6year old daughter behaviour problems!

Chantelle - posted on 07/13/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi My daughter is behaving so badly recently, she is 6 years old (7 in oct) we never had the terrible 2's but we're paying for it now.
We have had a few changes over the last year, we had to move in with my mother in law, jess had to move move schools, which really hasn't bothered her, we had a parents evening this week and with her behaviour change I was expecting it to be the same at school but how wrong was I?? She doing so well at school she's is a level ahead of all other class friends, she behaves and is very organised at school polite and helpful.
At home she is a terror. She is messy, rude ungrateful, selfish, she argues back with me and her dad, has a very short temper and seems quite emotional, she will promise to be good but it only lasts for 10 mins tops. I feel like I'm always telling her off and taking things off her, I try to keep her mind occupied with after schools clubs twice a week and rainbows once a week. She has a huge garden to play in and lots of toys, we try to do things with her but she just behaves so badly that it becomes hard to have a nice day out anywhere.
Constant arguing and snapping back, she's started telling me and her father how to do things and what to do, she thinks she knows everything and thinks she is always right.
My mum and sister seem to think she may have a behaviour issue but I don't want to believe this as she is so well behaved at school and so kind. I don't understand how she can chance so much from school to home,
We have tried taking things away and reward charts naughty steps all the usual things.
I feel we have tried everything.
We love her with all our hearts as all parents do, I just want her to be happy and contented,
I am open to any advice or comments,
Thank you

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Christy - posted on 07/18/2013

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Look into Love and Logic it works wonders. I had some of these same issues with my son when he was little. He is all most 10yr now and been using Love and Logic since he was 7yr. We have his teachers use it in school and I use it at home. My son does have behavior issues and this was a god sent.

Tracey - posted on 07/24/2013

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Sounds like my daughter at the moment, I've spoken to a few mums at the school and they are all having the same problem. I have now just resorted to ignoring her when she has her tantrum and when she has finished ill say calmly why I said no or i'm not going to do this for you when u behave like that.

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Nicole - posted on 07/13/2013

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The charts never worked for me either and neither did lecturing. I've been implementing time outs and that seems to be helping. The minute she tries to tell me what is what I tell her blandly "no that's not how it works" and send her to a corner away from anything she enjoys. I stay with her so I can watch her behavior and when she calms down I explain to her what she did wrong and why that behavior is unacceptable . After that I ask her if I made myself clear and usually she says yes. then I give her an big hug and ask her "You know I love you, right?" Then she's allowed to go play again.

Nicole - posted on 07/13/2013

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I have a sister the same age I have been taking care of since she's been born. she'll be 7 in August. I know how you feel. It frustrates me to no end when she starts to behave that way. Its mostly just normal 6 year-old behavior though.

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