Advice/tips for a first time mum?

Pauline - posted on 06/08/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi. I'm 35weeks pregnant with my first baby. Was wandering if anyone has any good advice or tips they can give me as a first time mum. Many thanks.

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Claire - posted on 06/08/2009

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do what you feel is right and not to do everything by the book i did with my 1st and had soooo many probs with my last 2 i done what i thought would help and it worked i now have 3 happy kiddies.let people help you and sleep while you can. goodluck with everything

Sarah - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hi Pauline! congratulations!!
i guess my biggest advice would be to try enjoy every minute (even the hard ones!) because they grow up sooooo fast!!
take all the help you can get, don't be afraid to lean on friends and family.
take all used baby clothes/equipment (that's in good shape) because babies grow out of stuff sooo fast, it can cost a fortune!!
try to sleep when baby sleeps, or you find that hard, at least rest, read a book, have a coffee, chill out.
and mainly ENJOY!! the good bits far outweigh the hard bits! i wish i could go back to the beginning and do it all over again! (and my two are only 4yrs and 1yr! haha!) they're teeny babies for such a short time, cherish it!
best wishes for the future, follow your instincts, you'll do great!! :)

Helen - posted on 06/08/2009

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be as organised as you can. get relatives and friends to help out - dont underestimate how tired you get in the first month. Don't let things like the washing build up. Put baby down for a nap, put the washing on then have a nap yourself. They are only little but i foung i went from 2 washes a week to at least 1 every day.

take a spare top (yours) with you in the nappy bag so you are readdy for those sicky moments.

Natasha - posted on 06/08/2009

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I found that i went through loads more diapers then i thought i would. I figured one big pack should last about a week but really it lasts only a few days. My advice is keep a good supply of everything especially if you live in a small town. Also take all the help you can get. And make sure you still spend some time with your partner. With my first i spent all my time with the baby and no time with my boyfriend. Things got pretty bad for awhile we started fighting alot but we started doing stuff together again and now we are better then ever. Also trust your self if someone tell you to do something and you dont think it sounds right then dont do it.

Shana - posted on 06/08/2009

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You will know your child better then anyone else, even the doctor. Trust your instincts. All you have to do is make sure the baby is happy, clean and fed. Rest when s/he naps, taking care of yourself is more important at the beginning then a clean house (as they get older you won't be able to keep up with their messes anyway so you might as well get used to it now). The baby will tell you if you are doing something wrong. Don't let anyone tell you how to take care of your baby (unless you are really stuck), you know what to do instinctively.

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LaCi - posted on 06/08/2009

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I'm a first time mom too. Things I learned over the first year:



Trust your instincts. Just because people have had kids, doesn't mean they really know any more about what they're doing than you do, particularly when mothers and mother in laws get involved. Things are a lot different now than they were 20 years ago, and they were just winging it when they popped their kids out, just like we are. and all kids are different, what worked for one doesn't work for all, so although their advice is nice, your judgement is what matters. Just nod, smile and avoid arguments. Then do what YOU want.



Everyone makes mistakes, pretty much everyone feels guilty about something they did or didn't do with their kid. Let all that go, every day is a new day to figure out a better way to do things. And babies are very forgiving.



People might drive you crazy. Constantly stopping in to see the new baby and the like. When I had nico people would come by and actually wake him up to see him, nico screamed all the time, from birth to a few months old. According to them, this screaming was adorable, for me it was a nightmare and them dropping in and waking him was nothing but disruptive to my already chaotic life. I desperately wanted those naps he took to last long enough for me to relax. I FINALLY put my foot down and these visits stopped.. if someone is doing something that bothers you, don't keep quiet just to be polite, let them know. You and the babies feelings are the ones that matter. Happy mom, happy baby.



If you're having a boy... never stand in the path of the pee. I think they aim at you on purpose..



Everything is trial and error.



Take as much mommy time as you can. If you are lucky enough to be able to take naps, nap when baby naps.



Enjoy all the moments they snuggle with you, because that ends quickly and you miss it! Once they start moving they never want to sit still



I could spend hours trying to calm my son down and his dad could just pick him up and he would be happy... its frustrating. But they outgrow the "i hate mommy" phase.



You'll be stressed, tired, overwhelmed, moody, and, ultimately, in the end, satisfied, proud, giddy, and loved.



Congrats on the baby :)

Amelia - posted on 06/08/2009

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Let people help out out as much as possible, get the rest you need to heal. i did not do this and regreted it. i was on my feet doing way too much too soon and didn't get to enjoy the newborn phase.

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Tips - sleep whenever you get the chance! that is a must. Enjoy every minute - time REALLY flies. my daughter is 5 1/2 already! Lastly, take lots of pictures! =oD

Christy - posted on 06/08/2009

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I remember when my daughter was born, last year, I was extremely nervous to be left alone with her. I cried when my husband had to go back to work. I was so afraid I wouldnt know what to do or how to take care of her. I wished I could take the nurses home with me from the hospital..lol. One thing that my mom said made me feel better though. She said the baby doesn't know if your doing anything wrong!! I relaized as long as I fed and changed and comforted her she wouldnt mind if I didnt do it the "right" way. I never had this problem....luckly my daughter slept through the night from the day she was born....but my friends said to always sleep when they sleep. I also had to remember to take deep breaths and only do what I can do when I have time to do it. Try not to become overwhelmed. Good Luck and Congrats!!!!

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