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Cleaver - posted on 01/15/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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let me start this off by saying that i avoid confrontation by any means possible i go out of my way to try an avoid arguments with my husband. i do not yell or get angry. now that that's said i do not know at all how to handle this...
my husband and sister were having an argument and my sister pushed him across the room and he turned around and raised his hand as though he was going to hit her at this point i was more worried that she would attack him then he hit her(he is not aggressive but moves aggressively when hes angry) . i do not blame her for being angry and understand but now shes trying to talk me into leaving him she doesn't understand at all my husband and i have 2 boys together, own a condo, share 1 car, but mostly he supports me 100% i haven't had a job since i got pregnant with my first and i would have to go back to school to get back into my career. we are happy with this. she cannot understand this. i feel that her boyfriend is worse but i say nothing (hes freeloading off my parents, doesn't have a job, when she asks him to go something he freaks out trying to make her feel bad and if that doesn't work he starts to cry because his mom died 10 year ago) I'm just about to snap at her i do not know how to handle this situation . its stressing me out and that's effecting my breast-milk. my kids are feeling it and i don't like that, please some advice on how to handle it.

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Lori - posted on 01/17/2013

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Respect is a two way street. Be careful letting other people into your marriage, family or not. If your happy that's all that matters, you should defend your husband an let your sister know she was out of line to push him.

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Angel - posted on 01/17/2013

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If You Love Him Nothing Any One Says On ThIs Post Will Matter Whether They Agree With You Or Not Your Defendin Him And Justifying Your Feelings So There Is Your Answer At The End Of The Day You Have To Live With The Decisions You Make

Stacy - posted on 01/17/2013

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Ignore her! I'm sorry but it sounds like she has some problems. If ignoring her doesn't help, you will have to confront her and set her straight. Sometimes confrontation is necessary. Best of luck to you.

Cleaver - posted on 01/15/2013

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well shes never had anyone raise a hand at her before so it was a shock to her, but he wasnt expecting to turn around and it be her (he was turned around) but its been a month i have no idea when shell get over it and sure he has his faults hes messy as hell but im a house wife its my job to clean after him
i think that she thinks that if he raised his hand at her he does more to me but he doesnt i know he moves aggressively when angry and can be verbally abusive at times but its not often or bad enough that i worry about it. he husband is twice my size if he pushed me around hed leave marks and i wear skimpy bikinis all the time. there are ways to hide it but hes not smart in that way
she also still thinks like a teenie that a man should always worship his girl and she can do anything.

S. - posted on 01/15/2013

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I bring my girls up with the attitude that if you hit or are physical to someone man or woman they could possible turn around and hit you back. Fair enough your hb shouldn't have raised his hand but he never fallowed threw and it could have been a automatic reaction. She should never have pushed him in the first place.
Now is there any other reason your sister is worried for you or is it just that incident? If its just that your going to have to tell her your not worried, you would leave if he ever hits you but she is never to push a member of your family again ever. If my hb sister had pushed me I'd expect him to stick up for me I think you should so the same.

Cherish - posted on 01/15/2013

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First,I do not understand why your sister would push your husband,being physical is never ok,and it NEVER helps resolve anything.
Why does yor sister want you to leave your husband?

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