Anyone else have children that have different dads?

Brandice - posted on 07/22/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I was in high school when I met my daughter's father. We were high school sweethearts and moved in together just after my graduation. A year later I was pregnant and we married when I was 6mts along. I was 19, he was 20. She was born in Dec, 2004. We separated when she was 4 months and the divorce was finalized just after she turned one. It was around this time that I met my now husband. I was apprehensive at first to have him around my daughter, but as soon as he met her, I saw that he loved her as much as I did. He became the daddy she so desparately needed, especially since her father still only does what he has to, if that. We married last June (I was 23 and he was 25) and I gave birth to our son Feb of this year. I was just wondering if any other women my age have gone through anything similar.

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Kerry - posted on 07/25/2009

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thing is you cant plan everything, and nothing goes to plan, i have 2 kids by 2 different dads and a 3rd on the way with another man and we are not together never have been, (not the way i planned my life) but i couldn't be anymore happy than i am right now, my kids are great and happy and both know who their dads are not that they are around.

Jennifer - posted on 07/25/2009

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I had twins when i was 18, I two got married at about seven months pregnant. We were together until the twins were two. Now they are four and I just had another little one. Her dad is wonderful to all the children.

Stacy - posted on 07/25/2009

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I have 4 kids 3 dads and am marring mister right, for me it is really hard, one father wants to move away, another isn't that smart, and thank god that the 3rd father of 2 is sperm donor they love my fiancee I am glad I found someone right for me and them.We might have one more together, and they all lived happily ever after. ha ha I wish everyday is a challange and well worth it.

Amber - posted on 07/25/2009

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I as well have two children that have been fathered by two different men. I have been blessed that my oldest son's father seen that when I met my new husband and he took care of Elijah and loved him as his even if his father was around or not, he started becoming more involved in my son's life. My husband is his father, and Elijah's bio is his dad and friend. It can work out beautifully, God works for us and can do great things for us! I left my son's father when he was 8 months old so I can relate to you.

Louise - posted on 07/25/2009

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i was 16 when i had my son when i told the dad he left me in an instant it was hard work being young and thought i would be for ever coz no one would want to take me on with a baby i meet someone eles when my son was 18 months old and we went on to get married and have 2 other children together we treat them all the same and with rules and telling off and its like he is his son to we are all very happy proveing there can be happy endings x

Rhonda - posted on 07/22/2009

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hey! well me and my now boyfriend whom i hope to marry one day havent had a child together yet but we are raising my daughter together. actually she calls him daddy...when i found out i was prego at 18 i left my daughters biological father b/c of his excessive cheating...two years later i met my boyfriend and now we are a happy family he puts in the work and love as her father...i love him for that i cant wait to have kids with him in the future

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This is a LONG response... sorry. I hope you find it helpful :)
I had my oldest daughter just after I graduated from high school. It didn't take long to realize that her father and I were not meant to be together. When my daughter was 3 years old I met, or rather re-met my current husband. We were good friends in high school and lost touch when he went away to college. He was home during spring break and decided to give me a call. 10 months later we were engaged and in September of 2004 when my daughter was 5 years old, we were married. My daughter's father has been apart of her life since day one (although not always willingly). I felt it was important for her to know him (I was lucky that he wasn't abuse or dangerous or unfit or anything... just immature). My daughter visits with her dad every other weekend and calls my husband by his first name and, when asked, refers to him as her 'foot-dad' (funny story-- 5 year olds don't always understand adult terms like 'step-parent'). We now have two other children, one boy and one girl and since my oldest daughter is 10 she understands that they are technically her 'half siblings' but has actually said that she would never think of them as anything but 'full siblings'. As she says, "they bug me the same whether they are 'half' or not!" LOL! My husband is a wonderfully, patient man who let my daughter set the pace for the bonding process and they now get along like any other father and daughter. My ex is actually getting married in 2 weeks so my daughter will be gaining a step-mom and luckily I get along with her. I think that we have all worked REALLY hard to put the past behind us and leave our adult relationship stuff out of my daughter's view. It has NOT been easy. Especially when my ex sued for custody (for the second time) 3 months before my wedding and all of our money went to lawyer fees instead of to the wedding costs (thank goodness that my parents and my in-laws came to our aid!). I think that since we can't control the actions of our ex's (unfortunately) that we have to do the best we can with what we do have! It sounds to me like we have all been blessed with supportive husbands and more, wonderful children, so just do your best to make that all work together. Good Luck!
P.S. I live in Ontario, Canada and we have some booklets available through our 'health unit' that is all about step parenting and blended families. My husband and I found them extremely informative. I love to read and educate myself as much as possible and these seemed to help us to look at things from different points of view. I think they are available online but I'm not sure what the website is... I'll let you know if I find it.

Rebecca - posted on 07/22/2009

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Not happy about it. It's embarassing to me. I had my 1st when I was 18. The sperm donor.. well I thought we were in love. Bullsh*t! The guy I am with now, we've been together since before she turned 3 months old. We have a daughter together. I am so happy to have him in my life. I just wish I met him sooner

Jamie - posted on 07/22/2009

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I have 2 kids by 2 different dads. I met my current husband while getting divorced from my ex husband. I dont think it much a big deal. My daughters dad hasnt seen her in 2 yrs. And shes knwo my current husband as her dad since she was one.

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