5 year old boy freaking out constantly and afraid of EVERYTHING!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 11/17/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Can someone PLEASE help me, i am at my wits end and dont know what to do anymore. I have a 5 year old son, hes in kindergarten and has always been the nervous type but no where near its been lately. He has freak outs over stuff like bugs (flies mainly, he sees one he will almost make himself sick he panics that much) heights (i had to climb into a mcdonalds playland one day and bring him down while the other parents and kids looked on) a few days ago i said hold on in our vehicle i had to go less than 10 feet and grab the mail only me and him i had it shut off and didnt see a problem since i was in sight he panicked that bad he made himself sick and turned the panic alarm on same time. (that was the beginning of it all) yesterday he freaked over a fly outside had to haul him out to get him to go to school, freaked over me tying a recycling bag, freaked over me having to wash our frying pan i use for grilled cheezes, freaked over having to get the school bus (he always has but 2 days ago the teacher took 2 minutes to get to the bus cuz it showed early to bring them in) freaked cuz i couldnt pick him up cuz i had work right around the corner from where we live (im a pca) when i got off it was 10 mins before the bus showed up and he was outta school 15 minutes at that point) and freaked cuz i forgot to get a head of lettuce to make tacos. It's not even 8am, we got up at 7 and he already had a massive freak out, i had to bring out the garbage, i have a 16 mth old who was still asleep so i asked him to stay in the house for a minute while i brought the garbage to the driveway like i does every week incase his brother woke up so he could let me know, well he freaked that bad he threw up all over the carpet and door, woke his brother and woke the people upstairs (were in a basement apt). i desperately need help/advice, ive tried everything i can think of and i am literally at my wits end here.

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Missamyterry - posted on 01/13/2014

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It really sounds like he is suffering from a sensory disorder. My cousin's daughter was recently diagnosed as having this and she did some of the same things. Basically their sensory system is on overload all of the time. Definitely get a referral to see a psychotherapist. The sooner you can get him treated, the better end results you'll have.

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I feel for you. My daughter was the same way. She was "painfully shy" and fearful of many things. Luckily we are able to homeschool her so half of the issues you have to deal with are avoided.

Anxiety issues are common in my side of the family and the only way to overcome them comes from inner strength and desire.

At 10yo my daughter is still easily agitated, but not to the point of major meltdowns. She transitions more easily after that first wave of panic. She is no longer bothered by insects flying past her. The night light in her room went out and she was OK. Really, the one fear she that lingers is the fear of eating outside.

You cannot will away your child's fears. Explain as best you can what you expect to happen and how he can cope with it. And then be loving and supportive. Losing your composure is counterproductive.

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Susan - posted on 01/13/2014

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Sounds like a very stressful situation! I tend to under react before I over react-- Are you managing not to react to him? It is probably very difficult, but try to remain calm yourself--(act as if--even if inside you are anticipating his reaction's before they happen. Keep your voice calm, do not feed into it( please don't think I am minimizing your situation) ...tell him that he will be fine, and when the situations is over, remind him that he is fine and that everything is okay, and how well he did...
Obviously, if it gets worse, or other things start to occur, speak with your pediatrician. Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 11/18/2011

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Just a suggestion but maybe you should get him checked out, there may be an underlying issue that is leading to this behavior. Things that seem totally unrelated can actually be connected in strange ways. Maybe he has some sensory issues, who knows? Better to get him seen by a professional just to rule anything out. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 11/17/2011

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I would talk to his physician and get a referral to a physcotherapist. My nephew was not to that extreme but he was a nervous child , at the age of 7 we found out he had tourette syndrome and his ticks were leading to a lot of this behavior. Now that he has been properly diagnosed and every one knows the signs and how to help in out he is a much happy , it's like someone flipped a switch. Also at Barnes and Knobles there are quit a few self help books on Nervous children. Good Luck!!!

Sarah - posted on 11/17/2011

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oh and hes deathly afraid of the dark too (if i gotta drive and its getting dark he freaks massively) and afraid of alot of toys and loud noises, its to the point his best friend dont even ask him to come over anymore because he has to hide half his toys first

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