Baby's close in age

Christy - posted on 06/09/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a 17month old and am due in 2weeks with my 2nd child. I am nervous about how well I will be able to deal with a newborn and a toddler. I am worried that my 17mo old will be jealous and possibly start throwing tantrums or feel left out. I dont work so I am always with her. She is used to having me all to her self and used to having daddy too..When not working. How challenging is it to deal with a newborn and toddler at the same time? Luckily I have patients and think I will be okay to deal with whatever happens...I guess I am just wondering what to expect. Thanks for any help!!

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Natasha - posted on 06/09/2009

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My two boys are about 16 months apart. When I was pregnant i worried so much about how i was going to do it. But its not a bad as you think. Donavin my oldest was very curious and was a little rough with him but hes better now. I thought he would get jealous but he doesn't really. Once and a while he does but you'll learn to hold them both at the same time. And pick one up while still holding the other. Its tricky but I got the hang of it pretty quick. Try playing with your older one and have the baby having tummy time beside yous. That works great for me then Donavin can play with his brother and I'm there to get him to be gentle. I worried a lot for nothing i discovered. One tip is to keep every thing ready and close by. I always have a bottle ready. I keep the diapers and wipes under the edge of the couch and change diapers on the living room floor. That way I dont loose sight of them.

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Christy - posted on 06/09/2009

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Thanks Brittney I will probably have a lot to vent about. lol I love my sleep very much and dont know what I will do with out it. I am convinced that this baby will be the complete opposite. Up every hour all through the night. lol Oh well if other woman can do it than I should be able to as well. lol At least I hope!!

Natasha's advice will really help alot too. I used the changing table for everything with my daughter but I will have to learn to change diapers and clothes where ever I am at. Keeping the diapers and wipes near by is a great idea.

You both have been a ton of help. I dont feel so scared now that I know more of what to expect.

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Quoting Brittney:

My kids are 17 months and a week apart, so very close to the age gap you'll have. I wondered the same thing when i was having my second, how am I going to be able to jungle the both of them. It does work out, and your daughter will get use to the idea of sharing mommy and daddy. It's challenging b/c at 17 months they are still babies themselves which makes you feel guilty b/c you always have the baby to contend to. I would say to expect the first year to be challenging, after that it becomes easier, and your kids will be great playmates. Expect them to want you at the same time, expect them to cry at the same time, expect to change alot of diapers, expect to be in your pj's all day long....lol. This is just from my experience, it was just the transition from one to two children under a year and a half. And maybe your daughter will surprise you and be really cool with the idea of a sibling, all kids are different. Lets just say having them that close together just keeps you on your toes....lol. If you have patients I think you'll do just fine, its fun and everyday is a new adventure. One thing I think is a good idea is to have your daughter on a great bed time rountine. My daughter was on a great rountine of going to bed at 8 and getting up at 8, and I think that helped me alot b/c I wasn't dealing with two kids crying in the middle of the night or what have you. Plus you'll be tired with being up with a newborn. My babies never slept through the night, so I need every minute of sleep I could get. Maybe your one of the lucky ones who's newborn sleeps through the night as soon as they get home from the hospital...lol.

I totally know where your coming from though. I dropped my daughter off the night before my scheduled c-section at my parents, and I just balled and balled, b/c she wasn't goin to be the baby anymore. I felt like I was jipping (sp?) her out of being a baby, and that she would hate me for doing this to her.....lol. I am telling you the emotions I felt that night were aweful, but once I had my son, those emotions went away and It was like we'd been a family of four, for years.....lol. Good luck, you'll do great!!!!





Thats what I was afraid of. Them wanting me at the same time. Ur right...Im sure I can do it..Ill be ok.   I was very luck with my daughter because she slept through the night from the day she was born. She would sleep 8 to 10 hrs every night. I am nervous that this baby will be the complete opposite. I dont know what its like to lose sleep. My daughter is on a great sleeping schedule so UR definately right...I didnt think of that before but that will be very helpful.  Thanks for the help!!



 



 



 



LIke the other lady mentioned, you learn to hold them both at the same time...lol, b/c you have no other choice.  And having everything at arms reach is good lke she said too. I still to this day have diapers in a basket by the couch, and still change my son on the floor....lol. I breastfed, so his food was always ready for him, which I think made it easier on me. WOW she slept from day one, I hate mothers like you....j/k....lol. Yeah they say if you have good one, your bound for a bad one.....lol. My daughter was colic and was horrible, only slept an hour at a time until she was 8 months old.  My son was so much easier, even though he didn't sleep through the night until he was 10 months , but I breastfed so he basically slept with me. Don't worry I bet your second one will be as good as your first. Let us know how everything is going. Feel free to vent when your stressed, thats what were all here for :)





 

Christy - posted on 06/09/2009

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Quoting Brittney:

My kids are 17 months and a week apart, so very close to the age gap you'll have. I wondered the same thing when i was having my second, how am I going to be able to jungle the both of them. It does work out, and your daughter will get use to the idea of sharing mommy and daddy. It's challenging b/c at 17 months they are still babies themselves which makes you feel guilty b/c you always have the baby to contend to. I would say to expect the first year to be challenging, after that it becomes easier, and your kids will be great playmates. Expect them to want you at the same time, expect them to cry at the same time, expect to change alot of diapers, expect to be in your pj's all day long....lol. This is just from my experience, it was just the transition from one to two children under a year and a half. And maybe your daughter will surprise you and be really cool with the idea of a sibling, all kids are different. Lets just say having them that close together just keeps you on your toes....lol. If you have patients I think you'll do just fine, its fun and everyday is a new adventure. One thing I think is a good idea is to have your daughter on a great bed time rountine. My daughter was on a great rountine of going to bed at 8 and getting up at 8, and I think that helped me alot b/c I wasn't dealing with two kids crying in the middle of the night or what have you. Plus you'll be tired with being up with a newborn. My babies never slept through the night, so I need every minute of sleep I could get. Maybe your one of the lucky ones who's newborn sleeps through the night as soon as they get home from the hospital...lol.

I totally know where your coming from though. I dropped my daughter off the night before my scheduled c-section at my parents, and I just balled and balled, b/c she wasn't goin to be the baby anymore. I felt like I was jipping (sp?) her out of being a baby, and that she would hate me for doing this to her.....lol. I am telling you the emotions I felt that night were aweful, but once I had my son, those emotions went away and It was like we'd been a family of four, for years.....lol. Good luck, you'll do great!!!!


Thats what I was afraid of. Them wanting me at the same time. Ur right...Im sure I can do it..Ill be ok.   I was very luck with my daughter because she slept through the night from the day she was born. She would sleep 8 to 10 hrs every night. I am nervous that this baby will be the complete opposite. I dont know what its like to lose sleep. My daughter is on a great sleeping schedule so UR definately right...I didnt think of that before but that will be very helpful.  Thanks for the help!!

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My kids are 17 months and a week apart, so very close to the age gap you'll have. I wondered the same thing when i was having my second, how am I going to be able to jungle the both of them. It does work out, and your daughter will get use to the idea of sharing mommy and daddy. It's challenging b/c at 17 months they are still babies themselves which makes you feel guilty b/c you always have the baby to contend to. I would say to expect the first year to be challenging, after that it becomes easier, and your kids will be great playmates. Expect them to want you at the same time, expect them to cry at the same time, expect to change alot of diapers, expect to be in your pj's all day long....lol. This is just from my experience, it was just the transition from one to two children under a year and a half. And maybe your daughter will surprise you and be really cool with the idea of a sibling, all kids are different. Lets just say having them that close together just keeps you on your toes....lol. If you have patients I think you'll do just fine, its fun and everyday is a new adventure. One thing I think is a good idea is to have your daughter on a great bed time rountine. My daughter was on a great rountine of going to bed at 8 and getting up at 8, and I think that helped me alot b/c I wasn't dealing with two kids crying in the middle of the night or what have you. Plus you'll be tired with being up with a newborn. My babies never slept through the night, so I need every minute of sleep I could get. Maybe your one of the lucky ones who's newborn sleeps through the night as soon as they get home from the hospital...lol.



I totally know where your coming from though. I dropped my daughter off the night before my scheduled c-section at my parents, and I just balled and balled, b/c she wasn't goin to be the baby anymore. I felt like I was jipping (sp?) her out of being a baby, and that she would hate me for doing this to her.....lol. I am telling you the emotions I felt that night were aweful, but once I had my son, those emotions went away and It was like we'd been a family of four, for years.....lol. Good luck, you'll do great!!!!

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