Another baby.

Dawn - posted on 08/01/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




I am wanting another baby, I have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. The hubby wants to wait until she is 5, and I do not. So confused!


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Jess - posted on 08/02/2009




That must be tough. I am only just about to have my first baby in a week and a bit. My partner and I have decided on 2 or 3 but who knows that may change after our first is born lol.

I tend to agree with you about not wanting to have an only child and this is why I chose 2 and decided maybema 3rd if we have two of the same sex.

If you haven't brought it up for a few months I'd say try just chatting. Say I was wondering if we could discuss something, I know we have discussed it before but it's something that I feel maybe if we talked about it you may change your mind. Explain to him why you feel like you want another baby, and let him tell you why he doesn't. He may go away and think about it. Now that your first is 2, she should be starting to get into a routine. Maybe he didn't want another baby because he found it too stressful, you'll never know until you ask and if you feel that passionately about having another baby it can't hurt to share with him how you're feeling. After all that is what life is about. :-)

Amanda - posted on 08/02/2009




You could always try to compromise. You could try to have another child a few months after she turns three. By the time you have your new little one, your daughter should be out of diapers and on her way to preschool. If that is still too soon for him then don't get discouraged. Wait until you are both ready. Just remember there are pros and cons to everything. Some pros of waiting are----
* you should be in routine with the school life
* your daughter will be able to be more involved with helping with brother/sister
* in turn with #2 your daughter may be more accepting and less jealous
* your daughter will be doing more for herself giving you the extra needed time for baby(she should be in the stage were she wants to do more for herself so don't feel you would be taking away from her)
* could be less overwhelming then two very little ones for you and/or your husband

I'm not going against your decision. These might be some things your husband thinks about. I wouldn't want this to bring bad blood between you and your husband. You have a beautiful daughter! I wish the best for your Family, good luck.

Samantha - posted on 08/02/2009




That's something that you both have to agree on. I wanted to wait until my oldest daughter was 5 until we had another baby but she was 8 months old when I got pregnant. Turned out to be a blessing for us. But I think when the time is right you will have a baby.

Dawn - posted on 08/02/2009




I kow what you mean. I just don't want our daughter to be an only child. I have been giving him time and not bring the subject up for the past few months. I want to ask since it's been awhile but I am kind of scared knowing it could go either way.

User - posted on 08/01/2009




It's so hard when you don't agree with each other. We have two beautiful boys who are 19 months apart and I would love another two but hubby is saying that he doesn't want any more. This breaks my heart and I find it hard to deal with but I have to accept that there is nothing I can do. I believe that if it is right it will happen but apart from that I have can only suggest that you take each day as it comes and give him a little more time. He may change his mind sooner than you think but theres no point in tryin to change it for him because it could be destructive to your relationship. Hope it all works out for you:)

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