Attitude Problems

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old daughter, has an attitude problem lately. She is a show off normally but also uses her manners and is usually a sweet girl. She gets consistent time-outs when really direspectful, and i even have the reward chart going for good behaviour but it seems she gets a rise out of being disobedient. Suggestions anyone before it gets out of hand?? Hopefully just a phase!

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Sabrina - posted on 05/28/2009

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i have a 5yr old and he is always pushing me. he will not get outta bed i can turn his lights on, pull his blankets down, i can shake him a little rubb his back.. and he will not get up i litarly have to pick him up and set him up straight and start dressing him and he still fights me.. i dont know what this is about. then there is when i ask him to pick up after himself, he will throw all his stuff around instead of just putting it away in his baskets he throws them across the room and hides them under his bed and dresser instead of jsut putting them away. ohh and now he is on this "i want" kick everything is "i want" or "i don't want". every other weekend he goes to his fathers and when he comes home his manners are completely out the window.. no please or thank you or anything nice he is jsut mean and everythign thing is his way and thats the way he wanted it .. i have taken all kinds of things away from him i have tried to just sit and talk to him. nothing works i tried a positive reinforcments like a dollar each week when he does what he is supposed to or when he doesnt act up in the evenings when we get home.. and nothing workss.. i feel like the only time he listens in when i yell.. and im losing my voice.. i dont know what to do ..

Holly - posted on 05/28/2009

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i have a 4 year old boy and a 8 week old baby and even though i devide my time between them my sons attitude stinks i think its just a phase to see how far they can push mom and dad i dont think it really has anything to do with attention i think you need to stand firm if she thinks she can get away with it now it will only worsen

Vikkie - posted on 05/28/2009

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Sorry to say in my experience it dont get any better. My daughter is now 9 and i am having terrible trouble with her attitude to everything from getting washed and dressed to talking to her teachers at school.

Kylie - posted on 05/27/2009

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Its defiantly an age thing, my daughter went through this a few months ago when she turned 4, it was a stage of using her excellent communication skills to assert herself and pushing her dad and I to the limit so see what she could get away with. Be consistent and fair, keep routines and encourage her when she behaves well. I think at this age its good for them to go to a kindy or play group to interact with children their own age because they learn a lot of skills that prepare them for school and its a great outlet for their energy and imagination. having three children under 5 must certainly be a challenge! hats off to you:)

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2009

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Quoting whitney:

Silly as this sounds... maybe she needs some time with just you! It could be her acting out just for the attention, Even though I don't believe in rewarding bad behavior. Mommy time can help take your child's edge off.


I have a 2 year old son and a 4 mnth old girl as well...and she does get the majority of my time...im a SAHM and very hands on with the kids and keep them entertained with activities etc.But maybe ill start a special thing for just her and me.

Whitney - posted on 05/27/2009

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Silly as this sounds... maybe she needs some time with just you! It could be her acting out just for the attention, Even though I don't believe in rewarding bad behavior. Mommy time can help take your child's edge off.

Melissa - posted on 05/27/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

Attitude Problems

My 4 year old daughter, has an attitude problem lately. She is a show off normally but also uses her manners and is usually a sweet girl. She gets consistent time-outs when really direspectful, and i even have the reward chart going for good behaviour but it seems she gets a rise out of being disobedient. Suggestions anyone before it gets out of hand?? Hopefully just a phase!



My daughter will be four and lately became very trying. Will not do what I asked of her and is very disrespectful and wild at times. My mother-in-law told me that this was always a difficult time with her four children. I think maybe they are trying to find who they are and need to voice and show there opinions, realizing what they do will make a difference on what will happen. I simply suggest some alternatives when we clash heads and if she doesn't want to listen then I make sure she knows she cannot always get her way. I thnk that children this age are seeing how much they can get away with and if they can continue to be disrespectful and get what they want, so mommy stand your ground and be firm when needed.

Carly - posted on 05/27/2009

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I had this with my 4 year old girl for about 2 weeks after I went back to work affter #2. But thinking back it lasted 6 weeks when the new baby came home I was ready to pull my hair out. As odd as it sounds lots of positive attention. she could be seeking if you are overly busy with other things.

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