baby has stopped growing

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

645

33

14

My daughter is 9 months old and weighs just 14 pounds! she was born healthy at nearly 8 pounds and has always been a big eater often consuming 50 ounces of formula plus solid food.
She is on enfacare which is a high calorie formula and we have been concentrating it as recommended by her dietitian .
My daughter has had health concerns that doctors cant seem to pinpoint, some weeks she eats very well and other weeks all she wants to do is sleep and wont touch anything. At one point we were hospitalized for dehydration and she had lost nearly a pound in just a few days.
she is not on the charts for weight and I am scared if this keeps up she will eventually die. she has severe diarrhea 2-3 times a day and is still unable to sit unassisted.
We have been to a few doctors who have tested her for everything under the sun and have come up with no answers. this is very frustrating for us as we don't know what to do. we don't know how to help her.
She is such a happy content baby and it hurts me to see her not able to do and enjoy the things other babies can.
Has anyone else had an experience like this? I would love to hear some story's similar to mine and welcome any suggestions that anyone may have.
Lately we feel so lost and like we are the only ones with this problem. it feels like the doctors are not making her a priority and we just need some answers.

8 Comments

View replies by

Amanda - posted on 04/10/2009

645

33

14

Quoting Katie:

I would try attachment parenting (Dr. Sears method) which has been proven to help with failure to thrive infants.

Try babywearing in a sling as much of the day as you can (I know 14 lbs is heavy when carrying it around all day) because when you wear babies they don't need to spend as much energy moving around and they don't cry as much, so they grow faster and better. If you work then do it before and after and maybe show caregivers how to do it, too.http://www.naturalchild.org/articles/sle...

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Maybe you could try giving her kefir since she's old enough for dairy products. It is like yogurt, but more liquid, and it has more probiotics in it to help their digestive system mature (it can help diarrhea, too). You can get it at any whole foods store and some grocery stores have it in their dairy section because it is stored in the refrigerator (some of them have it in their organic section).


Actually I am very close to my child and she is securly attached, she is not the anxious kind. The problem is not that she isnt taking in the calories, she is. the problem is that she has a medical condition that does not allow her body to use the calories properly (however the doctors have been unable to find what it is) . My daughter is also a very independandt child, we have tried the sling and front carier and she hates them. we look a latin dance class and she is ok in the sling for that hour but any other time she hates it because it restricks her movement.



As far as family bed, our family does not suport this. it is a compleatly diferent debate but as far as I can see the only benifit of family bed is for ease of breast feeding and since I do not breast feed we would not benifit from it. plus there is the risk of suffication and straglation and even if there is a risk of babies dying in there own crib the risk is higher for babies dying in a bed that was not designed for them.



I will check out that keifer stuff though and see if this helps with the BM'S



thanks

Libby - posted on 04/10/2009

937

19

122

Then find a doctor who will make her a priority.  If you feel like she's not getting the attention she needs then you are probably right, she's not.  I felt sort of the same way from my maternal fetal specialist.  I only had one appointment with him before I lost my baby, and then he ran some tests on me afterward and it took over 2 weeks for me to get my results (that he already had b/c the nurse told me so).  So, I called my regular OB who referred me to him and told him how I felt.  I always get excellent care from that doctor and by the next day I had my answers and he even asked me to come in so we could discuss them.  We all deserve a certain kind of care!!  Your helplessly baby deserves much much more!

Katie - posted on 04/10/2009

173

15

10

Oh, as far as cosleeping goes, you can get a bedrail at Babies R Us or Target for $30. Put her between you and the rail, because dads aren't typically as aware of their baby as moms are. Keep the blankets away from her, too.

Katie - posted on 04/10/2009

173

15

10

I would try attachment parenting (Dr. Sears method) which has been proven to help with failure to thrive infants.

Try babywearing in a sling as much of the day as you can (I know 14 lbs is heavy when carrying it around all day) because when you wear babies they don't need to spend as much energy moving around and they don't cry as much, so they grow faster and better. If you work then do it before and after and maybe show caregivers how to do it, too.http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t051100... (at the bottom they discuss "failure to thrive")

Cosleeping also promotes growth. They sleep better and grow better when they are next to mom, so you may want to try it for a few months.http://www.naturalchild.org/articles/sle...

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Maybe you could try giving her kefir since she's old enough for dairy products. It is like yogurt, but more liquid, and it has more probiotics in it to help their digestive system mature (it can help diarrhea, too). You can get it at any whole foods store and some grocery stores have it in their dairy section because it is stored in the refrigerator (some of them have it in their organic section).

Suzanne - posted on 04/09/2009

14

8

1

My daughter is almost six and weighs 40 pounds, she has always been tiny and has always had weird eating habits. Some weeks she eats and drinks like crazy, and others she doesn't eat much at all.  I can understand how worriesome it can be, and how frustrating it is when you feel as though the doctors aren't really listening.  Fortunately my daughter is very healthy active little girl, and I do hope for you that you have the same outcome.  I do think that continually making it known to the doctor that you are worried about her weight is a good idea, and maybe even second opinions or a trip to the emergency room would be helpful.  The more opinions the better.  Sorry you have to go through this

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2009

203

26

10

Hopefully this all gest figured out. My daughter was born 6 weeks early & only weighs about 16.5 pounds at 10.5 months. Some babies have a hard time growing. Have they tested her for high metabolism? This may be the cause of her lack of weight gain. I know you can't force kids to eat. It's sad that the doctors aren't taking her as a priority because she obviously has a serious medical problem that needs to be addressed. With the diarrhea, it could be her formula. I know that some formulas do cause that. You can try switching to another high calorie formula (with the doctor's permission) and see if that helps. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I hope that the doctors get it through their head that this little girl needs help. You can also try taking her to another doctor to get a second opinion and if that doesn't work, keep going until you can find a doctor that can help you. Speak out & make your opinion known. Good luck.

Enisa - posted on 04/09/2009

1

9

0

I know thi ssounds bad because its still early for he rbut try giving her normal milk that we drink and chocolate it should stop the diarrhea because when I left my daughter for my sister to watch she gave a little not knowing she couldnt have that and she couldnt go to the bathroom for a couple of days. So give it a try it cant hurt! I hope that works for you.



 

Victoria - posted on 04/09/2009

1

8

1

I have a daughter who was born healthy to but she is ten months old and only weighs 15 lbs. The doctors said there is nothing wrong with her but she still has a hard time eating regular food and looses her balance often. My son was the same way when he was a baby and now he is 6 years old and only weighs 44 lbs so i kinda know what you are going through and it can be very frustrating because the doctors cant find out whats wrong with your baby.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms