Am having an interestingly hard time lettin my kids have more freedom walking around our small community. Am paranoid that they'll end up kidnapped er someone will hurt I wierd or overprotective?


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Michelle - posted on 04/22/2009




Not too over protective! When I was little I lived in a small family like town where everyone knew one another. All the kids ran from house to house playing with whomever they pleased. Unfortunatly..there arent alot of those little communities left...and not all that many people you can trust anymore either. If you know (and trust)alot of the mothers in the area maybe you could organize a community watch to ease some of your fears? Or if their arent enough ppl you know you could develop some kind of system...getting mothers numbers in the neighborhood...have a chain of calls...

MOTHER: "Billy is on his way over."

NEIGHBOR: "Billy just got here....ok I'll send him home at 12 for lunch."

NEIGHBOR: (12 o'clock) "Billy is on his way out the door."

MOTHER: " Thanks, I'll meet him out front!"

Also, If you are having a hard time getting to know ppl around you try hosting a neighborhood bar-b-que....on top of possably making new friends yourself, you could get a feel for the other parents (an interview if you will) to see who you might feel comfortable letting your children go to visit. I hope these ideas help. : )

Jessica - posted on 04/22/2009




I am the same way! My son is 5 and I wont let him go out and play in the front yard unless Im out there with him. We live in a small neighborhood, definatly not dangerous but still...I just try to let all the other kids in the neighborhood come and play in our backyard instead!

Brittany - posted on 04/22/2009




I don't think your weird or paranoid. I'm pregnant with my first... due may 3, and me and her father are going to be very protective. You can't trust people anymore. I've been wondering how i'll handle sleepovers at friends' houses because you never know what can happen or who they will be around. There are too many creepy people.

Also, my next door neighbor's daughter was killed the Easter after Monday. She was 9 yrs old and had a twin brother. She went to a friend's to spend the night. The friend's grandmother was driving them somewhere and they were hit by a propane truck. It's really got me thinking... how can you protect your children?

Jamie - posted on 04/22/2009




I dont think your overprotective. I know my SS is 7 and he is not allowed off the street and he can only be outside if there is a group of them. Luckily I live in AZ so most of the time they dont want to be outside. But you dont want to get to be to overprotective they need some freedom or they are likely to rebel, which could be a lot of trouble as they get older. I dont think my SS will be allowed off our street without an adult until he is at least 10.

Jessica - posted on 04/22/2009




I have 4 children and my oldest, a seven year old boy is a ball of energy so to keep up with him is madness. I am very nervous about giving him freedom but I given him some. We have children that live right across the street from us and when they are out he is allowed to go outside without me. We have set rules though. He can't be outside alone and he also knows his boundries, if I can't see him from my front porch he's not allowed to go there. There are really scary things in the world today and we need to protect and educate our children, but they are still children and if we don't allow them to experience some freedoms and a little independence I think we are causing more harm than good. I know this might sound silly but I believe the best defense is a good offense and as long as you teach children boundries and to be aware of the people around them.

Brooke - posted on 04/22/2009




Personally, I don't think you're wierd at all. My husband and I are very protective of our 2 children. Only my parents are allowed to babysit them....they are too many wierdos in this world to just trust anyone. I think you are being a good, aware mommy.

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