23 & a stay at home mom... What can I do to not be so lonely...

Allison - posted on 12/20/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm a 23 year old stay at home mom. My beautiful daughter Sienna is seven months, very active, crawling, and almost walking! I spend my days cleaning, doing laundry, running errands such as grocery shopping, and watching movies. I live in a very rural part of VT, almost an hour away from all of my friends and most activities. Since I am a young mother I do not have a lot in common with most of them anymore anyway and after I had Sienna a lot of them kind of faded out of my life. My fiance works from 5 am and doesn't get home until 7 pm. I find myself getting very lonely in the boonies. I play with my daughter quite a bit but I still feel depressed. It is even starting to have ramifications on my relationship with my fiance. Please help with any advice I need an outsiders input.. Thank you!

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Feah - posted on 12/21/2012

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Oh, yay I can understand that! Ice and babies is a no go. But maybe in the summer or spring you can start your own group? Meet for coffee or something? I live in Texas so we never have that problem :p! Another solution is to pick up a new skill and teach your self, I am learning how to use a sewing machine via youtube videos. My mother used to tile while we were at school and now she is great! Find something you have always wanted to do or something other people tell say you are good at and give it a try! or if all else fails, i can be your email pen pal :D

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Eva - posted on 12/22/2012

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As much as I understand not wanting to drive on bad roads in rough weather, I recommend just GETTING OUT when you can. I've discovered that you don't even have to be SOCIALIZING, as long as you are in a place with lots of people. For example, I like to go out for coffee with my 3 month old (during his naps), or head to the library and check out the magazines (I'm into home decor but don't want 10 different subscriptions - I love having the chance to flip through years of Elle Decor!)

Just go, get out, if you have the energy and the roads look OK. Sometimes trying to find company can be disheartening (when you call and no one's home, or you reach them but they're busy right now). Part of what you're feeling is just a lack of INDEPENDENCE. So go out there and prove to yourself you still have some.

I should note that this may take some practice; that crawling stage makes young kid awkward to take out. We have one cafe in my town that is carpeted with couches, and that one is my FAVOURITE.

Allison - posted on 12/21/2012

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There are a few girls I know that have kids, but with winter here and the roads getting bad its harder to leave the house with the little one. I live in the middle of the woods, all dirt roads, and steep roads as that. I know it sounds like excuses but the last thing I want is to go off the road with my baby in the car.

Feah - posted on 12/20/2012

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Start a mommy blog? I know it sounds crazy but it will give you an adult outlook and its fun!
There are many sites that are free. or you could start your own mothers group?

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