Baby fell off the bed......Am I a horrible mother or has this happened to others before?

Rosa - posted on 05/12/2010 ( 128 moms have responded )

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So yesterday after work me and my bbd went to work on our house which is almost finished and I didn't get home until 9 p.m. so I ate took a shower and took my 8 month old son with me to my room. I tried to put him in his crib since I was so tired I just wanted to sleep but he wouldn't stay so I put out all the pillows as a barrier and put him on the bed with me. I figured he'd play a bit and fall asleep (he usually does this) and I'd put him in the crib. But I feel asleep and I was awakened by a thud...I shot straight up in the bed and discovered him face down on the floor next to it. I almost didn't want to pick him up because I was afraid to look at his face in that split second I imagined I'd pick him up to see a mangled face. But no he had no bumps no nothing....luckily one of the pillows had broken his fall. Now I have my mother and bbd mostly telling me oh you should have know better.....now look my intention wasn't to fall asleep or leave him on the bed alone...hello I know better....it really was an accident.



So am I a horrible mother????......or is it just a thing that happens to everyone?

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Arielle - posted on 05/15/2010

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you are not a horrible mom, girl pls the baby was fine as you seen. my baby has fallen off the bed plenty of times and hit her head on the coffee table and everything. and there are plebty of more times they will fall and hit their heads so dont stress it

Rose - posted on 05/15/2010

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No your not a bad mother. When my daughter was about 5 months old i dropped her on her head on a cement floor covered in with thin carpet by accident and she was just fine. Babies are really resilient. You know i never quite understood why people criticize you for things like that when our biggest critic is our self...

Dahlia - posted on 05/15/2010

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No way, no how. Any mother who says that they never made any mistakes is lying to you. You never intended to leave your child where he could fall or hurt himself. Sometimes, people forget what it's like to be a mom and be tired and try to manage everything that comes along with a new baby. If he is not hurt, chalk it up to experience, give him kisses, and move on. Judgmental attitudes come from everywhere and can make you feel like you are a perpetual screw-up. If I've learned anything in the two years that my son has been with me, it is that no one knows everything, and most people know nothing about your child. Take a breath, and pat yourself on the back for what you excel in, because I'm sure it's more than you give yourself credit for :-)

Heather - posted on 05/12/2010

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I Praise you for making it to 8 months!!

My 20 lb cat pushed my 5 week old off my bed! He is now 13 months and totally normal. He fell onto a hard wood floor, and ofcourse his body fell onto the clothes and his head hit the floor with only a light carpet (no padding) it took 20 minutes to calm him and I felt horrible for a month!

His third sitter (had issues after going back to work with sitters) who had 2 children of her own had it happen to her too, he was in a phase where he wouldnt make a sound when he woke up form a nap, crawled to edge of her bed and down he went, fortunantly her floor had padding and thicker carpet then mine!

Just 2 days ago he was playing on my bed, and he is now an expert and getting off of furniture/couches/chairs BUT my bed is higher then those and he landed on him bum harder then anticipated, whined a second and went about his way.

Samantha - posted on 05/14/2010

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Haven't you ever heard the saying "babies bounce!"
Well, at least it's a saying in my family. Every last one of us had our babies fall off the bed at some point! They're normally just stunned, not hurt. Just keep an eye on them for a good while afterward (to watch for bruising and bumps) and that's about it!

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Charis - posted on 05/15/2010

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Not even close, babies are fast movers! dont get beside yourself slong as babies ok you should be too

Christina - posted on 05/15/2010

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When ur tired, ur tired. It does make u feel absolutely terrible when something like that happens. If pepl r telling u u should know better, stress to them how absolutely tired u were. They should understand that accidents happen. Tell them u need help sometimes cuz ur not superwoman. We try to do everything but we still need help. Ur baby is fine, don't blame yourself, and tell those who r blaming u to shut and realize that it was an accident. They need to get over it so u can get over it n u can all enjoy all the other things ur baby is doing.

Wilberte - posted on 05/15/2010

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IT HAPPENS. UR A GOOD MOM CONSIDERING U FELT SO HORRIBLE ABOUT IT. IT PROBABLY BOTHERED U THAN IT DID THE BABY. AFTER A MINUTE OR TWO OF CRYING AND UR STILL LOOKING AT THEM TO SEE IF THEY WILL FALL FOR TO PIECES ARE NOT, THEY GIVE U THE DUMBEST LOOK. LIKE MOM! I'M SO OVER U. LET ME REST. LOL. ITS A LESSON. YOU'LL HAVE MORE OF THOSE MOMENTS.

Jennifer - posted on 05/15/2010

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Don't listen to other ppl telling you are a bad mother for ACCIDENTALLY letting your child fall, I have 16 month old and lord knows how many times she has fallen due to her determinedly to be independent and climb and explore everything with height. Her first fall was at 6 months head first off the bed. It happens. Kids and babies are alot more resilient than you think. Don't worry your baby is going to have many more falls and bumps to come. Don't worry this will not make you a bad mom, unless you purposely let your child fall.

Jessica - posted on 05/15/2010

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No you are not a horrible mother. i think it has happened to all of us in one way or another. I had a time when my daughter was 3 monthes old and I had a shoulder problem. I was rocking her to sleep when my arms gave out and down she went. Like your pillow my dog broke the fall but I still felt horrible. All she had was a red spot and laughed more then anything.

Vixi - posted on 05/15/2010

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omg why are people so quick to make u feel bad?! you cant wrap them up in cotton wool and things like this are going to happen as he grows up!!!

No you are not a horrid mother at all! It happens to everyone and although we feel guilty, it is one of those things!!! ignore your mother!! chin up x

Jessica - posted on 05/15/2010

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awwwww honey there is nothing to be ashamed of! we are only human, we make mistakes. as much as we're supposed to, we cant watch our monsters every second. thats life. my lil boy just had a fall himself off the bed, and unfortunately there were no pillows breaking his fall, only a Zincofax container which he landed on...he got a black eye and a slight bruise on his cheek, and we were upset of course, but it happened, and it probably will again. they're kids, they're meant to bounce back from these things....if it were more serious, like a broken bone or head split open, then that would be a different story...just relax and dont take what they say to heart...if it really bothers you, just tell them it was an accident, you obviously didnt intentionally let your baby fall off and you appreciate the concern, but the criticism isnt neccessary. hopefully they get the point! :)

Betty - posted on 05/15/2010

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This is making me feel better as well, my son hit his head so many times honestly it made me worry about brain injury and such, but his almost 4 years old now and his perfectly fine. Thank goodness, I was so sacared and thought I was the worest mother in the world.

Nicole - posted on 05/15/2010

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its happened to me to my little boy was layin in bed with me and he fell off and didn't get any bumps or nothing the only reason he was cryin was cuz it scared him but he was just fine.....and babys are alot tuffer than most people think

Kimberly - posted on 05/15/2010

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Youre not a horrible mother. My daughter fell off the bed so many times it aint even funny and before I lowered her crib she actually flipped out of it and fell on the floor. She was ok. No bumps or bruises. Accidents happen and we as mothers just have to be prepared for it.

Yolanda - posted on 05/15/2010

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Sweatheart...don't be hard on yourself. As many of the moms have said, "It happens to us all". I remember when my son fell...I was devasted. At least you were in the room with him. I had propped him up, barricaded him and left for a split second to get his bottle and he was at the rolling/crawling stage. So when he got his eye on something he reached for it and hit the floor. :-(( Luckily my husband heard him because he was in the room next to the bedroom because when I came back to the room my husband told me that he had fallen...I didn't even hear it so you can imagine how crappy I felt. Plus, it knocked the breath out of him for a minute.

As mothers we don't want anything to happen to our little ones but none of us are perfect. Just know that it's a lesson learned and Thank God that he was safe and sound. Hang in there and hold you head up!

Amy - posted on 05/15/2010

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NO your not a bad monther!! My son pulled up on his crib and fell out at 3 months old. Then again 1 day before his 1st and second birthday. Hit his head on the tv and of course off the couch. My son is accident prone and so is his father.

Amy - posted on 05/15/2010

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Absolutly not.. My first child has fallen off of things more times than I know.. she is fearless and will try anything.. what I have learned is the arent breakable they will survive.. If your doing the best you can than no one could ask for more.. :)

Joanna - posted on 05/15/2010

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I would not call you a horrible mother! One time when my first daughter was 1 month she was laying on the couch. One side of the couch was open, being it was part of a sectional. She shoved her feet against the middle of the pillow and went head over feet and landed on her belly on a stuffed animal. Thank goodness the stuffed animal was there! My hubby and I were right there, and couldn't get to her fast enough. She didn't cry at all, but it was still scary. You are not a bad mom! Wait until your baby gets older! So many different things will happen, and never think they're your fault, because kids will be kids, and sometimes they get hurt, as long as you would never leave your baby screaming on the floor or not tend to his booboos, you're doing the best you can hun.

Ramona - posted on 05/15/2010

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No! Babies bounce! They fall all the time...a little bump evey now and then is not going to hurt them. You are not a horrible mom at all!

Tracy - posted on 05/15/2010

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no it happens just make sure he's ok i have 4 kids and i think atleast 2 of mine have done that and i just rubbed then to see if they have any hurt spots and just keep and eye on them to make sure you dont see any changes in mood, playing or eating if you do then take then to the hosbital to get checked out..but mostly when they fall they dont hurt themselves it just scares them so they scream..:))

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im luckly enuf dat my 7mth old hasnt had a fall YET. bu i did leave em on d floor one time and e rolled over and bashed es head of d edge of d fireplace nd left a nasty bump nd bruise on es lil head. i felt so quilty for not paddin d area, bu we wil always feel quilty for al d tings dats gona happen 2 our kids. dats mother hood for ya.

Cara - posted on 05/15/2010

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u sre not a horrable mother. this happened to me when my daughter was 8 months old. i had her on the bed and i was making a bottle right under her and she fell off. i felt horrable because i was right there.

Hannah - posted on 05/15/2010

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u r not a horrible nother my son has fallen of the couch and bed so dont worry

Kristine - posted on 05/15/2010

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its ok trust me it happens. When my son was 6 months old my husband had him in bed with him and he fell off the bed and hit his head on a metal stand that was in the room and he had a big long bruise on his head it was horrible but it happens and he didnt even cry much. hes 2 now and he is just fine.

Breanna - posted on 05/14/2010

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oooo i felt the same way about a week ago. my 41/2 month old were playing on the couch and i was watching tv i set her up in her boppy as usual and laid back, but this was really early in the morning and i fell asleep. i woke to the same sound. wehn i looked down she was on her butt lucky thing then she fell back. i just had to shake it off so she wouldnt start screeming she was just a little scared about suddenly being on the floor but was just fine. later when i told her dad about it he started to scream at me about how im supposed to pay attention to her and im terrible. but i know that it happens all the time and she was just fine. i just make it a point that if its really early we just play on the floor with a blanket lol. you are ok it happens, thats why they are so squshy, so they can bounce bak to normal, from small accidents that is

Christina - posted on 05/14/2010

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no it happens and my husband told me the same thing i guess u just have to b a mom to understand u r not a horrible mother trust me

CC - posted on 05/14/2010

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That happens. You're not a horrible mother. I have a horrible mother story and I can't figure out why I did this. My daughter was a premie, maybe 1 month old..maybe.. and the ONE night she slept with me and my husband (I was coming down from a lot of drugs from turning eclamptic 8 months pregnant). I woke up to feed her 3 hours later and I couldn't find her. I could hear her not crying but just making noise and I was freaking out! Finally we found her. Turns out in my sleep I had put her underneath our bed. Perfectly on her back, no marks, bruises nothing! I didn't understand how I could do that. Now my mom tells me I used to sleep walk when I was younger so I guess that makes a little more sense but she hasn't slept with us again to this day.
Now I am a horrible mother!!!

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2010

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Theres no way i hell ur a bad mother, it happens to all of us. IF anything ur a good mother far worrying about ur bubba. my little girl was just startin to roll and i had her next to me on the couch and it only took 2 secs of me lookin away and she rolled straight off the couch, i thought i was a bad mom till i heard most bubs fall once or twice..... don't worry chick im sure ur a really good mum.

Carrie - posted on 05/14/2010

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Accidents do happen. My daughter fell off the couch when she was a baby and she is now 9 years old and she is fine. I would just take him to the Dr. just to be sure there isn't anything wrong inside that you can't see, that is what I did after I called the Dr. on the phone just as a precaution. Everything is a life lesson too. Don't feel bad though these things do happen.

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2010

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my 7 mo old hasnt had any big falls yet. only when he was learning to sit of and he tumbled back and bumped his head, i think sometimes he was just more startled than hurt. however i did slip and fall while holding him when he was about 6 months. he cried for about 5 minutes but only because he was so startled, 10 minutes later he was in the bath playing and happy again. it happens. its all part of growing up and learning about the world!! :)

Kelli - posted on 05/14/2010

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No not a horrible mother. It could've happened to anyone, but maybe next time ur really that tired just leave him in his crib with some toys, he'll fall asleep and be perfectly safe even if you crash before he does. Don't feel guilty about it, lesson learned, everyone is fine- lets just move on with it.

Vanessa - posted on 05/14/2010

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My 6 month old feel off the couch too just a couple of days ago. I felt like a horrible mother as well, but my husband keeps saying your not a horrible mother and its okay. They will fall a lot more than just once.

Kimberly - posted on 05/14/2010

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Mine fell from our 9-foot belcony...trust me, I know the feeling! We know we love our children, and would jump in front of a bus for them. These things happen-we aren't perfect---thank God they have their own little angels :)

Natasha - posted on 05/14/2010

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when my oldest was about 3 months old, i put her on the couch like snuggled into the cushions thinking she would be fine while i cleaned the livingroom.. she fell off...i freaked out and she didnt even cry. You are not a horrible mother. Its just part of life. :)

Abby - posted on 05/14/2010

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my son fell off the bed once, he slept with us until he was about 9 months old and i put him to sleep then went downstairs to do some dishes. We heard a loud thud then terrified screaming and my husband got up the steps in 2 strides. you are not a terrible mother-- kids hurt themselves all the time.

Samantha - posted on 05/14/2010

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Accidents are going to happen. My daught is 15 months old....she is a very hyper baby she is constantly tripping over things when she is walking because she has not quite figured out how to step over or around things yet. About a month Peyton was on my bed with me..my bed sits on the floor with only the box spring and the matress...plus she knows how to get off the bed..but the other she started to throw a temper tantrum and she was right on the edge and she threw herself off the bed...she was fine...but I was still worried and felt horrible. Peyton also rolled off our couch and smacked her head on our coffee table..when she was 7 months old....needless to say I felt the same way you are...but accidents do happen and babies are quite resilient. YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER! :]

Jessie - posted on 05/14/2010

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no you are a normal mom my oldest not only fell off the bed but out of his high chair as well, oh and not to mention the number of falls when he got older....my 7 m/o recently fell off the couch (we didn't know he was rolling both ways yet) and just the other day he did one of those slow motion lean back/fall backs and bumped his head on the dvd case and had a horrible knot on his head but was fine within a few hours... it happens to EVERYONE and more then likely it happened to your mom as well, so don't feel too bad about it

Tammylee - posted on 05/14/2010

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It hasnt happened to me, but NO WAY are you a terrible mother. Accidents happen, and being so tired is absolute torture! Dont listen to people that are being negative or nasty and telling you that you 'should have known better'....Like I said, accidents happen, and ur bubba is fine, thats all that matters!

Candice - posted on 05/14/2010

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It happens! My little one fell once but it was into a laundry basket of towels :)

Jennifer - posted on 05/14/2010

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All these responses have helped me a ton, wow...I have been giving myself such a hard time about my daughter falling off bed before. I felt so guilty and upset. I couldn't handle the fact, well maybe I could have done something....she recovered much quicker than I did. I'm glad someone started a post like this. It really helped me feel better.

Tanika - posted on 05/14/2010

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I have two horrible stories. When my daughter was 4 weeks old I feel asleep with her in my chair. I suddenly woke up and she wasnt in my arms but on the floor sleeping on a soft pillow. I freaked out! I dont know If I dropped her our layed her down. Then she rolled off an air matress at 4 months. I cried harder than her.

Carol - posted on 05/14/2010

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I totally believe that God and his angels pay special attention to the protection of babies..In my first month of caring for my baby, one night I fell asleep with her in my arms while trying to rock her to sleep..She was fine, but I cried because I thought i was not being responsible enough..Since that experince I have grown to realise that I was not the first and accidents happen to us all ..I think thats why it important to ask God for there protection daily..

Shannon - posted on 05/14/2010

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I also wanted to add my 2 cents :D but it's fine....My son has fallen off the bed a few times when he was younger.....I felt so bad about it (my first and only child mind you) I ran him to the emergency room. Alot a bit over protective but you can never be too sure. And plus you never know whos stupid enough to report you for abuse....but anywho's your so not a terrible mother...It's even gonna happen a few more times sad to say but you'll make it through this. For me it was kinda funny to hear the doctor say If i keep going like this my son will be in for the littlest thing. I'm getting better I swear lol

Charquita - posted on 05/14/2010

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No, you are not a bad mom my son fell behind the bed at about three months old. We had to move the mattress to get him out. Things happen especially when they are so little and learning to do stuff on their own and they can not say, "Hey Mom Watch This", so that you can grab them.

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My daughter rolled off our lounger plenty of time before she was 8 months old ( she was crawling at 4 and walking at 7) and my son had had a skull fracture and split his cheek and just above his eyebrow open already and he isnt even 2 yet! You will no doubtedly feel bad but you shouldnt as we can't watch our children 24/7 we do the best we can and they have to learn somehow!

Lisa - posted on 05/14/2010

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ur not a horrible mother it was an accident, prehaps ur mother and bbd should offer to help with child care a bit more often so that u have time to urself and time to work on the house without having to think about looking after your son surely your mother and bbd can see ur working hard at work then hard at being a mother and then ur working hard in the house prehaps its them who should know better and see that sometimes helping u instead of critisising u would be more productive. dont beat yourself up about it, its a lesson learned.

Tanya - posted on 05/14/2010

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See look at all us not perfect moms I wouln't have it any other way, we keep life interesting..



after I posted my response to this yesterday I had to go to my mom's to help her so I though it only a perfect moment to ask my mom if me my brother or sister has fallen when we were babies and if she remembered it all these years later and she had some interesting stories...lol It seems fit to share them:



When my older brother was born (1980) carseats were not used they used a set thing (my mom said kinda like a bouncer) to keep babies in in the cars and my mom said she had my brother in the front seat (it was bench seat) she was leaving Kmart and in the parking lot still and pressed on the breaks and it must have been too hard she says cause the seat with my brother in it fell to the floor he was a few months old not more then five months.. Wow would have never known..

With me she say that I was on the seat out side I was bout a month at the time and she says my brother climed up and I got pushed off onto the concret porch

And my little sister my dad didn't put the new swing thing that they didn't have for us other kids together right I guess and my mom put her in it she was about a week to two weeks old and the swing part fell and didn't just fall it tipped to the side and my sister was hanging out kind of my mom was laughing now about these but she says it wasn't funny at the time...



She told me some other stories bout my brother falling into a catus at the zoo because they wanted a picture of him by the monkeys and they sat him on a wall he was 1.. I also fell down the steps out our frount door (only five steps) when I was about 1 1/2 .. And my sister flipped out of the crib because my mom left the rail down.. I suggest everyone have this converstation with there parents it was pretty funny for my mom to relive these moments..

Krystyna - posted on 05/14/2010

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Lol My first fell off the bed at around 7-8 mos, she was already crawling and I was standing right in front of her, but turned around for 2 seconds and THUD! My youngest just had her first fall, off the bed at 9mos. Yes I knew better, but she rolled RIGHT OVER the pillows I put next to her! Now, when I need to potty or change clothes or something, I just let her roll around on the floor in my bedroom... They will always get hurt, there is no stopping it... all we can do is try to make it so they don't get hurt too much lol

Soleil - posted on 05/14/2010

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my first baby taught us that, yes. a 6 week old baby can roll over... and roll right off the bed. That same boy climbed out of his high chair when he was 6 months old and went splat onto the floor. These things happen, it is impossible to watch the baby 100% of the time. Of course we all know better. We all know not to sleep with the baby in the bed, or walk out of the room when they are in the high chair, but sleep deprivation does strange things to a person. Don't worry about it, just learn and move on. If he's fine, then no damage done.... he wont remember!!

Beki - posted on 05/14/2010

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Dunt worry hun, this has happened 2 me b4, just b v.careful next time, I felt awful 2, but bcus ur worried shows ur a gud mum x

Kyisha - posted on 05/14/2010

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My first child fell off the bed often because I had no clue (17 year old mom) now with 7 kids (2 are my brothers and I have custody) I think we just get comfortable with them being still and forget they can move themselves right off where we put them. You are a human and we all do it say I'll just grab the pacifier real quick she'll be fine or I'll go change my shirt it'll only take a second. I think it's better to question your parenting skills than think your the best parent out there. Good luck to you and your baby. Maybe we should all buy our babies helmets lol

Darcy - posted on 05/14/2010

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I would say that you are not horrible mother.The same thing happened to me the only difference is that i was changing my babies diaper and i turned my head for one second and he was on the floor. We are mothers but were not perfect and we make mistakes. You are not a horrible mother, you are a great one because you care.

Nikkole - posted on 05/14/2010

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your not a bad mom it happens to every one. My little girl is 7 month old and a few weeks ago she was taking a nap in the chair so i layed down on the floor with my blaket and pillow just to watch some tv. she woke up and smile at me i turn my head for 2 sec and she fell out of the chair. she didnt cry untill i picked her up. I told my grandma what happen and she told me that her grandma told her that your baby needs to fall on their head 3 times and they will be smart! You go t to love old wise tales lol

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