Advice on dealing with hurtful people

Laura Louise - posted on 10/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've had a problem over the last year or so with a "so called family member " my brother in laws girlfriend to be exact it all started because I had become pregnant and she decide to talk about me to her mother over Skype in which she would say lots of hurtful things, she'd walk around the house in a strop and storm out of the room when I'd be asked how I me and the baby is doing, among other things, so it got to a point of me telling my husband of 9 years about it as we all lived under his fathers roof at the time and It was getting me stressed out and very upset so he had words with his brother to sort her out which only made it worse she started to post nasty comments on a blog that she had and so we spoke to his brother again and he started monitering her site, it went quite for a few months and then my LO was born and she got very annoyed with it and started to strop about my home as we had moved out in to our own place so I said to my family I wasn't going to have her doing that In my home and around my child, so they all spoke to her and it quitened down for a couple of months and then she posted on her blog that me and my husband don't deserve our child and that we are in the way all the time, the worse thing is my brother in law doesn't believe it was her even though we showed him the proof and she even admit to it, but Im so angry about that as I spent a fortune on her when she moved in ( as she from another country) and didn't have nothing and I'm struggling to let it go as its cause me and my husband countless arguments and its gotten so bad it's torn the family apart, I'm at my wits end as it's made me really feel sick and no one said ever said sorry to me

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Laura Louise - posted on 10/04/2014

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We tried talking to her nothing's work she justifies her actions by saying she doesn't know why she does them or says someone else did it, the posts where to personal to be someone random, it's hurt me badly as I had just had my daughter so I was emotional anyways and then my sister lost her son he was born at 6 months and had passed away due to lung failure we was deviated because me and my sister had gone shopping and everything for the baby's together, so when this happend I was outraged that she had said my daughter shall have die too and that someone in the family thought that me and my husband didn't deserve to have children everyone says it's jealousy but she was pregnant when she did it, it's put the family under a lot of stress as she's alway tried to split the family up just so that she could have my brother in law to herself and well it looks like it's works as no one wants her around them,

Jen - posted on 10/03/2014

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Have you tried talking to her about it face to face to find out what her real problem is? Maybe it's better to try to talk to her directly rather than through her boyfriend? I'm so sorry for the trouble you are going through, I am having somewhat of a similar problem with my in-laws and know what it's like. Maybe it would help to stop reading her blog as well if it upsets you? I know it's frustrating knowing that someone dislikes you, but sometimes people just clash...If she makes you that uncomfortable than maybe it's best to avoid her if you can, and when you can't show her that your a bigger person and don't care about her opinion? Maybe she's just doing it to get a rise out of you, and she keeps doing it because she sees how it bothers you. She's probably jealous that she doesn't have a baby yet...or could she be upset because she physically can't have children?

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