Another Baby

Amy - posted on 07/04/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Are daughter will be 2 in October. I would like to start trying for baby #2 then, but my husband wants to wait 3 or 4 more years. I would like are kids close together, not 5 or more years apart. Also I would like to have all are kids before i'm 30. What should I do?

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Megan - posted on 07/05/2009

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I am the same as you, I am 22 and I want four kids hopefully all before thirty! I know it will be tons and tons of work though, but I have a sister that is 2 years older than me and she is my best friend. I have step sisters and a half sister that range from 4 years to 10 years apart and i am no where near as close with them. I would just talk to you r husband and try to come up with a compromise. Tell him your point of view on it, and listen to his!

Sam - posted on 07/05/2009

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my boyfriend is exactly the same. Keep trying to talk to him don't give up i ain't lol xx

Kylie - posted on 07/05/2009

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Quoting Samantha:



Quoting Amy:

Another Baby

Are daughter will be 2 in October. I would like to start trying for baby #2 then, but my husband wants to wait 3 or 4 more years. I would like are kids close together, not 5 or more years apart. Also I would like to have all are kids before i'm 30. What should I do?





I would definitely talk to him.  The two of you need to weigh out the pros and cons of having a child now and waiting.  I have three children:  3, 19 months, and 7 weeks.  I would have never wanted to wait to have another.  Once you get out of the routine, sometimes you don't want to do it again.  I wanted to get out of diapers all at once.  I also wanted to have my kids young and have them close in age so that I can enjoy them and their kids and they can grow bonding relationships with each other.  I hope you can talk him into what you want.  good luck





I cant agree more there is 18months and 19 days between my 1st and 2nd and 17months and 29 days between 2nd and 3rd. I call it organised chaios but they are great buddies already. Also once they are a bit older you have the chance to go back to work / study, I find the few mums I know that have kids  5/6 years apart dont have the confidence after changing diapers for the last 10 - 15 years.

Marabeth - posted on 07/05/2009

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im over five years different with my bro and we've always been close. you know what you want and why, does your husband have a valid reason for his feelings? and if so does it hold enough weight against having all your kids before 30? health problems (god forbid) increase for mother and baby after 30. and even if its 100% healthy (totally possible) wouldnt you have to take bunches of more tests throughout pregnancy? increasing costs?

Becky - posted on 07/04/2009

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i would definitely talk to him ,i am a young married mother of four who are aged 6,4,3and 4months i wanted all of my kids close together and they all get on well with each other ,me and my bro are 4.5 yrs apart and wen cant stand eachother

Samantha - posted on 07/04/2009

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Quoting Amy:

Another Baby

Are daughter will be 2 in October. I would like to start trying for baby #2 then, but my husband wants to wait 3 or 4 more years. I would like are kids close together, not 5 or more years apart. Also I would like to have all are kids before i'm 30. What should I do?


I would definitely talk to him.  The two of you need to weigh out the pros and cons of having a child now and waiting.  I have three children:  3, 19 months, and 7 weeks.  I would have never wanted to wait to have another.  Once you get out of the routine, sometimes you don't want to do it again.  I wanted to get out of diapers all at once.  I also wanted to have my kids young and have them close in age so that I can enjoy them and their kids and they can grow bonding relationships with each other.  I hope you can talk him into what you want.  good luck

Jenni - posted on 07/04/2009

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I have several friends who have siblings separated in age, and they are not too close. My brother, sister, and I are close in age and in relationship. Enough said.

Lisa - posted on 07/04/2009

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yes i wud talk to ur hubby again. me and my brother are 5yrs apart and we arent close. as my girls are a 15 months apart and its ok really, can b tough sometimes but ella is a great help with her being 2. im pleased i have got it out the way not in a nasty way either so hopefully my girls willl b close. gud luck in ur chat x x x

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Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel. You don't want to wait 5 years in between. PLUS, he isn't the one who has to be pg with them, and the older you get, the harder it will be. My daughter and son are 22½ months apart. It's working great already and he will be 2 months tomorrow. She is such an awesome big sister and helper. Go for it now!!!! GOOD LUCK!

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