A doctor telling me I shouldn't have my child?

Jessica - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 379 moms have responded )

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I have really come to despise the way people look at some young mothers. I went to the doctors the other day because I had strep throat and when the doctor asked me if I had been around anyone that has been sick I replied "yes, my daughter just got over a cold" . He gave me a look then asked how old I was and if I had ever heard of birth control. WHAT! I told him I was 22 and yes I have heard of birth control. He then proceeded to tell me that at my age I should be more careful with my sex life! Excuse me? Yeah I may be 22 and have a nine month old daughter but I am also engaged to her father and have been with him since I was 16, I finished school and have been living out of my parents house since I was 16. What kind of professional has the right to tell me that I shouldn't have had a child? I am sick of it. Sure I can understand the concern that people have with young mothers, but not everyone is the same. I just can't take the way some people look at me when I am out with my daughter, older people aren't too bad, but in stores I get the worst looks. I have people telling me I should have given her up for adoption! How can people walk around telling other these things?
ARG! I am so mad. I am more responsible and caring than most mothers I know that are in there 30's. Have you dealt with anything like this? I mean, if a random person said it I'd be fine but a doctor?

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Rebecca - posted on 10/20/2009

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i had my first child at 17 and second at 18, and i know how you feel, i was born to be a mum, and i have provided for my children ever since they were born, i am now 24 and my boys are 6 and 5, i still get looks, at first it really annoyed me, but now i don't let it bother me, i don't smoke or drink, i have a beautiful home, and my children are really happy little boys, and i feel proud of myself and so should you, i have seen mothers who are in their thirties and can't even control their children out in public, they shout and smack their children without a care in the world, also have you ever watched "super nanny?" its a documentary about parents who can't cope with children, and you never see young parents on there, they are all in their thirties and struggling to cope. Here in Scotland, they have just brought an advert out about age discrimination, they quote "isn't it time we turn things around and see the person and not the age" i now bear that in mind whenever i get people staring at me. xx

Amanda - posted on 10/19/2009

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I was 21 when I had my first child and had been married to her father for 3 years and we had bought our own house the year befor. People would always come up to me and assume that I was an underage teen mom. My daughter got really sick whe she was a year old and dropped down to 20 pounds.The dr decided to instead of find out what was wrong she wanted to accused me of not feeding my daughter!!!! Me and my husband both went off and took our complaint to the medical board and she was fired!I later found out that she has H.F.I.,no thanks to the Drs!!

I am now 25 and I have a 2 1/2 month old son and I still get people telling me rude things about my age. I just tell them that I am smart for having my babies young,I get to enjoy life when they grow up,i get to enjoy there children and I still remeber what it was like to be a kid and I still know how to have fun with barbie dolls!! So I think I my kids benefit from me being "young and immature".

Mellody - posted on 10/17/2009

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Oh, I’ve had so many bad days over things like this. I was 20 when I had my daughter; I’m 21 now and she 9 months old. People generally think I look older then 21 but I still get dirty looks once in a while, more so when I was pregnant. And it was worse because I wasn’t (and am still not) with the father. We were dating and in love (well I thought we were) till he found out I was pregnant and wasn’t going to abort. To know that everything they were thinking was probably true made it hard.

What made it funny though, was that I lived with my best friend, and worked with her too, we were always together and constantly got crazy looks. If you thought it was bad to get dirty looks for being a young mum, try getting dirty looks from people who think you’re a young, lesbian mum hahaha. Those people I was able to laugh off. It was when I was out by myself and I got that rude look that was the worst.

But!!! I love my daughter very much, and although I didn’t plan her, and am a single mum, my daughter dresses better then me, eats better then me, and is way healthier then I. Obviously I’m doing something right. LOL. I might be young but that doesn’t mean I don’t know what I’m doing, and it certainly doesn’t mean I’m a bad mum.



And to all those people who think young people aren't "responsible" enough to have children, I think its the most responsible thing in the world. When you are 15 years old, and you decide, Yes I’m keeping this baby, you are making the most responsible decision in the world. To not only stand against what almost everyone thinks is a bad idea, and show them, I’m taking responsibility for myself, and for a baby, and you prove all of them wrong, that’s showing true responsibility. And then to not only do it, but to do it better then a lot of those older "more responsible" mums, well that’s got to be the best feeling in the world.



Having my little girl, having some one who I love so much, and having some one who loves me with all her heart, for real, is defiantly worth putting up with every dirty look, every vindictive comment, and every doubt anyone as ever had.



Keep your chin up, and those negative comments rolling off your back. Good on ya! Take care! :)

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Amy Nicole - posted on 05/14/2013

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First,i would find a new doctor.2.YOU SEEM like a great mom and no you shouldn't give your child up.3rd He needs too shut his mouth.

Paula - posted on 10/22/2009

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wow I can't beleive a professional would have said such things....not fair and how rude. all moms.....not matter what age deserve to love their children....

Paula - posted on 10/22/2009

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wow I can't beleive a professional would have said such things....not fair and how rude. all moms.....not matter what age deserve to love their children....

Ellie - posted on 10/22/2009

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I think the whole young mother thing is very culturally based. I live in a Jewish, religious area, where the average age that girls get married is about 20-21, and most of them are pregnant within the year. I was 22 when I had my daughter and because it is so prevalent, no one looked at me strangely or made comments. The prevalent belief is to start having children young and to have a lot, and then enjoy the grandchildren later. I think that the doctor has to be sensitive to cultural differences as well as people in general.

Heather - posted on 10/22/2009

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Some people in this world are down right mean. They think that because they personally feel one way about a topic, then everyone should feel this way, doctors included. I was on the depo shot for 6 years, and the doctor had told me that if, and that was a big if, if I was even abl to get pregnant, that it would take more than a year for it to get completely out of my system before I could. I got pregnant without even missing one. You have accomplished what so many young women have trouble with, graduating while not living at home. Ignore what other people have to say about this. All that matters is that you, and your little one is happy and healthy.

Amanda - posted on 10/22/2009

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I don't really get dirty looks, but my daughters doctor talks to me like i'm stupid. I am 20 and my daughter is 10 months old. In her doctors eyes I am the stupidest person in the world, everything I do is wrong, and she knows everything about every situation even though she's not there all the time to see it. That makes me mad. Most of the comments I get are from people my age, like "I could never have a baby at my age" or "I want to live my life before I have kids". But I'm not like every other 20 year old out there, I grauated high school at 17, I got married at 17, after we were married a year we decided to have a baby, it took a while. She was born december 12 and our 2 year anniversary was february 14. On the outside I am 20, on the inside I am much older, I was ready for a family at a young age. But it makes me mad when people have there "comments" about your life like it is any of there business

April - posted on 10/22/2009

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WOW I think I would have smacked him--at least thought about it anyways....I had my first child at 19. Noone ever said anything to me. My doctors were so supportive and offered me everything possible!! But I think I would find a new doctor....

Ashley - posted on 10/22/2009

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you know what who cares. i have two under 2 and i'm 23. ignore ppl. i was high risk for my 2nd and i got asked questions 10 times worse than what the dr told you. ya my first appointment i left and i cried but then after that i thought who cares. their not in your life forever. i dont want to be rude here but i find there's a lot of posts on here about how young mothers are being feeling sorry for themselves. that's society and that's the way it's always going to be so everyone needs to get over it. who cares what other people think. i find also when there's these posts alot of ppl will put down older moms. "i know someone who's older than me and their a horrible mom" well sorry but you are doing the exact same thing that people are doing to you. if you want to have children at any AGE you have to put up with judgemental people. that's the way our world works and unfortunately it will never change

Nicole - posted on 10/22/2009

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hate to be a some bad news to the professional or elder party here...but out of all my friends i went to high school with im like the last to be having my first child almost and im 21. most my friends started at 15, 16 and 17. but do not feel bad. least it is your doctor telling you this. my father behind my back found a family that can not have kids for 7 years even trying invetro fertilization and from my understanding promised them my baby. which is cruel to them and wrong to do to your own daughter just because he had better plans for me.

1 coerced abortion and adoption is illegal

2 im 21 and don't live with him

3 the father of my child and i are in love live together and talk of marriage.



unless the situation really calls for it and the mother of any child is actually mentally unstable or too drugged up and socially uncontrollably selfish then all opinions should be kept to yourself whether or not you think some one should have a child....

my heart goes out to those that can not have children and shame on those that shouldn't but that judgment isn't for every one to pass at free will

Emma - posted on 10/22/2009

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im 22 too i have a son that is 2 and im 7 weeks pregant no one can tell u how to live ure life thats so bad off him to say that turn the other cheek at him as just cus ure young does not mean ure not a good mom im shore your fab alot off people are so fast to jump on people that are young when there mothers out there that are 15 and younger so just life ure life to the full and turn the other cheek at the ones that have things to say good luck hun

Katrina - posted on 10/22/2009

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I know those looks and comments all to well! I had my first child when I was 20. People would always stare, make snide comments, or just ignore me like I wasn't there. My daughter is almost 9 years old now and I have 2 other children plus a stepson. I think I have done a GREAT job raising my children. It doesn't matter what age you are. It matters how you care for your child. When I had Alexis (my first child) my life wasn't all about me anymore it was about her. I wouldn't change that for the world. I love being a mom and am so thankful for all of my children. Just brush those people off and go on loving your child. What they think or say is of no matter to you. You know that you did the right thing for you and your child. God bless.

Casey - posted on 10/22/2009

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thats crazy, I would have told him to shove it, I personally don't even think you are a really young mum it's not like you are 14 or 15, I know tonnes of people who have had babies way younger then 22 I was only 3 years older then you when I had my baby and no-one has ever treated me like that, I can't understand why people would be that way when they see you with your daughter I think 22 is a very resonable age to have children at, some people are just weird don't even worry about.

Anika - posted on 10/22/2009

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Girl i am from Trinidad and here 12 year olds are having sex.Truly no one has the right tell you bout having a child except your mother and father,and yet the most they can tell you is get of the house over thier vextaion on you. But when that baby is here they forget they was vex about it.People have to relize life is import no matter to how youny we bring it in the world.Keep on loving your baby she will reward you.NEVER TO YOUNG.

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I can't beleive how rude some people are! I would complain about him... it's not as if you are a 15 year old who has got pregnant from a drunken one night stand! It was only about 20 - 30 years ago when it was normal for women to be married with children at the age of 20. Your doctor was out of order to say that to you.

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I can't beleive how rude some people are! I would complain about him... it's not as if you are a 15 year old who has got pregnant from a drunken one night stand! It was only about 20 - 30 years ago when it was normal for women to be married with children at the age of 20. Your doctor was out of order to say that to you.

Deborah - posted on 10/22/2009

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you should maybe make a complaint about your doctor that was an inappropriate comment for him to make

Shawnnell - posted on 10/21/2009

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Guess what you are better than me because everytime somebody would look at me funny that would be the last time they would do something like that. People need to mind there business sometimes they dont have to take care of your kids. That doctor i would have gave him the blues reported him than got my doctor change. Girl as long as your taking care of your kids dont let no one pull you out of your position.

Carissa - posted on 10/21/2009

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im 25 now, but had my first son at 20. i got everyone shaking their heads at me when i went out with him. i mean i was a legal adult, had graduated from high school, and had a good job, and my own apartment. and they just assumed that he was an "opps" and that i should be greatful that his daddy stood by me. really, we knew we wanted to have a baby, and made the choice to try. i dont look at mothers having babies in their late 40's and say wow someone thought she didnt have to be careful anymore about birth control. people need to start looking at their own lives, and families and stop judging!

Dorothy - posted on 10/21/2009

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First off, let me say that I am SOOOO sorry that you had to deal with that. On behalf of the medical field I apologize (even if I am just a CNA lol). Regardless of your decisions to have sex before marriage and/or your age, the doctor has no right to question you about your life. Especially since your baby is only 9 months old. I am 23 and have 2 baby boys, one who will be 3 in May and another that will be one in November, and I deal with the same looks that you do. I look like I am barely in high school, much less already graduated and married for 4 years. So I feel for your situation. People tend to look even harsher on people who are not married, once that happens, it will get easier I promise. Dont take it to heart when people bad mouth you and/or give you dirty looks, as you have already said, you know that you are a good mom, better than most, so just remember that and smile and let them know how HAPPY you are with your child, your life and YOUR decisions. Get married and praise God for having a happy family that doesnt care about outsiders opinions!!



God Blessings on you,

Andrea

Kalyani - posted on 10/21/2009

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why n how dont these people realize that 20s is the best age to have kids.... people around here would probably give u looks if ur forty holding a li'll child. when ur young it would be just right for u n your baby in every sense.. physically, mentally, emotionally........ n how can a doctor say some thing like this... its ridiculous... n right u would actually be living to see ur kids grow have kids n be successful............

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2009

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that is illegal for a doctor to talk to you about anything like that! and next time they do tell them if they dont shut there trap u will sue them

Andrea - posted on 10/21/2009

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Ugh, I would be mad too... a doctor doesn't have the right to tell you you shouldn't be having kids. I don't think you are to young of a mother, excluding my cusian and me, everyone in my family started at started having kids around 18-19. I was 24 when I had my daughter and ppl used to give me dirty looks at stores and stuff... at that time I looked around 16-17. I even had someone come up to my mom and tell her her daughter was 16 and couldn't believe she had a pregant teen and then asked how old I was and how she felt about having a pregnant teen, my mom then told her I was 24 and married. My husband was 36 when she was born and he gets it for the other said, ppl ask him aren't you too old to be having kids and now at almost 38 he gets I was a grandparent at your age!!!



Don't let this get you down, I would tell him he sholdn't be saying stuff like that to ppl and if you feel strongly about it report him and get another Dr.

Stephany - posted on 10/21/2009

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I know how you feel. I had my son when I was 18 and people still look at me terrible because I am not with his dad...but also I have a daughter with a diffrent man who is no longer in the picture. but that does not make you or me a bad mom. It wasnt my fauld that their dads split on us. Im making the best of what I have and my kids are well behaved and happy. all I can suggest to you is keep being the best mom you can. and your baby will always love you no matter what others think. And my attitude to those people is "suck it" and yes I do tell people that if they look at me the wrong way. I personaly do not tollarate rude behaviors. And you shouldnt either. Good luck and let me know if you wanna talk...I can help get your nurve up to tell anyone off.. :)

Emm - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

A doctor telling me I shouldn't have my child?

I have really come to despise the way people look at some young mothers. I went to the doctors the other day because I had strep throat and when the doctor asked me if I had been around anyone that has been sick I replied "yes, my daughter just got over a cold" . He gave me a look then asked how old I was and if I had ever heard of birth control. WHAT! I told him I was 22 and yes I have heard of birth control. He then proceeded to tell me that at my age I should be more careful with my sex life! Excuse me? Yeah I may be 22 and have a nine month old daughter but I am also engaged to her father and have been with him since I was 16, I finished school and have been living out of my parents house since I was 16. What kind of professional has the right to tell me that I shouldn't have had a child? I am sick of it. Sure I can understand the concern that people have with young mothers, but not everyone is the same. I just can't take the way some people look at me when I am out with my daughter, older people aren't too bad, but in stores I get the worst looks. I have people telling me I should have given her up for adoption! How can people walk around telling other these things?
ARG! I am so mad. I am more responsible and caring than most mothers I know that are in there 30's. Have you dealt with anything like this? I mean, if a random person said it I'd be fine but a doctor?


 

Emm - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

A doctor telling me I shouldn't have my child?

I have really come to despise the way people look at some young mothers. I went to the doctors the other day because I had strep throat and when the doctor asked me if I had been around anyone that has been sick I replied "yes, my daughter just got over a cold" . He gave me a look then asked how old I was and if I had ever heard of birth control. WHAT! I told him I was 22 and yes I have heard of birth control. He then proceeded to tell me that at my age I should be more careful with my sex life! Excuse me? Yeah I may be 22 and have a nine month old daughter but I am also engaged to her father and have been with him since I was 16, I finished school and have been living out of my parents house since I was 16. What kind of professional has the right to tell me that I shouldn't have had a child? I am sick of it. Sure I can understand the concern that people have with young mothers, but not everyone is the same. I just can't take the way some people look at me when I am out with my daughter, older people aren't too bad, but in stores I get the worst looks. I have people telling me I should have given her up for adoption! How can people walk around telling other these things?
ARG! I am so mad. I am more responsible and caring than most mothers I know that are in there 30's. Have you dealt with anything like this? I mean, if a random person said it I'd be fine but a doctor?


 

K. Erin - posted on 10/21/2009

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oh yes dear!!! I know exactly what you mean! I had my son at 17...let me back that up a little...i helped raise my sister who is 6 years younger than me...i had odd jobs by the time i was 11 I was making money babysitting and all kinds of crap, at 15 i had a 'real' job while doing odd jobs and going to school. Met my husband at 16, we got pregnant, i was on birth control btw. I was told by my own mother to get an abortion, my father refused to have anything to do with me so I moved in with my husband. My son was born a couple months after I turned 17...the light of my life I would kill or be killed for this child. I have always worked to support my kid, I've never asked my parents for anything and never accepted anything they had to 'think' about giving. I get those looks too, it doesnt help that he is 8 now, and about 4 and a half feet tall and i am 25 and 5 foot tall, it also doesnt help that i have a brother the same age as him...If a doctor told me that I would've told him to shut his mouth, it wasn't any of his concern in the first place. It's not like it was his child. People are jerks...have you ever heard the phrase, 'there's no right way to do the wrong thing'? It is completely true, people have this line drawn between right and wrong and if you step over it just a little bit you are completely wrong from then on out. It doesnt matter if you are with her father...I am still with my son's dad and we have another kiddo but ppl don't care, we are already wrong. And you, btw, are not too young to have a child...sorry I am ranting but this pisses me off! WHY does anyone care what I do in my life, as long as my kids are healthy, happy and use their manners, why does it matter what time in my life they came to me...why is it any of your business? questions, i assume will go unanswered. Keep your head up! Take care of yours and don't let em get you down, you know what you are doing and you know that it is right, that is all that matters! I should follow my own advice, huh? lol :)

Heather - posted on 10/21/2009

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22 is not "too young". Not that anyone has the right to tell you when you should and shouldn't have a child. It's not like you're a teenager. I would never go back to that doctor and write him a letter detailing why you're not going back and how unprofessional it was for him to tell you such a thing. That is horrible!

Mallory - posted on 10/21/2009

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At some point you just need to ignore the looks and forget what people are saying or how they are looking at you.. If you feel right about ur self and have control of your life then so be it! dont worry about other people

Candace - posted on 10/21/2009

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Well, go tell your doctor that you now know someone who had three kids at the age of 22!!!!!!! ( I am now 23) And I am a damn good mom if I do say so myself! People have no right to judge someone else because of their lifestyle choices or how many kids they have! Now if someone had a child and wasn't taking care of them I can see someone having the right to say something but when the children are being loved and taken care of it shouldn't be anyone's business! My kids are 3, 2, and 1 and luckily my OB was awesome! She never said anything about me having one right after the other. The way I see it, I'm young, I will be able to do more with my kids now than I would if I were in my mid to late thirties! (aside from my back problems!) I know I am rambling now but just don't listen to what those people say! You seem like a strong, independent woman and you shouldn't forget that! Good luck with everything!

Allison - posted on 10/21/2009

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Jessica, I know how you feel. I am 26 years old, but look very young for my age. My daughter is 8 months old, I had her at 25. People always assume that to be a good parent you have to be older.But you know what they say don't assume it only make a ASS out of U and ME Right! :) now everyone thinks you need to have completed high school ,college and have started a career BEFORE you have children-The people that

do this are mostly older. BUT not everyone does this. I didn't. I got married at 24 and got pregnant 3 and 1/2 months after I got married. My family (aunts,uncles,grandparents,cousins) said it was "TO FAST", That I was "TOO YOUNG" That my husband and I should wait. We had been dating since 16 (8years) and had lived together for 2 years.

It all comes down to this. You gave to do whats good for you and your family. If you are ready for a baby, age doesnt matter. I do believe 2o's are a GREAT time to have babies. Like many people have said above.... you can get down on the floor with your children and play with them, you can run with them, you're not sitting on the sidelines watching them. Don't worry what others say..WE ALL shouldn't. There are a lot of assholes out there that hate their lives and think they know it all!

But def. DO REPORT HIM! his job is to tell you your illness and treat you, not tell you his opinion on life.

Tiffany - posted on 10/21/2009

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I m so sorry ......that someone would say such a thing to you...There is no perfect time for having a child....but i do know that if you are blessed with the ability to have a child...that no one should try to deny that moment from you....It sounds like you have your head on straight and you should brush this comment off...because its his ignorances...

Vickie - posted on 10/21/2009

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I can't believe a doctor would say such a thing. My son wasn't born until I was 23, and I will admit I was pretty nieve about a lot of things, but I've seen young moms that are great and ones that are definately not so great. Now, I could see counseling you so you would be aware of options, if it was a physician you knew well or you asked for help. I agree, ignore them, but take good care of your child(ren) and be involved and always know everything possible about anybody you have care for them.

Josie - posted on 10/21/2009

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Wow I woulda punched him! I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first and my own father told me I should get an abortion (Over the Phone!,coward) I told him its my life my baby and im keeping her, then I hung up. I was 19 when I had my daughter~Zoe who is now 7 1/2 and I am sooo happy I have her! I am now 27 and have 4 children 3 girls and 1 boy. I get crazy looks and comments all the time! Their just jealous! Cuz when our kids are in their 20's we will be in our 40's! I suggest changing to a different Dr. and you could probly get him in trouble for harassment!

Krystal - posted on 10/21/2009

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I am a medical assistant and physicians are not suppose to talk to their patients that way. I know many think they have the right but as patients we also have the right to tell them the way he spoke to you is inappropriate. I am 25 with one daughter but most of my friends started having kids at 16-18 and have 3 kids or more now. It doesn't matter what age you are when you have kids and no one has the right to tell you when you can and can not have have children. People look at me when i walk around with my daughter and try to tell me how i should dress her and how i should raise my daugher. I politely tell them that it may be there opinion but she is my child and i will dress her and raise her how her dad and i see fit. If you would like to report him for his conduct he is required by law to display a number to call for complaints that goes to the state licensing board.

Amber - posted on 10/21/2009

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i would just let it go. I had my son a month after my 20th birthday and i felt the same way with some people. Those people just dont understand reality or think they are above others and they are not worth it. All that matters is the love of your child and support from family and friends. That is how i get by.

Sherry - posted on 10/21/2009

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That is wrong and id make a formal complant dr are there to help you when your sick not to give you advice or comment on your life thats not why we pay them.

Kim - posted on 10/21/2009

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I can NOT belive this happened to you!!! I'm so sorry! I would be finding myself another dr. and complaining to the board about this one. No professional should ever speak to you this way!!!!



I was married when I was 20 and we had our daughter 8 months ago, people tell me I'm young but no one has ever said I was to young to have a child. My husband and I wanted to be young parents, no one believes shes mine or that I look old enough to have a kid, which I don't think is true but I have decided to take as a compliment!



Young Moms Rock!!!!

Morgan - posted on 10/21/2009

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That is just ridiculous! I got married when I was 18, had my first child at 19, and my second at 20. No one has ever told me I shouldn't have my kids! You're body is the perfect age to bear children. Mothers should be praised, not criticized! Just prove him wrong by being the best mother you can be.

Sarah - posted on 10/21/2009

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WOW that is very terrible, I am sorry to hear that you got that from him! I hope you put a complaint in about this. I haven't personally experience this but I have had friends that did and I find it very sad that people think this way, I would think that people would be proud of you for being able to take care of your kids and for being so together, I also know people in their 30's that shouldn't have had kids. Good luck with your doctor (I hope you can find a more understanding one)

Magaly - posted on 10/21/2009

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i had my first baby at 18.. and oh man did i get the ugly looks no one ever said anything really to my face. i dont think anyone has the right to say such things to anyone. its not right.. im sorry u had to go through that..

Anna - posted on 10/21/2009

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If I'm doing the math right you were 21 when you had you daughter. I am curious what age the doctor considers to be appropiate for having children. I was also 21 when I had my first child.

Johanne - posted on 10/21/2009

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Its NOT very professional of the Doctor! I suppose you could tell the Dr. that this was a planned conception and say that he is has no right to say this. There is no 'best' age to have a baby - in fact the same doctor would probably tell you in ten years that you're TOO old to be getting pregnant! A man I presume? I actually have never had this response from anyone (except perhaps my parents before I had baby)! Poor you.

Stephanie - posted on 10/21/2009

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THIS HAPPENED TO ME. it happened to me at the best office to go to in town. never about the birth control but the doctor would never listen to me. i was younger than you were. she continued to call me mom after i asked her to call me by my name told me for 4 months that my daughter wan't colic. finally took her to another doctor and they confirmed what i was saying. she gave my child medicine she didn't need each month just b/c she said i was too young to know what i was talking about. i left that place and don't regret it. find someone else to take your child to. in the end everyone will be happier.

Kirstin - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have had this same issue! When I was pregnant my wedding rings didnt fit and people used to look at me and snicker all the time, including the nurse at my Ob's office! I also had a woman at target stare me down and reply OMG another pregnant teenager, When I politly sorrected her and told her I was 23 and married she yelled OMG RUDE! Excuse me? I am not the rude one! People need to mind there own! I am sure you are an excelent mother and being 22 has nothing to do with it! Age doesnt make the mother! I know 40 year old Mothers who suck and I know 17 year old mothers who rock. Keep your head up and know you arent the only early 20's mommy who has to deal with dumb ass people!

Elaine - posted on 10/21/2009

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Im 26 ill be 27 next may and still told im a very young mother its funny here in Ireland were I live of all places. In my mothers day It was acceptable to have babys and be married at 18 I love my baby and could care less

Melissa - posted on 10/21/2009

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Forget them they aint your mommas or daddys I had my first at age 14 and no I was proud to be havin a baby so young but I be damned if someone gonna tell me that I had plenty of people tell things lik get an abortion or adoption forget wat people think. I wouldn change any of it my oldest is 12 now. I gave my son up for adoption at 15 cause I could of raised 2 babies by myself but my x sis n law has him so I have very much enjoyed bein his aunt and watchin him grow I regret it in most ways but he wouldn of had that knid of ife wit me. I love him wit all my heart and pray for the day he finds out bout me which will be soon I sure cause he wants to kno. He is 10 and I have a 3 yo and 7 month old I look back on it now and dont regret at all havin my babies young cause now I will have a longer life wit them I am only 26 years old. Oh and get a new doc Always remember that it dont mater wat poeple think its wat makes you happy.

Janelle - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have that same problem even today. I do look very young still for my age of 29 and I get dirty looks when i have just my 2 year old with me. Just imagine what they think when my 13 year old comes up and says mom. People literly stop in there tracks. I have yet to go get pitures taken and them not refer to us as sisters.



But I must say that my doctor had never talked to me about giving her up THAT IS JUST RUDE.

Emily - posted on 10/21/2009

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i had my eldest child at 16 and like you i also had people looking down there noses at me like i wasnt worth anything argh it was so irratating but i looked at my baby and knew that i didnt need to pay attention to what anyone else thought i was the one who had to raise my child along with her father , as for your doctor speaking to you like that i would go somewhere about it and get this doctor struck off there is noone out there who has the right to speak to anyone that way x

Stormy - posted on 10/21/2009

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that is soo wrong who is he (or they) to tell u that ur not mature enough to have and raise a child. iam 21 had my daughter when the year i truned 19 (she's 16 months). sorry that is just retarded!!!!!!

Kristal - posted on 10/21/2009

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My doctor who delivered my oldest son told me I shouldn't have gotten pregnant. That I should have an abortion. Granted he knew my history and I was never supposed to be able to carry full term. When my son was born he kept suggesting I put him up for adoption. Of course I knew him for years. Went to school with his kids and neice and both his nephews. But still. I know I was only 18 when he was born but I'd been raising kids for over 10 years. Geez.

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