Are there any other moms who had their children back to back? Mine will be less than a year apart and I need some tips on how to cope with it.

Joy - posted on 04/12/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




Trinity was born May 23rd, 2008, Christian is due May 4...they're very close together. I really need some efficiency tips.


Brittany - posted on 04/12/2009




My 2nd little girl and my younger boys are only 13 months apart. But as long as you keep a schedule it helps a lot. You are going to be overwhelmed, but thats part of newborns anyways. Just plan more on changing diapers in your sleep! LOL

Lindsay - posted on 04/12/2009




My daughter Madeline was born Feb 8, 2005 and my son Cooper was born Aug. 10, 2006. I was so worried about it being overwhelming but I agree with Carla. As long as you have the older one in a routine when the new baby comes it seems almost natural for them to fall into the same routine soon enough. the plus to having them so close is that they will be so close and will have a playmate right there at home with them. Don't get me wrong, they will fight and agrue but they will also love each other and be close there entire life. They are now 4 and 2 1/2 and it was truely a blessing in disguise. Now it is so much fun to watch them play and I can't imagine having it any other way! Good luck to you!

Carla - posted on 04/12/2009




i have a three year old boy who was born 24th oct and my duaghter was born 5th october i found it easy as i had my little boy in a routine and why they are that young they are easly entertained so trust me you will be ok.


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Lorraine - posted on 04/16/2009




My daughter was born June 06 and my son was born July 07. The biggest thing for me was that my daughter was still having two naps a day so tried to get son down then as well. Didn't always work but for most part did. I know they say that so close together they oldest won't feel left out but the day after I brought my son home was the day my daughter threw her first tantrum and it was a big one! For a week or so my oldest wouldn't drink her milk and wouldn't eat properly but they eventually get over it. Now they are a bit over 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 and they get on really well together. I sure hope Trinity will be walking by time Christian arrives. With my two my daughter started walking 1 week before my son arrived. To say I was pleased is an understatement!! You have got a bit of time before your next one arrives so do a big heap of cooking and freeze it, it will really help in those first few weeks when you feel like you are being torn in half a dozen different directions at once. Also bath them together as my kids loved that as it gave them both interaction time with me and with each other.

Melissa - posted on 04/16/2009




It very hard when there young but gets easier as they get older. I have a 10,9, and two that are 7. Just look at it this way. Its good that they are close they have somebody to play with and as they get older they should be very close.

Kirstie - posted on 04/16/2009




Hi there i have 2 children my first born 27th August 06 my second 22nd October 07!!!!!

When i had my second child i thought my first would get jeloues, so i made sure i payed lots of attention to him so he didnt feel left out, when i brought my daughter home i brought my son a toy aswell.

I changed there nappies at the same times. I gave them meals at the same times.i put them to bed at the same times although it was tricky with my youngest waking up for bottles.

Make sure they do things together that way they form a bond,also try and get your eldest to help out wih your youngest :D i hope this helps!! any questions feel free to message me.

Brittany - posted on 04/16/2009




My daughter was born october 14, 2006, and my son was born november 29, 2007. Trust me I know what Im talking about it is going to be hard but it does get better... You will need to have everything ready before the baby gets here... Like your older one having a time for naps and dont change them.. Your 1st child may have regresion. but thats normal... I know my daughter always wanted to hold and help feed my son... Let her thats her way for her to know shes still important. If you would like to talk more about this let me know my e-mail is

Jessi - posted on 04/16/2009




Its honestly not as bad as it may currently seem.My eldest Amber was born 12th Dec 05,and my second daughter was born 4th Dec 06,so 11 months 3 weeks apart,and on Ambers first bday we had a 8 day old baby joining in the celebration.I got myself propared...I lived in our loungeroom during theday,I had a portable cot set up for the new baby and the change table with all their needs right there too.I had all my bottles and drinks and food ready the night before for my toddler so I could just grab it and no prep time,and then I would set her up with sometoys,and when I was feeding the baby,just kept my eldest right next to me and included her by talking to her abpout what i was doing,so she would just sit beside us and babble!It was easier then I thought it would,nights were just as some can be,with a baby that wakes for feeding.Amber was in a great routine by sleeping right through,and I worked hard at getting Lilly set in the same,so they would nap together and go down for the night at the same time aswll.There will be AHHHH days,but all in all,Amber is now 3years ols,Lilly is 3 and our new addition Heidi Dae is 7 months old!It can be similar to a zoo in here at times,but its wonderful,and there is alot of love in our home

!I hope that you find ways that work for you,just stick with something that feels comfortable...but remember,rountine is the key,and most babies will just get in sync with a rountine thats given to them!!!!Hope that helps,good luck with your delivery and birth of Chrustian!Catchya,Jess

Joy - posted on 04/13/2009




Congratulations! I've heard that too. My sister in law had two girls a little less than a year apart. Even though neither one is on a schedule and they still don't sleep through the night (the youngest is a year old) they are really close friends and are good entertainment for each other.

If your first isn't on a schedule yet, I would recommend reading the book Babywise for a few tips. My sister recommended it to me because at 10 months my little girl wasn't sleeping much and feedings were difficult. It helped us get her on a schedule and she is super easy now. I'm hoping my second will fall into the routine too.

Katee - posted on 04/13/2009




I had my first baby a boy July 2 of 2008 and found out that we will be having a little girl somewhere around July 10, 09 only a year later. Im really nervous but iv heard having them close together is a really good thing considering they will grow up almost like twins so your still in the groove of things.

Teyaka - posted on 04/13/2009




I have an 18 months old and a 4 month old. Times in my house can be crazy then again they can be relaxing.

I learned that if I involve my oldest in what I am doing with the youngest, there is less fighting and jealousy. When I change the youngest diaper, I let the oldest throw it away or he might even hand me the diaper. When playing with the kids I let my oldest son give the youngest kisses and hugs. I also showed him how to share the tummy toy that my youngest uses.

The oldest one also gets some alone time with me and my hubby. We make it a point to relax with him and to make it to where he has all of our attention for a little while. Even if its just us running around the house for 10 mintues or taking him outside to play with the dotg for a few hours.

PLAY DATES are my best friend. I love setting them up. There are a dates that I can drop the oldest off at, while the youngest stays home and I get my errands, housework, etc done. Then there are dates that I take them both too! When your kids are running around with other kids... its as if entertainment is right there. They are occupied and you can actually have an afult conversation with another adult.

Joy - posted on 04/12/2009




I'm glad to hear that having a routine is what makes the difference. My eldest is on a steady schedule already and I'm hoping the second will fall into it quickly.

Kylie - posted on 04/12/2009




My eldest two are only a year apart and it was great. Acacia was too young to have jealousy issues and I found that because she was still a baby herself I didn't have the shock of being thrown into the whole baby stage again as I was already there. They would both nap at the same time in the afternoon + Audrey-Jean would have a morning nap which would give me some alone play time with Acacia. They are now 4 & 5 and they are great friends for eachother. I now also have a 2 month old son Kai and hope to have another soonish aswell to give him a little playmate like his sisters. :o)

Amber - posted on 04/12/2009




I am a mother of two My son was born Feb 1,2008 and my daughter was born on feb 6,2009. So i really had the same concerns as you. But i agree with the other moms having a routine will help so much. Have the oldest set and on a regular schedule will not only help you with your timing and dealing with both when the second arrives.But the oldest will remain comfortable and won't act out as often because of wanting attention. It's not going to be easy but trust me in a couple week after the second arrives you will feel so much relief. 

Abby - posted on 04/12/2009




sorry no real tips other than get them in good routines. i've only got one but life was hellish until he was in a routine. good luck. hope everything goes well. xxx

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