4-year-old throwing tantrums

Rachelle - posted on 09/13/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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any advice on how to calm down a four-year-old little girl who screams, thrashes, throws stuff, and completely refuses to listen to any of your reasoning? i've been having trouble putting an end to my daughter's tantrums, which she throws everytime she doesn't get her way. help???

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i used a time out chair for my 5 year old when he would do that (sometimes i still have to). i would tel him why he's being up there. he would have to pick up his mess and stay in the seat until he calmed down and apologize for what he done. after it all ended, i would say how much i love him. she will grow out of it, it's a stage. ask your doctor what their best advice is.

Rachelle - posted on 09/13/2009

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Many thanks to all those who have added their insights. I have 2 kids, a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old, and it's been a struggle to enforce discipline on them. I really appreciate your wisdom. = )

Anita - posted on 09/13/2009

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my #1 rule is never give in to tantrums because it teaches them if they throw a fit it will give them what they want. my son has 2 types of tantrums: 1 type he is just being stubborn and is trying to wear us down until he gets what he wants, the other type is when he's having such strong emotions that he is to younge to express effectively. When the second type happens I rub his back, and cuddle with him to calm him to the point he can talk about it. GOOD LUCK!!

Colleen - posted on 09/13/2009

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Ah yes tantrums, what fun they can be. The more attention you give to a tantrum the longer and more frequent they become. Have you tried ignoring them, walking into another room and let her carry on, or putting her in her room and letting her rage, she will soon realize that is not the way to get her feelings across when you are not attentitive to them . The point of the tantrum is for attention, reasoning will not work while in tantrum mode, wait until she calms down and then talk to her about it.

Sarah - posted on 09/13/2009

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My daughter is 3 years old but she will act like that sometimes. What I do with her is bend down so that we are eye level and calm her down ask her what is the problem is and if it is because you would let her have something or do something then do something that you guys can do right then to get her mind off of what she was haing a tantrum about. This works with my daughter. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

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