) my mom could barely put food on the table when me and my brother were little but she would feed us first then herself life is rough at first but it will get better we are still young.. Im 20 years old with a 5 month old:)

Kayla - posted on 03/17/2014

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First of all,stop depending on your boyfriend to save you,because you will be lucky if he's even around after the baby's birth,considering that he is probably young like you,and many men feel that it's better that they leave their kids if they can't provide for them,sadly.It's pretty much the opposite of how us women feel.You need to ask your boyfriend if he really wants that baby,and tell him that you will be looking for a couple to adopt your baby if he doesn't get some kind of job asap so that he can help out.Put some fire under his @ss and if he truly cares about you and the baby,he will find a job soon.If you know that your family would kick you out,then it might be best to wait a while before telling them.I know you don't want them to criticize you,and you don't want to hear their questions,but they kind of have a right to ask questions and be upset,because they are going to be the ones paying for your irresponsible decisions.Ever think about it like that?If you don't want them to criticize you,then you hustle and work 2 or even 3 jobs,so that you can get out of their house and support your kids on your own.

Charkevia - posted on 02/27/2014

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First off,let me say congratulations on another bundle of joy.I can say from my first child's arrival..I was in total bliss.But I understand where you're coming from about the unemployment. I was 20 when I got pregnant and my husband,who was 23 at that time,was also jobless due to being legally blind so o understand. We both had no money..but since we had a church hone who supported UA and threw a very lovely baby shower..I received things I already had and didn't have.So you just can't worry about those things right now.Dont know your religious bkgrnd but give it to God.And who caare s about what people say.God makes no mistakes.. Your unborn is there for a reason. If you have underatanding loved ones..they're not gonna put a pregnant woman and her child out.If so...then you know they aren't people you need to surround yourself with.Don't stress out..gather with your bf/bd and pray about the job situation. A family that Prays most definitely Stays together. I hope my words were encouraging.Take care

Stephanie - posted on 02/27/2014

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My friend is in the same boat almost 21 with a 6 month old and living with family as well her baby daddy left her so she's doin it all on her own n 3 months pregnant. But she is keeping her baby as it is not fair to keep the 1st n not the 2nd child. If u want it u will find a way like her she has no job and only help from the state for money.

Megan - posted on 02/25/2014

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You seem to kbow what ypu Want and Meed to do. You are nervous (totally underatandable) and fear the unknown - also totally understandable. My adbice: be as honest as you can, as early as you can. Be confident in your choices (the ones you will not change) and be open to the advice from those closest to you, that truly love you. But be firm and upfront too, if you are sure, and are going to have this baby, that is one of the first things you say. You already have many of the things the new baby will need, you will need help, but you can do it. Best ask your boyfriend to try to get some help getting a job. It takes a village right? Well it takes a village for lots of things. Best of luck!

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