any moms have a husband who travels for work? oil rigs?

Kelli - posted on 12/03/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My husband is going to be starting a oil rig job travling 10 to 14 days at a time any sahm experiance this?and how hard is it on ur small child him being away?when he's home do they reconize there dad?

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Kim - posted on 12/03/2011

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When I was around 5 months he was gone for a month but other than that no. I was so worried that he would be and miss the birth since he could have been called in any time but we were lucky he didn't have to go until she was around 6 weeks. Feel free to message me if you have anything else you want to ask or chat about. I remember when he first left I was so sad and was looking for other people to talk to that actually understood since no one in my family or friends has had to deal with that.

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Vanessa - posted on 07/29/2014

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my husband works on the rigs in ND. its hard I feel like each time he comes home its getting harder to deal with the away time and im constantly asking him if hes doing anything wrong. were stuck at home with the kids while their living their own little life in ND. I am planning on taking a trip with him there to see what its really like and maybe that will set my mind at ease. mine is 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. our son is 3 and hubs has been out there since dec 3 2013. our son has NEVER forgot his dad if anything their relationship is a lot closer because of the away time. I feel distance in our relationship is causing trust issues. it sucks and its a hard thing to overcome. good luck

Jenn - posted on 02/03/2014

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I will say It is a hard situation to deal with but when i take a step back and look i know that he does it for me and our girls and my job as a mom and girlfriend is to support him because the oil field is all he knows. And it is about to get worse for me he is currently gone 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off but i just found out he is taking a promotion across the country working 28 days at a time. It was hard to swallow at first and still is i am not sure how i am going to deal with it.

Christal - posted on 01/22/2013

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Yeah I know how you feel there. I sometimes resent him a little when he leaves but then I just think and say to myself that whe's not only doing it for himself but for us too and that everything is okay he is coming back. It seems though, as if its getting harder for me everytime. It's like the more you spend time with him, the more you don't want him to leave when its time.

Christal - posted on 01/22/2013

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My boyfriend travels to wherever his rig is...usually 2 weeks in and one week off..

Tinker1987 - posted on 12/04/2011

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i have been with my fiance for almost 8 years and he has been on the Rigs./Oilfield for 4 of them,as the wife you do get used to it,My son is now 1 and it hasnt changed their relationship,he loves his dad so much and never forgets him,he walks around saying dada all day,im sure he misses him but cant express those feelings yet.. Just really take in all the memories when hubby is home on days off,get in alot of family time!! Its a big sacrifice they do to work away from their family but the money helps alot,we managed to pay down alot of our debt and get a good account going for our son.and my fiance is happy working on the rigs he moves around,and goes to different towns,and there is always more posistions available,so he gets more out of the job then just being in a shop or 8-5 everyday job...

Kim - posted on 12/04/2011

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Our situation was about the same except we aren't married. It is hard and at times I get angry and resent him for leaving us but I try my best to remember the reason he is gone. It will be better for our family in the long run. As long as you do as many family things as you can in the time that you have together you should be fine. Just remember that as important as it is for him to spend time with her it's also just as important that you have your alone time as well. Every once in awhile we will get a babysitter and have a night out, or do dinner and a movie at home after bedtime.

Kelli - posted on 12/04/2011

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Ya that's wat I'm worried about we have been married 2 years together for 4 and I have only been away from him for 4 days at the most. But rite now with our situation I no it will bettr our and our childs life a safer neighbor hood and car for me and my daughter I'm just scared that well regret it I'm praying as much as I can and supporting him

Kelli - posted on 12/03/2011

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We talked about skype I'm glad it does work well for u! Thanks 4 the reply. My daughters a year old. Were u pregnant while he was gone?

Kim - posted on 12/03/2011

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My boyfriend has been working on the rigs for 1 1/2 years. He is gone for 14 days and back for 7. He first left when our daughter was 6 weeks and our son was 3. I had the same concerns as you but other than my son missing him there really wasn't any problems when he got home. My daughter seemed to recognize him and hasn't played shy at all. She is now 18 months and loves when he is home but it also doesn't seem to bother her when he is gone.
It is hard because you are now the one that does everything and the one that has to deal with the kids missing him but they do get used to it and so will you. I bought my son a map and circled where we live and where daddy works and we hung it in his room. We also bought a second computer so we can skype him. I found once we got skype things were a whole lot easier for everyone. My son can show him things and dad can actually see the kids. We always try and have a lot of family time and do fun things when he is home. We also make sure each of our kids has one on one time with him. A lot is sacraficed but at least the week he is home our kids get his undivided attention.

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