23 year old single mom, dating a 24 year old single dad...

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Sadecorke - posted on 02/17/2014

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I totally agree with you. But you have to remember that Everyone parenting skills are different. Besides grandma is going to feel like your overstepping boundaries and feel protective of her grand daughter. Be careful with his mom, she is nosy and she already spoke to you about ut, she didn't have to bring it up to him. That was unnecessary. But, I do think you need to calmly tell him how u feel. And the whole thing about not wanting his daughter to know your his girlfriend is crap. I don't get it. I am so your going through this but I have a question, since the mom is still in the picture, does she know about you? Is he afraid his daughter will tell her mom about you and her dad? Is he still messing with the mom? These are what you should figure out. If he''s not, well you just have to decide if you can live with it. Good luck and I hope everything works out

Jennifernider - posted on 02/17/2014

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We'll it might be a delicate issue but it's bothering you and a year it a long time I think u should really think about what u want and don't push it under the table if he really cares about u thank he will listen and if he still fights u about both issues then u need to think about you and your daughters happiness it's a tuff situation but ur not happy and remember nobody is looking out for you but you

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We will be together for one year this April. So not TOO terribly long- but long enough that i feel like his daughter should know we're a couple. I think he's afraid that if she finds out she'll no longer like me, and she'll become jealous of me, and dislike me. She's already told him that her mom "hates" me and my daughter.

Normally we're very good about communicating how we feel to each other, but this seems like such a delicate topic....and I don't want him to feel like I'm undernining one if his parental decisions.

It just kinda eats away at me when we're all together and i feel like my daughter and I mught as well have not been there.

Part of me feels like when he does that, he's kind of encouraging jealous behavior, because she's getting 100% of the attention, so she's used to it and expects it.

Not that I think he shouldnt give her attention. I understand he shares custody with her mother, and he has her week on, then week off, but when uou're with others, especially your girlfriend and her child, they need attention too.

Jennifernider - posted on 02/17/2014

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Sounds like ur in a tuff spot I really think that u should talk to him again about how u are feeling or it's just going to keep bothering you, how long have u guys been together, I have to been in ur situation but I totally get where you are coming from I really think it's best to be completely honest with each other or it will keep bothering you

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