Anxious momma

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 03/06/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 month old daughter and she is my entire world . I feel anxious all the time since she was born . I am constantly worrying if she is happy , getting enough attention , If I am being the best mommy I can be . Sometimes the worrying totally engulfs me . I know I'm a good mom but I still worry. Is this normal ?

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Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2013

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I agree I think the level of worrying i do is more than average but then I worry that if I stopped worrying so much it would mean I wouldn't be as good of a mommy! Sounds crazy huh!

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2013

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I understand about having fun and am not afraid to let her run through the mud! I also understand they will not always follow the paths in life u wish for them. I just think when parents consciously realize that their decisions impact their child's future choices it makes a difference. For example, if a child is not presented with a well balanced diet they will less likely choose to eat healthy when they can make their own decisions , and that is up to us to teach them to become the most they can be

Sarah - posted on 03/08/2013

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I have a 15 yr old, 11 yr old, and a 21 month old. What I have learned as my kids have grown and continue to learn is that you can guide but that does not mean your child will make the choices that you want them to make no matter how much you guide. They are their own individual and are going to make bad/wrong choices in life. You can serve them a well balanced meal, but it is their choice if they eat it and sometimes they won't. I think sometimes some of the anxiety comes from not being able to control. It is a learning processes that I countinue to learn each day. My 15 yr old will be able to drive on his own next year....talk about loss of control!!! I have also learned you have to live and laugh. Life is no fun and your kids have no fun/joy/happiness when are too rigided. Having rules and consequences for those rules is good. But sometimes you have to have a picinic in the middle of the living room floor when the rule is no food in the living room.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 03/07/2013

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Thank you ladies ... It is nice to know I am not alone! I do the breathing check still. It is so important to me to guide my daughter down the right paths in life from morally to eating a well balanced diet and it gets overwhelming !!

Alicia - posted on 03/07/2013

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I feel the same way! I have always had anxiety but after having my daughter it's gotten so much worse. Night is always horrible, I constantly check if she's breathing. She's almost six months now so I've had soo many sleepless nights. I feel like a walking zombie! Know that you aren't alone!

Sarah - posted on 03/07/2013

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Yes it is normal, but if you feel the worries are taking over your life then talk with your doc. Try to look at life a different way. Enjoy being her mom. Realize that sometimes you are going to make mistakes and that that is ok. Kids survive and it don't break. If you require yourself to be perfect what does that say to your child.....you must be perfect? Sometimes letting them know that you are human and make mistakes allows them to be human and learn from their mistakes. No parent wants to make a mistake, but we do....we are only human and are learning as we go. Your child is not going to be happy all the time and that is ok....as an adult we are not happy all the time.....this teaches her how to deal with the other emotions she is going to have throughout life. There might be times when she is not getting enough attention and that is ok too.....teaching patients is good too. Enjoy being a mom, make messes that usually aren't made (painting with pudding is a fun one), eat things that are not always eaten.....donuts for breakfast are nice special treats. :)

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