advanced or not?

Cherrille - posted on 11/21/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 9 months old. she is my first and although ive been around babies my whole life id never taken notice of what skills they have at what age ect.. my maternal child health nurse is telling me that my daughter is very advanced and i just wanted to check if anyone else agrees or thinks shes over exaggerating. my 9 month old does the following, says mum and dad ( even though dad is not around) crawls very well everywhere. pulls herself up on things and walks around quite easily, is starting to stand on her own for about a minute at a time. makes hand gestures if she wants something ( food, to be picked up ect) eats and drinks very well has nearly 3 teeth cut, sits on her own, waves, kisses, bangs things together with her hands, rolls over both ways and plays peekaboo. i thought it was normal to be doing this but is anyone elses baby doing all this at her age ?

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Melissa - posted on 12/12/2012

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Yes, when my boy was 9 months old, he was doing all that as well. He walked at 10 months. His nurse just says he's doing very well and he's a bit ahead of other babies his age.

User - posted on 11/26/2012

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I think its normal too. Each baby develops differently and through studies theres certain time frames that a child can start doing things. Some are faster (like yours sounds like) and some are slower, as long as she is healthly and thriving well thats all that matters.

Tracy - posted on 11/24/2012

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Kids vary SOOOO much. My son was an observer and just watched everything. Didn't walk until 19 months old but stood up and ran when he was ready. At 2, he spoke full sentences like an adult but didn't do a lot of babbling before that. However, my daughter was fully walking at 9 months old - and climbing - saying "where baba?" (where's the bottle) at 9 months old and by about 10 1/2 months was running around solidly. I think your daughter is well within a "normal" range for this age. It's SOOO hard sometimes - I KNOW - but try not to push her into being super special and advanced and all that. If she is advanced, fantastic and work with that, but otherwise you just can set the stage for expectations that are too high. Look for who she IS and not what she will or could be. (WE ALL TEND TO DO THIS, SO IT'S JUST A GENERAL COMMENT - IT'S SO HARD TO SEE OUR KIDS FOR THEMSELVES AND NOT FOR WHAT WE IMAGINE THEY COULD BE.)



I am sure that no matter what, you will love and cherish her, but just take it as it comes and don't jump at the "my kid is exceptional" ring because, as mommies, we all think that. Because, of course, if you asked MY opinion, my kiddos are way better than yours and headed for super great lives ahead of them... But my son, who is nearly 16, is making his own way in life and has his path. I am just along for the ride and joy of watching him travel it. :)

Stacy - posted on 11/22/2012

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Talking at 9 months is advanced, only some babies are doing that. My son was also pulling himself up and cruising early but he didn't start walking on his own til he was 14 months old. I was waiting for it to happen so I read some articles and looked in books. I found that again only some babies at that age were taking steps. Rolling over, sitting up happen a lot earlier than 9 months though so that's just on schedule.

She might be over exaggerating a bit but it doesn't really matter. She probably just wants you to feel good and know that your daughter is developing well!

Amanda - posted on 11/21/2012

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I think it's normal, especially at such a young age. You'll probably find that some other babies your daughters age are doing other things that she can't. Kids develop at their own rate.



At 9 months my son was doing all those things and he was starting to stack blocks on top of each other and was recognising colours, I could ask him to pass me one of his cars in a certain colour and he would pass it to me no problems.

My daughter was feeding herself finger food at 5 months and talking in sentences by the time she turned a year old.



Were they advanced??? No, they just excelled in certain areas. My son's motor skills and coordination were excptional for his age but his speech was slightly behind, whereas my daughter was an unbelievable talker from a very young age and her communication skills were fantastic, but her motor skill and coordination were not at the same level. Even now at 3, she is the most uncoordinated clumsy child I have ever come across. She can fall over and graze her knee or hands standing still.

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Shauna - posted on 12/04/2012

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Yes it is normal. I have two kids and their doctors and their WIC advisors have always tole me that my kids were very advanced for their ages. It definetly is nothing to be worried about and defintely nothing you should stop. Shounds like she is worked with alot and gets a lot of attention and sounds like she has a great mom. Keep up the good work.

Courtney - posted on 12/03/2012

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I'm not sure I would consider your daughter to be advanced, but she definitely seems to be developing well. My daughter is 9 months old and just learned how to crawl a week ago, but within this week, she also learned to pull herself up, stand unsupported, and cruise around the furniture. She only says dada, but she knows several signs to communicate with me.

Even if your baby is "advanced" for her age, she may gradually slow down and develop at the pace of an average child later in life. There is no correlation between advanced babies and successful adults.

Not that your child won't be successful, I just don't think you should be announcing that she's "advanced". When my daughter didn't walk until she was 9 months, I spent many nights wondering if I had done something wrong or if there was something wrong with her. I would have just cried if I heard another mom praising her child for things my own child couldn't do.

Ashley - posted on 11/27/2012

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every kidis different. the talking is admittedly faster than most, but at the same time not so abnormal that i would think advanced. my oldest daughter was walking every by 9 months but didnt say too much until after a year and a half, while my son didnt take his first step until 13 months old but was much more focused on talking at a younger age. one person i know that had an 'advanced' baby is my ex's mom, her daughter was rolling over both ways at three days old and crawling with her body off the floor at four months! however i dont think how they develope as a baby means much about how intellegent they are necessarily because she is now a grown woman and she is of average intellegence. definantly not dumb by any means but not a genious either.

Wendi - posted on 11/26/2012

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i swear when people say hi to my 2nd daughter she waves . she puts her arm way up. its so funny. just one arm.

Wendi - posted on 11/26/2012

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sounds just like my 9 mths old except my 9 mth old can stand for 4 sec. unassissted. lol

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My son is 10 months he crawls/ army crawls mostly, he holds on to thing to stand, he has 2 teeth an eats only pureed food and bottles, he waves bye bye, says da da da and nom nom which sometimes turns into mom, your baby is ahead but all babys do develop a their own pace!

CJ - posted on 11/25/2012

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Sounds pretty normal to me...my daughter could do all those things at nine months and was even walking quite well by 9 1/2 months.

Cherrille - posted on 11/24/2012

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Yes i thought it was normal what she was doing and when i hear the statistics they dont sound right to me.. On what the average age is for doing things. To proffessionals and the internet shes doing great lol and dont get me wrong everything she learns im so proud of her and love everything she does shes her own little person ann its amazing to watch it i would never push anythig on her.. Ipractice things with her everyday but she enjoys playing i.dont force her. I love her no matter what and i agree with everyone thinking their own child is the greastest of course lol.

Cherrille - posted on 11/22/2012

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Yes well she tokd.me thst she should only just be crawling. . And she was doing that by 5 months. But she says 3 words. And she is trying to walk she is standing on her own now but who knows how long it will take. how ever long she needs i dont care i was just curiius :)

Cherrille - posted on 11/22/2012

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Yeah i try and teach my daughter with every chance. Reading is a difficult task though lol she wsnts to eat the pages haha you sound like a very good mother :) and thanks for the advice :)

Amanda - posted on 11/22/2012

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Thanks Cherille, they are by no means advanced but they are smart kids, you get out what you put in and I have spent alot of time playing, teaching, reading and talking with my kids. I take extra time to encourage things they are good at or interested in.



Mine are 3 and 4 now and I still get excited when they learn a new skill.

Cherrille - posted on 11/21/2012

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well thats what i thought. i mean those things arent that out there for me to think shes 'advanced' .. your children sound advanced to me lol.. wow thats amazing! but yes maliyah can only just now sit up on her own when shes been starting to walk before it. so i know growing at their own rate. i still get excited every little thing she does lol but i just wasnt convinced on her being advanced to a point where i should be doing something about it lol

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