any tips for a nocternal baby?!!!

Chloe - posted on 06/13/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




my baby boy is 4 and half months old and is still waking up every 2 or 3 hours in the night for a bottle, he is having baby food during the day but it still doesnt seem to fill him up. also once he has woken up its very difficult to get him to back in his cot, sometimes he will only sleep in bed with me,please help im soooo tired!!!


Belinda - posted on 06/13/2009




It is soooo hard isn't it. My girl was such a good sleeper until she was 4 months old and then started feeding 2 hourly day and night so I can completely understand how exhausted you must be. From what I've been told, food during the day at this age doesn't usually seem to have much bearing on how long they sleep at night........ unfortunately! I would say your boy should be able to go 4-5 hours at night between feeds by now so when he wakes at night and is due for a feed, keep the lights low, don't talk to him or play with him, keep it strictly business so it isn't any fun to be awake, just feed and straight back to bed. As for not sleeping in his own bed sometimes (unless you want to co-sleep which is fine if you want to do it) I would say try to break that habit as soon as you can or you may find he'll get quite used to sleeping with you and it'll be a much harder habit to break when he's older. Unfortunately when you are trying to alter their habits you'll need to expect some protest on the babies part and that will probably be crying. I'm pretty hopeless at listening to my girl cry, but if you know they are fed, dry, comfortable and need to sleep sometimes you need to let them cry a little so they can learn to sleep themselves. With my girl I would let her cry for a mintue or so, then go in and check her and give her her dummy and tell her it's time to sleep, leave the room for about 3 mins, if she's still crying go back in and repeat comforting for a mintue, then leave for 5 mins, if crying after 5 mins repeat comforting again then continue to check every 5-10 mins until she's asleep. It rarely takes her longer than 20mins of crying to fall asleep and this isn't an every night thing. I would say if he wakes in the night and he isn't due for a feed maybe try this process ( although for a baby this young I wouldn't leave him crying for more than 5 mins at a time, and only if you are comfortable with that, if he sounds like he is getting really really worked up or you are getting really upset, just leave him as long as you are comfortable, and be calm and confident and strong when you go into him so he knows you love him but it's not time to eat) and see how he goes. It will take a week or so for him to get used to the new routine. Good luck and be strong!! You'll both be much happier if you are getting good sleep. I am only doing this with my daughter now and she is 10 months old, and I wish I'd done it sooner because I've been living with 1-3 hourly sleeping for 6 months and it almost killed me!! She has responded quickly and we are both much happier. The key is consistency, she still wakes frequently some nights but I don't let her feed because if I give in I know we'll be back to where we started. Good luck honey..... Sorry for the long post!!


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User - posted on 06/14/2009




When I was going through all this not so long ago I always tried to remember that it is only for a season. I know at the time it seems so awful and it is but I try to apply that thought to everything when thigns are hard and for some reason it really helps.

I found that giving my boys a small bit of baby rice at around tea time helped them to go longer at night, having a good strict bedtime routine was also good. I think sometimes they get into a routine of waking when they aren't particularly that hungry so try leaving him in his bed but just stroking his head so he knows yourr there and then let him cry it out a bit if you can manage that. It is hard in the late of the night when everything is quiet but if you perservere then by the fourth night I found my boys were better.I have to say that they weren't as young as your little one when I started this.

Try offering some cool boiled water instead of milk.

It may not be helping that he gets to sleep with you. I found with my second that he woke in his cot then wouldn't settle until he had the comfort of me next to him. I know that it is so much easier to pop them in next to you because of the tiredness that makes you think you are going nuts but in the long run it may not help you.

Hope things settle down for you soonxx

Samantha - posted on 06/13/2009




There are a couple of different things you can try. Give him cereal in his last bottle before bed, but make sure the nipple has a hole big enough for it to go through. When he wakes up during the night, try giving him water instead of milk and see if he still wants to feed. After that, try just picking him up without feeding him and help him get back to sleep. After trying these tricks a couple of nights he might sleep a little longer. You can then try letting him cry it out for a while to see if he will put himself back to sleep. I hope these tricks work for you.

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