Anyone have any tips for getting toddler ready for new baby??

Jenn - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son is going to be 3 in november and i have a baby girl due October 4th...I was just looking for some tips to make the transition from nly child smoother for him and everyone in general..The babys nursury will be in our room for the first few mths, which is where my son sleeps now in our bed...which i am working on getting him into his own room. I was just wondering what i can do now to sort of prepare him...he talks to my belly and loves picking out baby clothes and saying his to hi sister but i dont think he fully understands that she will be coming out in a few mths...Also any tips for after the baby is born to make it easier on him and not make him resentful would be greatly appreciated:) Thanks

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Mishalla - posted on 08/04/2009

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I just had a baby boy april 3,2009 and i have a 3 year old boy also,to keep your toddler from getting jealous let him help feed the baby,when your dressing the baby let him help like put her socks on snap her onsie this will make him feel needed praise him when he helps this will keep him fromresenting the new baby.Make sure you still make over him let him know you still love him...I always tell my toddler he's my favorite but not to tell baby brother that it's our little secret. when you get ready to do something that he can help with tell him you can't do it without him. and don't forget PRAISE HIM FOR EVERYTHING HE HELPS WITH!!!!!!!!this is so important my toddler loves his little brother so much he says it's his baby he calls him my avey my baby's name is avery,take a deep breath everything will be ok if u do these simple things,also make sure uyou set aside a day for for just you and your eldest child he needs extra attention until he realizes that you love him still and just as much as you do the new baby if you can't set aside a day for you and him let dad do it. I hope all goes well and congragulations on your baby girl..

Jessica - posted on 08/04/2009

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My 1st son is 4 & we just had our 2nd boy 2 weeks ago ... we brought my older son to all docters appts & he helped us pick out all the stuff for the baby we let him pick special things for his new brother ( like a baby blankie like he has ) he has done very well with adjusting he is great with the baby loves to hold him kiss & hug him all the time gets a little jealous when daddy gives the baby attention but were working on it I'm a stay at home mom have been for the last 8 months so i have alot of one on one time with both kids. Its very important to set aside that special one on one time with your toddler after the baby comes even if its just reading a book it helps & include them in taking care of the baby have him get u a diaper or blanket stuff like that makes them feel important to the baby & helpful & a big boy to mom & dad praise them when they do good things with the baby like being gentle. My older son doesn't like when other people hold the baby he always wants him if someone other then myself is holding the baby we asked him why he said he's protecting him. ... As far as you 3 yr old going into his own bed try decorating his room but taking him shopping for the stuff maybe new blankets a nightlight things like that it was a big help for us cuz it was his & he decorated it. also i dont know if they have this where you live but we took our toddler to a sibiling class offered at the hospital he learned things about the baby & things he could & couldnt do they explained things in ways we couldn't hope I helped sum Good luck with everything

Ashley - posted on 08/04/2009

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when i had my daughter my stepdaughter was just 3 also and she still sleep in me and her daddys room but in her own bed that was really hard for us because everytime the baby woke up during the night my step daughter woke up so i recommend that you try working with the older child on sleeping in their own room or no one in the house is going to get any sleep. I wish that i would have prepared my step daughter more to the fact that there would be a new baby in the house she was very jealous and mean to the baby so i think that getting a baby doll would help alot

Lisa - posted on 08/04/2009

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I would recommend getting him his own baby doll and teach him how to take care of her, make sure he understands how to be NICE! My son is so mean to my daughter, when i brought her home he threw her stuff away! I wish I would have prepared him more. They are 18 mnths apart.

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Jenn - posted on 08/05/2009

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WOW Everyone I Just wanted to sincerly say THANK YOU:) for all the great advice and tips, and keep em coming plz:) You have all been very kind and helpful. I will be trying out each and every one of your ideas...I'll keep everyone posted:) thanks yall

Becky - posted on 08/05/2009

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Great topic. I'm in the same boat. My son will be 3 in Sept and we are currently due beginning of Nov. I agree with Sarah though. I watched my little niece transistion from nly child to big sister and it started off a bit rough. But my brother and his wife made sure to give her plenty of 1-on-1 time with each of them. She's a great big sister now and though I've heard its an easier transistion for girls than boys, I'm confident that my little guy will be ok.

Amanda - posted on 08/05/2009

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Make him feel just as special. I let my son here the baby's heart beat, he would feel her kick, and kept him very involved. We made sure that he got a special gift from her when she was born and he brought her a special gift to the hospital. We even let him spend the night at the hospital. It worked out great. Good luck getting him out of your bed.

Jenn - posted on 08/04/2009

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thanks thats my concern that if cody is in or room still then he will wak up everytime the baby does..and he will be alot harder to put back asleep then the baby...im def gonna get him a doll..tomorrow!! lol better sooner then later...thanks for the advice:)

Jenn - posted on 08/04/2009

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tHANKS...I HAVE BEEN GETTING HIM TO HELP ME "TAKE CARE" OF HIS FAVOURITE TEDDY...changing diapers, giving it a bottle, bathing it lol and tucking it in bed...and he loves it...He loves to help and be involved so i am hoping that continues on..but i should get him a doll, that is more babylike then a bear lol..Thnks:)

Jenn - posted on 08/04/2009

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Haha thats neat were both due same day...lets see if we can both stick it out till then:)...Lots of ppl told me to let him get a little gift to give to baby and also to get him a gift to bring back from the hospital "from the baby"...maybe ill throw him a lil "big brother party" or something...make him feel involved and special..but ya i def dont want to pressure him or cause to much of a chnge in the attention he is getting...I just want as many ideas as possible so i have OPTIONS..lol

Jocelyn - posted on 08/04/2009

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I'm going to lurking this post for ideas... I am also due Oct 4, and my guy will be three in the beginning of Jan, and he also still sleeps in our bed lol. The only thing that I know for sure is that I am going to get him a doll; because what mom has, he has to have too lol.

Sarah - posted on 08/04/2009

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When my daughter was born my son was 2 1/2 and we just let him have his own time we did not push him into anything. We also tried to spend 1 on 1 time with him. I also let him know that I would have to stay at the hospital with the baby and he would be staying with daddy..I did not complicate things they are still really little..hope this helps

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