at what age would you let your child out the front garden to play?

Sophie - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

30

55

5

i have a son who is coming up to being 7 this year,and just wondered when people thought it would be a good idea to let him out the front? i know its also to do with maturity and he is very grown up for his age but think he is still too young at the moment.but i would like to know what other people think or when they let their child out for the first time.

This conversation has been closed to further comments

13 Comments

View replies by

Francesca - posted on 06/07/2009

569

46

50

we played in our back garden and i have 3 sisters and 1 brother so never played on my own. i think that its far too young to let your 4 yr old out the front to play on her own, back garden yes thats fine but not the front, also 2 young girls got taken and murdered by a man in the same small town and nothing had ever happened there before. you can never be too careful. im not judging you but im just giving my opinon

Leslie - posted on 06/07/2009

172

18

34

i live in a very small community know one has ever been taken or anything, who said anyhting about not watching our kids??? i watch my little girl all the time but im not going to go outside every second and watch her like a hawk, i want my little girl to stay young to thats why i let her play to herself, she goes out and pretends all kinds of things.
just wondering did you ever ask your mom how ld you were when you played by yourself in the garden?? im sure it was younger than 10

Francesca - posted on 06/07/2009

569

46

50

yes when their 10 not 4!!!! in this day and age you hear about such nasty things about children being taken. a girl the same age got taken from there own hotel room while the parents were having a meal in the same hotel. children that young playing out the front with no parent watching is crazy. and when my ss is at school there is no road and and playground has a large fence and gate. i think nowa days children grow up too quick they are not children at 4 there more like teens and that is scary. i want my children to stay young as that is what they are. but thats what i think

Leslie - posted on 06/07/2009

172

18

34

i wonder if you dont let your 4 year old out of you sight when will they learn on there own??? they are ging to school soon then what happens??they arent watched every second on the school yard,my little girl is very independent and i trust her alot she has never ran on the road or even the side walk, i think now a days children are to sheltered. were preparing them for life arent we?? isnt it our job to teach them not to do these things ??and i dont no about u guys but i want my children to live an independent life and make there own decisions

Melissa - posted on 06/05/2009

956

132

52

People wonder why children get hurt every day? To me it is very clear why.

Francesca - posted on 06/05/2009

569

46

50

im so shocked that some of you ladies let your 4 year olds out the front. i wouldn't dream of letting my ss who is also 4 out of my sight. i was not aloud out the front till i was about 8 and even then it was only up and down the path. not trying to judge but i wouldn't do it

Susan - posted on 06/05/2009

13

33

2

my son is 4 years and I barely let him go out side of the gate. I still check on him to make sure that he's ok. He's only alloud to play outside of the gate if the other kids next door are out or he goes in their house. I think that they need to wait until they can understand the dangers of people, cars, and boundries.

Amie - posted on 06/05/2009

6,596

20

412

For things like this it depends on a few things. Where you live, Do you know your neighbors, Is it a busy neighborhood, Does your son know how to handle himself safely when it comes to playing near roads, etc.
My 4 year old son does play out front. So does the 4 year old girl across the street. They stay in either our yard or her yard. We (us and the girls parents) can always see them. They know when crossing the street to watch for cars. They know not to play on the street. Neither of them just run onto it or bike on it when their riding their bikes. I can see them at this moment actually in her yard chasing each other around. =) This is his first year being allowed out front without us having to sit out there with him. Obviously I can still see him, just as I can our oldest (she's 8 1/2) when she's out front playing.
We live on a quiet crescent in our city. All the neighbors know each other because most of us have kids. The older kids love biking during the summer, playing hide and seek throughout the neighborhood, running through all the sprinklers (or going down our water slide, we bought one a couple years ago lol) It's one of those streets you go by and think holy crap where do all these kids live? It's very white picket fence. All the kids know the rules though and when they hear their parents call you bet they are their in a snap. =) Supper time is funny, there's 3 to 5 of us at a time on our front steps yelling for our kids to come eat. lol.

Leslie - posted on 06/05/2009

172

18

34

My little girl is 4 and she goes out by herself all the time, i trust her and she knows her boundaries, every couple of mins i look out the window to see were she is and as long as i can see her shes aloud outside. if i cant see her and yell out and she dosnt listen she knows its inside for her so shes usually pretty good i have been doing this since she turned 4.
i dont know were you live, but i live in a very tiny community so theres no danger of someone taking her or anything i have lived here all my life and nothing like that has ever happend. i think you should trust your children, or at least let them earn your trust

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

33

11

7

My son's are 5 next wk and 7 in October, they have a back garden to play in and there is NOWAY I am going to let them play out the front 4 a while... It is sooo difficult these days, many children are 3 and playing out, but I like to think I am a caring, protective Mum and not over protected... As long as they have somewhere safe to play near the road is not the best....



I used to live in a closeway so not many cars and lots of children were out the front from about 8yrs but now altho children are growing up to young they aren't safe from Men on the prow and cars espesh if they playing ball.... if and when you decide he is old enough keep an eye on him, sit with him for a while, explain the dangers until he can recite and understand them all!!!



Good luck x

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

33

11

7

My son's are 5 next wk and 7 in October, they have a back garden to play in and there is NOWAY I am going to let them play out the front 4 a while... It is sooo difficult these days, many children are 3 and playing out, but I like to think I am a caring, protective Mum and not over protected... As long as they have somewhere safe to play near the road is not the best....



I used to live in a closeway so not many cars and lots of children were out the front from about 8yrs but now altho children are growing up to young they aren't safe from Men on the prow and cars espesh if they playing ball.... if and when you decide he is old enough keep an eye on him, sit with him for a while, explain the dangers until he can recite and understand them all!!!



Good luck x

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

33

11

7

My son's are 5 next wk and 7 in October, they have a back garden to play in and there is NOWAY I am going to let them play out the front 4 a while... It is sooo difficult these days, many children are 3 and playing out, but I like to think I am a caring, protective Mum and not over protected... As long as they have somewhere safe to play near the road is not the best....



I used to live in a closeway so not many cars and lots of children were out the front from about 8yrs but now altho children are growing up to young they aren't safe from Men on the prow and cars espesh if they playing ball.... if and when you decide he is old enough keep an eye on him, sit with him for a while, explain the dangers until he can recite and understand them all!!!



Good luck x

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms