2nd child and scared!

Tanya - posted on 04/16/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am currently 3 weeks pregnant and have a 2 year old boy. I'm nervous that my son will be jealous of a new baby spending so much time with me ! I love my son to pieces and will be trying my best to equalize bonding time. I just fear my son will feel unloved and not want a little brother or sister due to all the new baby attention. I don't know if I'm just being hormonal about it and I know I have a little more than 8 months to prepare him for this but I'm just getting anxiety thinking about it.
Does any one have any experience or advice???

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Jennifer - posted on 04/16/2014

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My sister has three boys 8, 6 and 2 in June. The oldest did great moving over and being the big brother. (We really pumped him up) However her second boy did not do so well since he was the baby for so long and was treated as such until my sister was 8 months with number three. (BIG mistake) She was so worried about him being the middle child that she buttered him up her whole third pregnancy. Now he still acts like baby boy to this day and always says he is the baby! Lol. I would really focus on big brother and letting him help with picking names and clothes and toys ect. The more he feels like big brother the better. It will be a piece of cake if you get your little guy just as excited as everyone else about the new baby and new BIG brother. Don't stress it too much or you'll end up like my sister with both of them thinking they are the baby. Best of luck to you!!

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Tanya - posted on 04/17/2014

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I will let you know! Thank you for the advice:) hopefully everything goes smoothly as I hope!

Jennifer - posted on 04/16/2014

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You will have more than enough love for both of them (words of my sister) and plus the thing my nephew loves the most about being BIG brother is that he will always be number ONE born. Lol. It will be fine once they meet. I was so worried when my daughter was born (first granddaughter) and my oldest nephew looked at me when he met her for the first time and said "now we have a girl baby". You know to tell you the truth my daughter just turned one last month and I am beginning to get that scared feeling about giving her a sibling... So in fact you may want to let me know how it turns out for you. Lol.

Tanya - posted on 04/16/2014

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Thank you for the response! It helped a lot :) I guess I was kinda feeling guilty that my baby isn't going to be "the baby" anymore.

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