almost dreading valentines day

Cleaver - posted on 02/10/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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i have planned a nice valentines day we are having a fondue (which is my husbands favorite) then im making chocolate covered strawberries and i for a little present for all. i dont expect my husband to get me presents randomly i dont expect flowers but i just get a little disapointed when he doesnt get me anything atall. i used to get myself gifts but i stopped that (and he knows it) and since then ive gotten nothing from him (he got me a potted plant when we had a fight once) i just feel that when there is something special i should get even a small something besides "a big hard dick later" am i being selfish??

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Niki - posted on 02/11/2013

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You are not being selfish at all. Tell him how it makes you feel when he doesnt express his love to you in other ways than bedroom. Men really cant read our mind or expression, they want everything direct. I married my bestfriend but still I tell him what I want and it makes it easier for him than buying me something that I might return or never use.
I hope this V-day you have an amazing day!

Rebekah - posted on 02/13/2013

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Forgivenes is the key to a happy family. Both me and my husband are quick to say sorry and forgive completely. That is why we are so happy and our love has never died down but only grown stronger. I think when your married, if you mean your vowels like we did, there is a higher level of commitment. But I don't what to judge or condemn you. And I wish you a happy life.

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Cleaver - posted on 02/13/2013

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my husband and i arent married we are common law so we just kind of loved together long enough hes not the best husband but hes a great enough father to make up for it seeing him playing with out toddler will get me to foregive him of almost anything

Rebekah - posted on 02/13/2013

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Good! I'm glad to hear that. My husband is great will our baby too. She is a daddy's girl already and she's only 3 months old. I really have nothing to complane about about him. He's a wonderful husband. And I'm so glad I married him. Our little baby was last years Valentine's Day surprise.

Cleaver - posted on 02/13/2013

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actually i do that the one positive thing that i can always think of is that he is a great father unless he is having an important phone call hell drop everything to play with our 2 year old almost when ever

Rebekah - posted on 02/13/2013

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Look at what is good in your husband that will make you happier nomatter what he does. But definitly I agreed with the others, the best thing to do is be open and tell him how you feel. You might try approching him a little different. Try no to make him feel like he's dissapointing you because that make a man feel like a failer. Instead tell him how much it would mean to you and that it would make you feel more loved. A man likes to make his wife feel loved. When he does give you something tell him how much it means to you. That will make him want to do it more. Everyone has a different love langage. Find what his are and make him feel love and appreciated. Then he will want to make you feel loved too. And when he does something you like like him know. Then he will want to do it more.

Poppy - posted on 02/12/2013

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i use to be worried about getting gift and all on vals day. now, I make him pay for me and the children to go have fun,eat out and shop. thats how I console myself of event disappointment that he does not live up to

Cleaver - posted on 02/12/2013

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oh and since i am nursing and there is a newborn sleeping in the bed with me my sex drive has plummeted.

Cleaver - posted on 02/12/2013

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i love holidays i make every little thing into a family tradition.
when i do tell him i want something he tells me in selfish i worked hard i got him a nice coffee cup (which he wanted) and his favorite kcups, i got both boys something and im still getting the eldest chocolate (youngest is 4MO so no chocolate let) its not that im mad its just disappointing. there are only 2 things hes gotten me one of a bouquet of flowers and that was because for our first valentines all he said was oh happy valentines day your pregnant, the other thing was these clips i still have and wear a lot.

Ruth - posted on 02/12/2013

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Don't hint. Tell him exactly what you want. Tell him exactly why you want it. Make sure that you know why you want it before you tell him this.
Men are not stupid, no matter how often we let them get away with it.

Stifler's - posted on 02/11/2013

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I'd rather a big hard dick later than presents. We don't do valentines. I'd be pissed if he forgot my birthday.

Cleaver - posted on 02/11/2013

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he doesnt really have friends except my sisters boyfriend and hes a looser

Niki - posted on 02/11/2013

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He needs to hear it from a man that he has to buy gifts...hint it to his buddies, maybe they can talk some sense into him

Cleaver - posted on 02/11/2013

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i do but he tells me i am selfish well heres hoping i have been hinting for a jewley box

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