36 weeks an severly depressed

Tina - posted on 12/03/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




im really depressed as of late i feel as if things are falling apart with me an my fiance he dont think so though! we are fighting a lot more than normal an i hate it so much! i feel like im goin to be a terrible mom that all im goin to do is mess up my sons life worse than my own! i just dont know what to do anymore!


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Corene - posted on 06/14/2013




I am so sorry to hear you are struggling right now. I am at 32 weeks, and when I was at 27 weeks I hit a major wall with my depression. I have struggled with depression since I was in junior high, and it comes and goes,but with this pregnancy it has hit full force. Talk to your doctor, let them know how you are feeling. They can help you. A lot it could be hormones, all the changes going in in your body, and I am sure you are overwhelmed. I don't know what your dr will advise, but make sure you are taking care of yourself- listen to your body! Rest when you need to, eat healthy, and (this is my weakness) ask for help of you need to- even if it is just an ear and a shoulder to cry on. Since you are far enough along, your dr may even prescribe some medication, or suggest seeing a therapist to help you work through it. On my personal experience, when I found I was pregnant both times I went off my antidepressant mess cold turkey. My first baby I did ok, as long as I didn't get too stressed, then I would have panic attacks. This time, the depression overwhelmed me that my dr said I was at more risk if I didn't go back on my medicine, just at a lower dosage.

Basically, don't be afraid to speak up. It's a crazy time, and it's hard to not be overwhelmed. Take care of you and your baby and hopefully you should feel better soon. Best of luck to you.

Krista - posted on 12/07/2012




i am going through the same thing right now, you just gotta think about how u guys were before, and that its just your hormones

Rosie - posted on 12/08/2010




*****Girl, I have been there and done that. i was depressed during my pregnancy and i admitted myself to one of the best hospitals in my city. This wasn't a bad thing because i receievd quality patient care from the staff. i got to know some of the pts also. My stay in the hospital was like speending a few days in a high quality hotel, except I was on the psych ward. you can't get any better than that, especially if you have insurance LOL. I am better now and i feel great. My baby is healthy and i am grateful that i got help for my problem. I wish yo all the best.

Danielle - posted on 12/08/2010




36 weeks pregnant? Hun, your hormones are messing with your emotions so much right now you are in no condition to evaluate your relationship. And not for a good 6 months after your baby is born either. You're going to go through a roller coaster in the next little while but it will all be worth it in the end. Talk to your doctor about your feelings. It will pay off to express your concerns to a health professional.

Angie - posted on 12/08/2010




I was the same way at the end of my pregnancy. Hormones combined with the discomfort of being huge and having to pee all the time just made me feel hopelessly depressed and agitated. Your worries are normal and what's going on is normal. Please just take care of yourself and if you feel the depression hasn't gone away or has gotten worse after the baby is born, see your doctor!

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2010




Hey Tina, I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. When I hit my 32nd week of pregnancy with my son, I started feeling extremely depressed, too. It was a horrible feeling! I was absolutely exhausted, didn't feel like doing anything, and I felt like things were falling apart. Just like you, I felt like I was going to be a terrible mom who wouldn't be able to handle it. As others have said, it's very common to have these feelings, and knowing that others are going through the same thing can be really reassuring! Hang in there, Tina! You're almost there! Remember that we are all here to talk if you need anything!

Crystal - posted on 12/04/2010




While you are pregnant your hormones make everything seem like a much bigger deal then they realy what you see as a massive foght may have been just a minnor dissagrement. I am pregnant with my second child and completely understand what your going through I am 35 weeks. try and relax and remember to take a deep breath. I am sure you will be a wonderful mother I had my doubts through my first pregnancy. just remember dont make any major life changing decisions untill after your baby is born and you have a chance for your body to return to normal then you will see if everything is realy as much of a problem as they seemed before.
Good luck hunn with the last of your pregnancy and I hope this helped

Tina - posted on 12/04/2010




thank you all very much this has made me feel alot better actually!! an i have talk to my doctor about me being depressed she wont do anythin about shes not that great of a doctor!!

Ashley - posted on 12/04/2010




I agree with what has been said here its the hormones I know thats not the answer you want to hear .. I say that because when I was pregnant and got very emotional and people said that it only made me more upset .. but its true.. same with the fighting with our second my husband and I would fight all the time and even after baby was born its a big adjustment not only him but you too babies take alot out of you and most people don't realize that being pregnant is a very hard time on a women lol ... make sure you talk to your dr about this too tho because it could lead to the baby blues as well .. if you ever need to talk message me ! :)

Stifler's - posted on 12/04/2010




I agree with the others, pregnancy makes you really hormonal and moody and you feel like the world is against you sometimes. Take the next 4 weeks out to relax and sleep a lot!!

Melissa - posted on 12/03/2010




Everything you're going through is completely normal. Through the majority of my pregnancy I fought with almost everybody and (not saying you're to blame BUT) it was because my hormones were so out of wack that I just wasn't myself! If that is the case, it's not your fault, you can't control your hormones and they are definitely CRAZY when you're pregnant!

You being scared about being a bad mother is also normal. I raised both of my brothers almost on my own, and any friend of mine who's had a child has always come to me for advice and assistance, and yet when pregnant with my own I was still terrified that I wouldn't know what I was doing. That concern only says that you care enough to actually be a good mother!

If you feel your life has been messed up (welcome to the club lol) then that will give you goals and guidelines to go by when raising your own child. You have your own life experiences, regrets, wishes, that will help lead you towards making the best decisions possible. You'll make mistakes, we all do, and when you do the only thing you can do is learn from it. But as long as you wake up every day striving to be the best parent possible, then even a "mistake" couldn't be seen as an actual "mistake"!

If you're worried about feeling depressed DEFINITELY talk to your doctor. Any stress you feel during the pregnancy isn't good for you or the little one, so try to remain as stress free as possible. The doctor could possibly offer someone to talk to, someone who might be able to give you some one on one support.

I wish you the best of luck :0) I'm sure you'll make a wonderful Mommy ♥

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I'm there with you, hon. I'll be 35 weeks Monday with my first and I've been pretty down too. I think it's just the hormones. If your fiance thinks everything is okay, and you can't find any specific reason for it to not be okay, then try to sit back and relax because it probably IS just the hormones.

Like Laura said, you're already a great mom because you're worried about being a bad one. You're not going to mess your son's life up just because you are having a few bad days. He's gonna be here any day now, and when you get to hold him you will be so happy. Everyone has their bad days, especially pregnant women. Try not to stress out too much and make sure you and your man continue to communicate with each other because that will help so much.

Laura - posted on 12/03/2010




Ok, first the fact that you are so worried about being a terrible mom is normal and you're on the track to becoming a good mom. It sounds like you know from personal experience what not to do and that's a great start. Right now your hormones are running rampant and arguing with your fiance more is normal. I'm at almost 30 weeks with my third and sometimes I just need to walk out of the room cuz my hubby makes me sooooooo mad. When you get worked up like that you need to remember that the stress is not good for your son and just step away from the situation. Before you know it your precious miracle will be here and your maternal instincts will kick in. There are lots of ways to raise a child the right way, follow your instincts and don't be afraid to ask for help. Good luck to you and I know you will be a wonderful mom.

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