4 month old wont self settle to sleep

K - posted on 04/25/2014 ( 22 moms have responded )

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4 month old wont self settle to sleep and only catnaps during the day, sometimes 5 minutes sometimes 30 minutes. Any tips on getting a baby to self settle, we have tried wrapping and putting her to bed before she gets tired but it doesn't work.
I'm also wondering if she's a little hungry which I guess may play a part...

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Crystal - posted on 04/29/2014

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Try to remember she's only 4 months!!! Does she sleep through the night?

Mary - posted on 04/27/2014

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It would def help if she wasn't hungry, but then again if she sleeps well at night she can't be starving?? I'm in the same boat with my baby, not putting on much weight etc but sleeps so well at night I'm thinking, how can she be hungry? I don't want to top her up with formula but haven't got the time for expressing as its number 3???
Another thing to look at too, is the routine....making sure she is tired and ready for a sleep? At four months babies only need about three sleeps during the day (from 7am until 6:30/7pm), so maybe needs to stay awake a bit longer....but without getting overtired of course.....help - babies are such a trick!!!!

Chandra - posted on 04/26/2014

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Dont worry to much about your daughter settling herself to sleep when she is ready to she will and you will be so proud of her ,dont force her to it can cause confusion, anxiety and trust issues, i have an 11month old boy i tried letting him settle himself once it did not work he got so worked up he got a stress rash it was insane ,so i just carried on with what i was doing from the get go nursing him for bed time and nap time he'd eat till full and id hold while sitting on my yoga ball swaying and humming, and he just snoozes sometimes i can skip the feed for nap time doing this has helped him learn its okay to sleep on your own cause he'll fall asleep in his playard or on the rug after playing ,so dont fret she'll soothe herself when shes ready it may not be consistent but it will come.regarding the latching what you can try i when you bring your child to your breast back up a little before she latches this will cause her to open her Mouth wider. When this happens cup your breast submerge the full areola on her mouth that should help with latching as for the pain once she gets the latching down soreness will lessen. ..till the teeth come in ;-) hope this was somewhat helpful and good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 04/25/2014

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I think 95% of the time is that babies just aren't full enough, my baby will get really full & sleep for 4/6hrs. Its a new thing sleeping that long, but I would definitely try feeding your baby more., how old is your baby?

Mary - posted on 04/25/2014

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At some stage babies have to learn to settle themselves, the sooner the better! Try wrapping tight, a sleepy cuddle then into bed. Leave baby for a bit but don't let her get too wound up then go back in and settle her down again, picking her up and cuddling if necessary. Repeat until she goes to sleep. Strongly recommend not rocking because that creates such bad habits!

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K - posted on 04/29/2014

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No we don't use a dummy - my milk supply issues and her attachment problems meant we definitely didn't want to and we are surviving without one.... She doesn't cry that much at all.. We will try a bit more of a routine rather than guessing when she's tired. Thanks so much!!!!!!

Crystal - posted on 04/29/2014

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I completely understand! :) Count your blessings bc my 4 month old wakes up every 2 hours still. This is somewhat of her schedule: see if it helps you....

Wakes up around 630-7. I keep her up for 2 hours. So her first nap is around 8-830. When she gets up I nurse het and keep her very active. Her naps range from 45 mins to 130. Her naps following that are usually 1030, 130, 430 being her last nap. We keep her up 3 hours before bed. Doing bath time, stories, songs, ect.

I think u do whatever works right now. Are u using a pacifier?

K - posted on 04/29/2014

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Yes she will sleep 9 or so hours at night. I just find it hard to pick when she's tired and ready to sleep before getting overtired during day. So I'm not complaining about the amount of sleep we are/aren't getting... Just concerned that she won't settle herself and worried that we are setting her up for bad habits by holding her to sleep - seems we have no other option.

Christine - posted on 04/29/2014

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I think that's normal. My son just turned 6 months and now is barely starting to nap longer. Hang in there. Longer naps will happen!

K - posted on 04/28/2014

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She just will not put herself to sleep its so frustrating and tiring having to hold her. Its stressful. Why won't she just self settle!!!!!!

K - posted on 04/27/2014

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Yes we are finding it hard to figure out the right time to put her down for sleep.... I was considering the save our sleep routine but I don't like the idea of strict feeding and sleeping routines, a bit more flexibility what do you think?? Eg she sometimes sleeps from 930pm - 730am... Not sure how to bring her bedtime forward to 7pm as in the book because she usually feeds again after that...
Also I don't exactly like letting her cry, I did try it yesterday and she fell asleep after 10 min of protesting and me tapping her belly/chest but it felt so cruel as she looked up at me as if to say pick me up!!!!!

Crystal - posted on 04/27/2014

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I found that when my daughtet gets tired if I keep her up just a little longer... say 2 hours and I nurse her... play the same music each time and lay her on her belly it helps big time. I was concerned at first about placing her on her belly... but the strength of her head is fine. Im not worried.

K - posted on 04/27/2014

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No on her back...
We do get sleep overnight its just daytime that she won't sleep long.!

Crystal - posted on 04/27/2014

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Yea me too. Seems like we are in the same exact boat right now! I feel like I sing the same song 100 times. Do u lay her on her belly

K - posted on 04/27/2014

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Thanks I will try that. Do you think if my milk supply increases that it will help her self settle during the day and sleep for longer than a catnap?

Crystal - posted on 04/26/2014

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I think its a phase. My daughter is the same way right now. Boy is it frustrating. I need sleep as I am sure u do too. I am hoping it gets better soon. I guess u could let her cry... I know I cant. It has tl get better soon right.

K - posted on 04/26/2014

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The thing is she sleeps well at night its during the day where she is tired but just doesn't sleep!!

Tiffany - posted on 04/26/2014

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It should def help.

Don't worry everything with get better with yoir baby sleeping once he/she gets just alittle more to eat.. keep your chin up & dont run out of coffee Lol ;))

K - posted on 04/26/2014

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I have started again now yes, I had to after every feed when she was first born. So I'm back expressing now so hopefully that helps!!!

K - posted on 04/26/2014

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Thanks so much, she has just gone 4 months..... I've had milk supply issues since day dot and am on medication to help it, I took her to health centre and she has gained but not as much as my lactation consultant would like...... I've started expressing again a couple of hours after her last feed so that I can use it to top her up after feeds...... Hopefully my supply catches up with her needs because she's not sleeping much at all during day.....

K - posted on 04/25/2014

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Also forgot to add that we have to rock her and sing to her to settle her. She screams if we try to put her down if she's overtired etc

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