2nd trimester loss, D&C, and ttc...need advice from someone who's been through this...

Amber - posted on 09/24/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I recently lost my daughter at 16 weeks. I had a d&c done on September 12th. I don't think I've ever been this devastated. Besides being an emotional wreck I am having weird bleeding. It stops for 36 hours, then a lot of bright red bleeding starts...and then lots of brown spotting w/ mucous like stuff...and then nothing...after that it starts all over. With my last d&c in 2007 it just tapered off within a week and stopped. I'm not sure if this is normal bleeding or not bc last time I lost the baby at 7wks. I wish this bleeding would stop as it is just a constant reminder that she is gone. I'm ready for my period to start and be able to ttc again. How long did you bleed after your d&c? Also, after the bleeding stopped when did you get your period? Oh, and when you ttc afterwards, how long did it take you to get preg? Today is my ten year anniversary and my bday is in a couple of weeks so I'm looking for something to give me some hope so I don't feel so depressed during these times. Thanks in advance for your help/advice.

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Amber - posted on 09/26/2012

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Ty Melissa...I am having such a hard time with it all. I miss Ella so much and things in my life are not going right, which is making it worse. I feel so depressed. I hate it. This bleeding is ridiculous...it stops and starts back...every time I think it is ending it comes back. Feels like it will be forever before I am normal again :/ I am going to talk to my doc ab when it is okay to ttc again. It's the only thing that gives me hope. Although it is a scary thought to be preg again.

Melissa - posted on 09/25/2012

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I know exactly how you feel. I lost my little angel Kaylani Meri at 21wks due to my cervix being to small and unable to carry her full term. My water never broke my sac left my cervix and I had to go into preterm labor before her lungs were fully developed. Its rough being that i had to cremate my child and i had her on my birthday which makes my day feel not so special anymore. This was January 2010 when i lost her I got pregnant again February 2011 which gave my body time to rest and recoup. This time around i got a cerclage (my cervix sowed up) mid pregnancy and was blessed with another beautiful baby girl named Che'lynn.. Don't rush wait a little while because u don't want your body to go through stress all over again so soon. The feeling doesn't go away but it does get easier and you do have a chance to try try again.. I wish u the best of luck and know that everything happens for a reason some reasons not for u to understand. As far as the bleeding it really depends on your body I bled a long time (Miserably)

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