Any Advice For Overcoming Traumatic Events Such As Childbirth?

Lexi - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Being very independent and EXTREMELY self conscious about my body - never even let my boyfriend see my body - childbirth is going to prove itself as an extremely traumatic experience for me. From having to lay back, spread eagle under lights, to being touched and fondled by multiple people, its going to definitely take a toll on me. Any advice on how I can past the feelings of self hate, anger, and frustration?

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Firebird - posted on 12/12/2012

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Really? How many times do you need to be told to get some help? There is nothing else you can do - go to a professional! And try doing some research about childbirth and informed consent. Did you make up a birth plan? Nobody touched me until I got the urge to push, at which time I agreed to one cervical check.



ETA: And nobody is going to be "fondling" you while you're in labour, these are professionals for crying out loud, you need to lose that mindset.

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Victoria - posted on 12/13/2012

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Is there a deeper reason that you are having these feelings? You certainly cant ignore them, they wont go away. Childbirth is different for all of us, i wont bring up my experience here, but nobody fondled me. Get some emotional support from a professional.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/13/2012

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Get.professional.help. NOW!!! Don't just think your problems will "fly out the window" after you have the baby. What if you get worse? What if you do something you regret? You can't control this. You need professional to figure out the reasons WHY you feel this way and ways to help you overcome this. Please, for this baby's sake get help now.

Lungile - posted on 12/13/2012

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Just tell him to stay by you head when you ar giving birth. Thatit what I made my hubby do if you ae that insecure but I think these are your insecurities and men don't seem to have a problem with these things as much as us women do so I think this is in your head. He will just think you are amazing to be able to go through that trust me!

Lexi - posted on 12/12/2012

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I gotchya. I am hoping this is just a phase and maybe when I actually get to hold my baby, all my problems will go out the window. I just haven't had the best support system. My partner hasn't exactly made me feel good about myself, though he says he's excited for the baby. So I think my lack of support has made me feel a lot of how I do.

Lexi - posted on 12/12/2012

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I am mobile on breaks. No excuses, just reasons. I found out I was pregnant 2 days before getting a 12 year IUD, and was on Loestrin 24 Fe. :-/ I had only missed one pill during my 3 month trial. I have had exams, but theyre very traumatic for me. I was just looking for advice. That's all.

Lakota - posted on 12/12/2012

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Lexi, I am confused as to why you let yourself get pregnant? I read your post where you said you had thoughts of suicide because your body has been "damaged" from pregnancy. I'm sure your have been to the doctor for exams since you found out that your were pregnant. You need to tell him/her about your feelings and get some help. Other woman have commented on how you need to get help and you come up with every kind of excuse to not get it - like you don't have the time to go talk to someone because you work two jobs. If you can take the time to post stuff on this site, you can take the time to go talk to someone.

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