6 year relationship/4 month old/father has another child on the way

Lauren - posted on 11/11/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi moms I am lauren.I am 26 and have a 4 month old boy.I was with the father for 6 years and this past year during my pregnancy I have seen a different side to him he lost his younger brother to cancer and it was just the beginning of my pregnancy. I put ny needs and our issues aside to be there dor him and in return.he asked me to have an abortion, he became physcially and emotionally and mentally abusive towards me because he wasn't ready to be a dad.he was my best friend and I just took a lot of the non sense and made the excuse that the reason he was being this way was because of everything he was going through.I was by mself throughout my pregnancy it was like pulling teeth to have him around.he didn't come til after my son was born highfiv ed me and left the last couple months if my pregnancy we went to therapy. Found out hebwas messing with a girl who knew me and my relationship with him.lets say she made it very convient and easy for him to not focus on us and his child.now she is due in april he is now with het becayse he said its si much bad air that he kniws I won't let it go.I'm hurting and been depressed and haven't feltb that bond I shoukd be feeling with myb son .it hurtd so bad.every yhing changed in a blink of an eye.I feel alone. He took me to court for custody and as of now ge has supervised visits and child support. Throufh all ofthis he plays mind games still abusive lies and his female friends and her friends just put everything out in social m edia disreguarding me and being disrespectful.I just need advice on how to handle things in a mature way.holdays approaching I have no ckue what to do with anything

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LaChaven - posted on 11/15/2013

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You welcome anytime... just keep ya head up... n do whats best for u and yours

LaChaven - posted on 11/13/2013

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Whatever you do sweetheart DO NOT take you frustration and angry out on the baby.... he is and will be a joy.... at times it will get hard being a single parent but it is worth while. I have two children a 7 month and 3 yr old different fathers... the beat thing u can do from my point of veiw is ignore him n be the best for ur self... ik it will be hard dealing with the ex n his girl but social media is there n u can either ignore it or let it.... having no fb twitter instagram is a great feeling n drama free.. focus on ur career if u have one of choice if not focus on what makes you happyn whats best for u n ur baby...

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