3months pregnant,Stressed out,violence,had to break up with baby father.Advice please.Im new.

Kisie - posted on 02/23/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Well I was dating the father of my unborn child for a year,we did have a good and close relationship but he did some immature things like when we argued sometimes he talked to other girls and when he had a job he was trying to talk to this girl.when I would break up with him he would always be in denial.we just recently broke up like 2 days ago.I'm 3 months pregnant and his sister I knew for a long time put her hands on me an I defended myself she also kicked me in the stomach when I had her on the ground.i decided to press charges and he's been acting funny towards me alittle bit before we broke up and told me that I wasn't pressing charges on her for our unborn child I was pressing charges to be evil and that made me cry because I'm not being evil.i broke up with him because He was barely textinG or calling and he would treat me like crap. Well he hasn't texted or called me or nothing.I feel really bad and worried that he has moved on already and I been crying.I was wondering how do I forget this guy and get over him? I wanted an abortion because his family is not the best role models...his mother drinks everyday,his sister has 4 kids and is 21 and her husband smokes pot and sells it while she works...my baby's father is 21..he got an apartment with his mom temporarily and doesn't have a job right now.but used his income tax to buy cable,a cash car with no license,clothes,and etc. he's a bit irresponsible..it's only been a couple of days but he's been a jerk to me and not really contacting me..I feel bad for pressing charges but I did it for my unborn child.

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Brian - posted on 02/24/2014

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Get away from him. Whatever decision you make concerning the future of the baby is your decision, but no matter what, you need to get him out of your life.
You have openly admitted that he is awful and you don't want to be with him. The longer you stay with him in any manner, the more he is going to make your insecurity grow. He manipulates you, and you allow it to happen. Stop being his doormat.

Gabby - posted on 02/28/2014

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Hi Kisie, Enjoy every moment of your pregnancy. You couldn't have done better than to press charges. If that girl decided to put hands on you now being pregnant and your EX not supporting you in your decision to protect yourself and your baby shows you that they have no love for either of you. Move on, keep your mind busy with your pregnancy and your plans for the future. You could be a great single mom without having to worry about immature and irresponsible people...Always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Good Luck! :-)

Ala - posted on 02/24/2014

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Kisie, I will add to everyone's idea about walking away from this kind of family and unhealthy environment. When I started reading your post it almost reminded me of my ex-husband at that time fiancée when I was pregnant, but then you mentioning the violence and pot and .... this is really not a good environment for your child. This does not mean you need to give up on the baby. The best thing to is probably to move as far as you can, somewhere closer to your family, or anywhere away from the daddy's family, he and his family is obviously going to be a negative influence. I know hot stressful it is to move , especially when pregnant, believe me. It will be worth it. Do what you know is right for your child right now, do not consider anybody else's interest right now, and please do not feel bad for pressing charges. A good help when you move can be joining some local communities, there are always moms' club everywhere you go, I promise. use facebook, twitter, online communities and local ones as well, churches, etc. they can always help you get started as a single mom. I am not saying get ready for a single mom's path, because you should let other in your life (romantically, friends...) but always be prepared to do the right thing by your baby, but you already are doing so.... good luck!

Casey - posted on 02/24/2014

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The best thing you can do at this point in time is walk away. You should not stressing yourself over a guy especially while being pregnant. Stress not only affects you but it also affects your unborn child. Maybe this guy needs some space to grow up, if he can't treat you w/ respect then he def. doesn't not deserve you.

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Aleshia - posted on 02/27/2014

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I'm sorry for you , you where right to charge him. From what happened to me and my story I would not keep the baby unless you can make enough money to do it all your self So your not stuck with a man because you can't pay all the bills by your self. Being with someone because your stuck because of money is not a good feeling. If he it only21 I'm guessing your young your self, you have your whole life to be a mom. Do whatever is best for you. Good luck.

Kisie - posted on 02/24/2014

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I want to thank you all for taking the time to give me advice,it has helped me a lot.It really means a lot.Thank you so much and god bless you guys!

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