advice for a child with ODD

Kim - posted on 03/01/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




how did you go about getting your child diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder. also how do you parent a child with ODD. I have done some research on it. I just don't know where I could turn to get help I want to have as much information I can on it before I have the meeting with the school. It was like what I read was just a play by play day with my oldest daughter and also if you have other children did they also have it and do I need to worry about my other two also have this as they get older


Joquena - posted on 03/02/2013




I have a child with ODD. We’ve never had her officially diagnosed because she’s younger than the typical teenager. We’ve had lots of days where she’s taken me to my wits end and she’s one of 3 kids who I tried to parent the same for a long time. I can’t parent them the same because she doesn’t THINK the same was as her siblings. I highly recommend this book, “The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder” by Douglas A. Riley. It is written in an understandable way to finally help me understand her thoughts. It helps me when I start to get in a no win battle of wills, to mentally take a step back and really see what’s going on. The most important thing is to stay calm and not let them take you to a place of anger, because that’s exactly what they want.

I’ve had to have lots of one on one talks with my daughters teachers to let them know that she’s testing them for consistency because they all feel mean for putting her at a table by herself, or following through with punishments that she brings on herself. It’s not hopeless, every day is it’s own challenge, but I’m proud to say that my daughter got a sticker on her folder every day this week, YAY, whereas at the beginning of the year her folder was covered in so many red notes it looked like it had chicken pox.

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