Baby No.2

Katrina - posted on 07/24/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




What age difference is their between baby no. 1 and baby no.2...! Is it good to havw them close or to wait a few years? I am hoping to have another (born) when my little boy just turns 2???


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Stacey - posted on 07/24/2009




I am pregnant with number 2 and my son will be 2 when it's born. I personally wanted to wait. They are too young to fully understand bout the new baby. I'm afraid my son will be jealous since he is spoiled and it's just been me and him since pretty much day 1. (I'm a SAHM) Lots of moms can do it. I'll do fine withit too but it's gonna be hard. I think 3-4 years is a good space. They can talk more and understand more when you tell them to be easy with the baby. Dunno how I'm gonna get my son to play nice. Good luck to you and good job for asking questions. Asking women who've already been in that situation is very smart and shows you're smart as well.

Angela - posted on 07/24/2009




All three of my children 2 to three years apart. My husband and i are thinking about number 4 and lets just say there will be seven year between number four and my youngest. Are we crazy?

Carrie - posted on 07/24/2009




I just found out we're pregnant and expecting at the beginning of April. We have an 11 1/2 month old who will be 19 1/2 months when the new baby is born. My husband and I are planning on having just 2 kids, and both agreed that having them close was right for us. We didn't want to get one child in school and then start all over again with a newborn. We're very excited that our kids will be close and hope they will be great friends and playmates and get to go through life together! The only thing I worry about is having to take some of the attention away from our current son. We're not even telling anybody about the new baby until after our son's birthday (August 15th) so all of the attention will be only on him!

Kylie - posted on 07/24/2009




Our daughter was 3 yrs 9 months when our son was born. I think its a great age gap as my eldest is out of night time nappies, sleeps through and goes to kindy two days a week so i get that one on one time with my baby boy. She is a great big sister and is very proud of him, it's lovely. I'm glad i got to spend those first 3 years giving all my attention and love to her, shes a very content, confident little girl and has not show any jealously towards her brother.

Cindi - posted on 07/24/2009




If we broaden the question to "when is the right time to have a child?" I think we all know the answer is "always" and "never." There will always be enough love in the heart of a mother who wants another child no matter when the child is born. There will never be enough time, money, space etc in the thought processes that occur up until a decision to have a baby is made. If you and your partner are willing to raise another human being in this world then it is always the right time.

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I had my daughter when my son was 22 months old. I always liked the idea of having kids within 2 years of each other. I think it's a really personal decision, though. For me, I knew that if I waited any longer (like, until my son was potty-trained, more independent, etc.) I wouldn't feel like going through all of that again! So, I came to the realization that my life would have a sense of "controlled chaos" for a while. But, when I talk to my mom about it (my sis and I are almost 5 years apart), she said she liked the idea of a larger age gap because my sister was already in school when I was born, so she had her friends and school to help her maintain a sense of "normalcy" (sp?) when a new baby came home. There are pros and cons to both's really about what you prefer.

Liana - posted on 07/24/2009




I have a 5yr old a 4 year old and a 3 month old, it's hard work having 2 close together but they have each other to play with however my 2 older ones help with the baby which makes my life easier and they are learning how to put someone else first. There is no right or wrong answers there are good reasons and bad whichever way you go. Just do what you feel is best for you and your family :)

Emma - posted on 07/24/2009




hi its better to have them close i fink because they can play wif each other the longer u leave it they cant really play wif each other im speakinfg from exsperience even low im only 21 got3 yr 2 yr old in 2 weeks and 9 mth old they are so lovely and close bless them

Gwendolyn - posted on 07/24/2009




Hi im currently 30weeks preg with baby number 2.... My son will be aprox 22mths old when our next bub comes :) Good luck

Cindy - posted on 07/24/2009




Well I am currenly pregnant with Number 2. My son is going to be 2 in September and I am giving birth in November. So my opinion 2 or 3 years apart is good. They are more or less the same age. And they will be close. They will protect each other! :)

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