am i being verbally abused??

Cleaver - posted on 12/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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i have never wanted to be that woman the one who's husband treated her like shit never said anything good about her. I think i have become that woman my husband calls me an idiot, and what not. nothing i can do is right, not my cooking, cleaning or shopping groceries and everything else. what i got everyone for Christmas is wrong (including people who told me that's what they wanted) my children have become so accustomed to him yelling at me that all my son does is close the door and the baby can even sleep through it. i don't swear or yell all i do these days is cry. his way of joking is calling me an idiot or moron.

the 'nicest' thing he says to me is "want to have sex" and when i dont he forces me even when the kids are up and sometimes in the room.

i am just tired of feeling like crap and also tired of coming up with excuses, i am also tired of crying. i want to laugh and be happy i feel like thats the least i deserve to be happy... every now and then atleast.

i can't talk to my friends about this because they don't understand none of them are married and only 1 has kids. please tell me if this is abuse

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Cleaver - posted on 12/18/2012

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yes i am more worried about how my sons will end up. i know that his father doesn't treat his mother like this, when i ask my husband about this he always says no then i ask what his mother would say if shed be proud and he says well of course not... i don't know what to do he has bipolar i am thinking of leaving until he seeks help... i just don't know

Jodi - posted on 12/18/2012

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He is not only being verbally abusive, but he is also physically abusive. Sorry, but he doesn't have a "right" to sex. It is actually your right to say no, and if he is forcing you, then he is raping you. Total abuse. The example he is setting for your children is terrible. If you stay, not only will you be in an unhappy relationship, but your children will see your relationship and grow up believing it to be normal, and it isn't.

I think the best thing you can do is see a counsellor for yourself, and if possible, convince him to go to couples counselling, but in all honesty, if he is not prepared to make some changes to the way he views and treats you, then you need to get the hell out now.

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