4 year old will not sleep in his own bed

Melissa - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my 4 year old son will not sleep in his bed. He will crawl in bed with my b/f and me. I don't know what to do. Please help.

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Sylvia - posted on 07/31/2009

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If you wake up when he gets in your bed try taking him back to his room and laying with him until he goes to sleep. I had to do that for a while. Also a reward system may work. Get a chart. Everyday he stays in his bed give him a sticker. After so many days in a row surprise him.

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Kristi - posted on 08/17/2009

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Hi Melissa! My friend has the same problem with her three year old. She would set up a normal bedtime routine that ended up with them in their room and the first time that her son tried to climb into bed she would take him back and tell him he had to sleep by himself. The next time she would threaten him with locking the door, which i know sounds me but it does work. The next time she takes him back and does lock the door. It took three days of him doing this. After she locked the door he would scream for about 20 mins. but as all moms know it never hurt a kid to scream. it truly hurts us more than them. good luck!!!

User - posted on 08/17/2009

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I had the same problem with all of my children. Not that this will help but what I did is put music in the room, took the TV out, we read a book before bed every night. They are also not allowed to play in their room. I try to associate the bedroom with sleeping ONLY. I also put glowing stars on the ceiling so that it was COOL to be in their at night they helped put them up and we explained that these only stay up if they sleep in their own bed or they will come down. We then tell them that if they sleep in their own bed the "sticker fairy" will come and then before we wake them in the morning we put stickers on their faces. LOL. The other big thing is just putting them back in bed over and over and over and over. You have to set the atmosphere that bed is a comfy, safe, place but also enforce that is where they are to go.

Jenni - posted on 07/31/2009

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My one year old won't sleep in his crib either. He will cry for over an hour and wake up at least once an hour if he is in his crib. Neither of us get any sleep

Aimee - posted on 07/31/2009

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Yes I agree you should not have to be giving awards for your child to sleep in his own bed!!! I know it's hard I have 3 children and I went through this with my middle child, I just had to use a very firm voice and keep putting him back in bed it took 2 weeks, then he was just fine. Good luck to you :)

Misty - posted on 07/31/2009

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I have to agree with Sylvia Curry instead of the other lady, cause I did the reward thing first with candy after his snack and to let him know what it was for then I moved to the stickers and he finally grew out of all that. But, I was doing it even when he went to his dads so it was alot harder and more work, so, hopefully do odn't ave to do the same.

Rocelle - posted on 07/31/2009

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There isnt much that you can do but play the game. You pick them up you put them back you say nothing and you walk away and you repeat until they finally fall asleep. Sometimes it takes hours sometimes days, but eventually they break, THEY ALWAYS BREAK! It is hard, some kids are more harder then others, but you have to be consistent. If you dont do what you say then they keep trying cause they know eventually after so long of the game you give up and give in. Just keep telling yourself it will be over soon it will be over soon, they will wear themselves out soon. Cause they will trust me they will. You just have to follow though and do the same thing every night, and make sure you dont have to do anything in the morning cause it will be a long couple of nights, good luck! Hope this helps some.

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