anyone have any stories about being involved with CAS, with a good ending?

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Kel - posted on 08/27/2014

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Child protection workers dedicate their lives to protecting children and ensuring their safety. Of course, it's like any other profession, whereby there are always good workers and bad workers. However, Child Protection Agencies by law have to investigate concerns that are reported to them. They can't just take people's word for it when they deny the concerns or because they may look like a nice family. Most importantly, what the child says is always taken into great consideration. I find that people always talk about the negative stories about CPS and the positive changes that CPS is actually responsible for almost never gets heard by people or the media etc. When CPS requests to speak with you, the best thing you could do is be cooperative, as opposed to resistant. If you don't speak with them, then they could take the issue to court if necessary and then you'll just have to pay lawyers fees and the situation gets blown out of proportion. So, do speak to CPS and make it easier for yourself and your family. They are trained professionals. Yes, it may seem intrusive when they are investigating your family in your home, but you need to look at the big picture......that they are just trying to ensure the safety and well-being of your child/children.

In addition, when it comes to a child being removed from their family, that only happens in situations where there is risk of harm/abuse/neglect and CPS most of the time tries to work with the family first and if that doesn't work then CPS will try to locate family members that the child can temporarily stay with, as opposed to just putting them in a foster home.

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Erick - posted on 06/18/2014

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I really don't like liars, it's pure and simple what they do to apprehend a child when they don't find evidence. However, once people start's in thinking that truth telling is subjective to the situation at hand for your own positive outcome. You start to question their professionalism, then that's when they beat you down with their lies, especially if they are holding your children hostage to it. For many people, the CAS are the parasites of this province as there are way to many of their workers who dispense their brand of harsh child protection to way to many innocent parents without any fear of reprisals as there are none to be had in Ontario. I am a dad, my son was taken away, I was lucky, this problem only lasted a month as my wife was able to take custody and move to another city with her parents. The only problem is, I am still being badgered about CAS fabricated allagations of various abuse of me towards my wife, well, I hope CAS is reading this, my wife and I want to SUE YOU. But, I don't know, I think my time would be best invested in protests and the likes and I would like to organise or be part of an organization so that their can be better oversight of their actions.

Teresa - posted on 01/07/2010

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yea i have been envolved with CAS for 9 months now, and i can tottaly agree with you, i want a nornmal life without someone watchin my every move. iv been told that if all goes well iv have my son back in march, witch i cant wait! i have only seeing him 3 times a week! i hate having to go to some stupid building just to be able to see my child...but at the same time im glad that this whole thing happend, becuz i am a much better person and mother now. and i believe in myself alot more. i like you have depression, and even take meds and am in counceling atm,..anyways ty for writeing hope to share more stories soon, tray

Kate Marie - posted on 01/07/2010

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i still have them involved i had severe deppression when my now 17month old daughter was born as she almost dies she always is and has been well looked after i just didnt bond like a parent striaght away and i was bought up in foster homes so they thought i would follow wat my mum did then, i feel out with a friend and she called them sayin i did drugs complete BS they marched in my house the same day threatening to take my lil one away if i didnt do a drug test there and then witch i did happily and passed so we had a meetin they were lik ok ya have done nothing wrong, as my daughter already has a social worker wen i took her to get weighed one day she had a tiny bruise on her face were she just started crawling and fell.. the health visitor rang my daughters SW and told her they then took my daughter into hospital for TEN days.. i didnt leave her side well apart from one day to get a break they were doin all sorts of awful tests in her that were very uncomfortable for her and was very hard for me to watch..they then came up with nothing again proof i was not lying and have never laid a finger on her and wouldnt dream of it.. they are still however watching me very closely witch bugs me as my daughter alwasy gets to the best of my ability everything she wants and needs .. also she is not permitted like a normal child to fall or have an accident because they then jump to conclusions. its nice to know they are doin there job but at the same time i want a normal life for me and my daughter.. her dad occasionally uses drugs and so does my mum neither of them are aloud unsupervised contact with my daughter understanable, yet my sisters kids can stay with my mum once a week without them batting an eyelid all because her kids dont have social workers that i feel is wrong.. as if they feel she is unfit to look after my child surely it should be the same with any child??? the system is so messed up.. it really is i wil be so glad to be rid of them i really will x

Joanne - posted on 01/07/2010

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Well...i have a couple....i live in ontario so i know about CAS...when i lived in the city i had girls that HATED me....they thought it'd be a good idea to 3-way CAS and say a BUNCH of crap! they showed up with police 3 times ( i wasn't home to answer the door, my neighbor had told me ) but when they did come in i was absolutely shocked to hear the crap that was told...there was abuse accusations from these girls and at the time, my 2 children ages 4 months and 3 years, were at daycare daily while i attended adult ed to finish my high school...i sat there with the CAS in my living room and told them to call the daycare right then and there because the accusations were BS and i wanted the file closed immeadiately....the daycare saw my kids 5 days a week for 6 hours a day, they would notice signs of abuse. they called and everything was fine and the CAS chick told me to put away my laundry that was sitting on my kitchen table after she looked around the apartment..then she walked out and i never heared anything of it again. it was very nerve wracking though, to have someone walk into your home and basically say tell me everything or i'm taking your kid(s) is just awful, especially if nothing is wrong and it's over some stupid idiot trying to get you going, how can having anyone's kids being taken form them justify anything?

the second time was when we got kittens from this house, they had fleas and we never had them before so i had no idea about the marks on my kids....when we figured it out, it was too late, we had our house sprayed 3 times!! but my daughter's bites got infected and the school actually called CAS, apparently they thought my kids foot wa gonna fall or something, they never called me to talk to me about it or anything, they just took matters into their own hands basically, idiots. i'm mad at them for that, 1 year later. i had to get my kids checked out by emerge dr's, CAS came in my home with 4 cops saying they'd take my kids if i didn't have them checked out!!?? WTF?? like it was something that was out of my control...we did whatever we could, my daughter got harsh steroids to help her sleep and stop itching...it was dumb, i hated her taking the meds but they helped. we made CAS pay for them though, they were $170!!! fuk them, they came in my home and threatened my kids....they paid for the meds after a 3 day fight about it on the phone.

so in the end, things worked out for us, i'm glad to hear youre getting your kids back, that's great, be a happy mom hun, the results are sooo rewarding!!!! kids are sooo worth it!!! good luck!!!

Teresa - posted on 01/06/2010

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wow thank you for shareing that:) how great it is when there is a happy endin when it comes to children...i am curently involved with CAS myself, for 9 months and 1 week....and its been extreamly hard...but i am learning a great deal from them, and i am becomeing a much better mother and person in general...my son was taken wen he was 8 and a half moths and he is almost 18 months now, and i can proudly say that he will be returned to my custody in march :) i was extreamly destraut when they had taken my son, and i was extreamly depressed for the longest time, but then i had finally opend up my eyes and realized that no matter how much this hurt, it was for my sons well being, and that this was a chance to completely chance my life around. and that is exactly what i have been doing for the last 9 months....i hate that CAS has gotten envolved with my child and i, but at the same time, there like angels, and they're saving my life and my family. my son and i have such an amazing bond now, one that i thought we would never really have, and i am so thankful for that.. my son has an amazing foster family, they care for him as he was there own little boy, and they love him very much. i feel truely blessed to have the foster family that i do have, and i am truely looking forward to being able to invite them into my sons and my life, once he is returned home...if you have anymore stories about CAS/CPS(?) or know anyone that does, plz feel free to share them :) and once again thank you :)

Sativa - posted on 01/06/2010

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If I am assuming correctly CAS is the Canadian equivalent of CPS in the US right? Well we had a serious problem with them about 2 yrs ago. My best friend from child hood had a drug addict ex wife. She was annoyed when I recorded our phone conversations (which is legal in CO.) to prove that she was abusive and dangerous to her children. When she found out about them, she went to CPS and told them my husband molested her 4 yr old daughter. WE had one hell of a fight ahead of us when that came down. However, As I said, it was 2 yrs ago and we never lost custody of our children and CPS (FINALLY!!!!!!!) realized that we were telling the truth about her being a drug addict. She lost custody of her kids, and their father has them now. She is only allowed to see them suppervised. That is sad but they both had a drug problem and he realized that they needed to be drug free for the sanity of the family. She liked her drugs and didnt want to give them up. End of story. We weren't sure those kids would ever be safe but they are now. She tried to destroy 2 other men by blaming them for child abuse the same as she did my husband. That was the beginning of her end. Medical proof showed that the little girl was fondled but we will never know who it was. The girl is too confused (her mother trained her to say that things had happened that never did) to tell and the mother will never be believed by the authorities again. I pray that the real monsters of this story will never hurt another child again.

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